Answers are not as important as the Questions. Because question is the cause and answer is just an effect.....

Achievers/ Successful people Ask the Question -
"How do I complete this task in this given situation?"

and Losers ask the question -
"How is this situation responsible for my failure?"

or
"Why in this given situation I cannot complete this task?"

Art of Questioning is a very important art - nay essential art for the growth of any person.
DEVELOP IT.....

GOD says "Tu karta woh hai jo Tu chahta hai par hota woh hai jo MEIN chahta hoon

tu kar woh jo MEIN chahta hoo fir hoga wohi jo tu chahta hai"

"You do what you want to do but things happen MY way

Do what I want you to do and things will happen as per your wish"

Well, the answer as always is sadhan, sadhan and more sadhan.

Do full-body Reiki regularly
Do re-birth meditation regularly
Let Go Meditation
Be Aware. Whatever you do, say, feel - just be aware of it. Live in the moment. If you are playing – play. If you at work – Be at work. If you are angry – just BE. If you are bored – be it totally.
Don’t judge yourself.
Don’t analyse or comment on others and on the situation.
Don’t justify yourself or your acts.
Just be AWARE!

We have understood how we invoke painful situations, people or pain per se in your lives at physical levels. Just apply it to emotional, psychological and financial pains too!

Any doubts?

Let’s wind up on vikaras here. We have already discussed on pain, anger, laziness. Fear and jealousiness has been discussed in the earlier posts. Please go through them once again.

As these and related attitudes limit us as a person, they are called as vikaras. Each one of us is a Complete, Divine, Blissful, Peaceful soul who is LOVE too! But, these vikaras stop us from experiencing our real nature and expressing our real nature too! Hence, they are termed as vikaras or negativities.

So, if the desire is to experience Peace, Love and Completeness, there is no other way than dropping these limitations of our ego….

As you contemplate on these let me go to write next post.....

Whenever we say or wish in comparison to others, we are asking for trouble.
For eg:-
I want my husband like SRK. Wish would give me a husband who is a chain-smoker, insomniac, prone to accidents, workaholic, fidgety, dear to women and girls etc. And I crib and complain, why I got such a husband? Remember “ask and it shall be given” and it is always a package-deal. Instead say “I want my husband to be good-looking, romantic, expressive, understanding etc depending on which character of SRK’s role fascinates you.
Remember, NEVER EVER use “like x/y/SRK” etc while wishing for something in life.

The most common way of asking for wishes would be in comparison. Like “I should be richer than my brother-in-law.” Fine. He has Rs 5 lakhs credit card outstanding and I complain saying “why my wish is not fulfilled?” When it actually gets fulfilled. Say my earnings should be Rs 10,000 pm – NOT more than my brother-in-law. If I say “I should be happier than others relatives”. I’ll get divorced.
Wish fulfilled but complaint and pain remains.
So, we get what we ask, so let’s ask correctly from now onwards.

Sometimes, I may ask correctly yet wish may not be fulfilled especially if you doing Reiki. For e.g.: I want to become Prime Minister and I do Reiki regularly still it wouldn’t happen. Why? When a 5 year old with high fever cries for an ice-cream, does the parent buy one? No. Right! Why, is Rs 5 dearer than the child? Cant he afford Rs 5? The same parents buys 2 ice-creams when the child is back to normal when the child is back to normal. When a parent with limited intelligence can show love in denial, Reiki which knows me through all of my soul journey, doesn’t it’s love express it self in denial. When I get what I want it’s good. But, when I don’t get, it’s even better, because in that is Reiki’s Love and wish.
Reiki always believes in short-term pains and long-term gains.

So, the trick is to increase the worthiness to receive the object of year desire/love. How?........

Jealousness can trigger such of hormones that weaken our immune system. So, it’s better to be off it at all times.

Next, it comes with a Belief System that I received less than what I deserved and others got more than they deserve.
Basically this Belief System is flawed.
From Nature each one gets what they are worthy of! So, we are where we ought to be at that time!
Now what does that mean? “Will I always get what I deserve but not what I desire? Does that mean I am to face destiny what ever it is or whatever it gives me?

The answer is in two parts.
“I get what I deserve” means “As you sow, so you reap.”

You mean to say I asked for this pain in life, how silly?
Silly it is, but true too! With what intelligence did I ask for this pain? Good. I need not have asked for it directly but ask I did for it. Let me explain.
Whenever I say:
- “I don’t want to fall sick”
- “I don’t want fights in my life/house”
- “I don’t want to depend on my spouse’s earnings”
- “I don’t want to lose my job”
- “I don’t want to be disliked” etc.

Nature, as already explained, doesn’t understand the term “don’t”. So, the word is deleted and the sentence or wish is interpreted as:
- “I want to fall sick”
- “I want fights in my life/house”
- “I want to depend on my spouse’s earnings”
- “I want to lose my job”
- “I want to be disliked” etc.
And remember, Reiki or nature says “Ask and it shall be given.” So, it immediately fulfills the wish.

So, from now on, stop thinking or wanting what you don’t want. Instead ask for things that you want.
If you don’t want to fall sick say “I want to be completely healthy.” If you don’t want fights in your house say “I want everyone to be peaceful and loving in my house” etc.

Next when ever I ask questions like “How can someone be happy without children?”
“How can he be calm without job?”
“How can she be quiet when her spouse hits her?” etc
The nature reads it as a challenge that you choose to experience. So, it immediately gives such a situation in your life.
So be very careful. In fact stop asking such questions. It’s their life. Let them experience what and how they wish to experience. Don’t comment.

Don’t be happy for a reason, because that happiness ends with that reason. Be happy without any reason and you will be happy for ever…

Will all these prevent pain occurring in my body/life?
Not necessarily.

Then why do I follow all this tips in the first place?
It’s like asking, I’ve filled my oil tank to the brim and had my vehicle serviced, still why did accident occur?
Basically illogical question!

If one drives a car with brakes his chances of meeting with and accident is minimal when compared to a person whose car brakes don't apply butand he is also drunk and is driving at neck-breaking speed. Right?

Like-wise, we can avoid that pain that comes with wrong handling of body by following these tips. At the same time, we may fall down while playing. Well that’s part of sports. Can we avoid playing sports? No. Like wise, ‘pain’ – physical may come due to some reason beyond our control. But, what can be avoided we are avoiding by following healthy way of living.
Secondly, we are better equipped to FACE the pain, heal/fight the disease and re-coup if we have a healthy body, immune system and a life-style to match.
Take any doctor’s opinion on this.

reflect on these simple truths till i get back to you with few more......

D. Exercise as often as you can. Simple walking is the best to start with. Enjoy your exercises.
Play with the kids. Climb the stairs. Stop taking that elevator. Let’s save electricity enroute to healthy us.

E. Sleep tight. Preferably maintain a sleep pattern.

F. Don’t exert yourself to bank to be ultimately landing up in the hospital. Take short breaks, vacation from your work. We are not slogging in our offices to be making our doctors rich, are we?

G. Listen to good music, or pick up a hobby that relaxes you and spend at least ½ and hour per day on it.

H. Everyday, take notes of your day and its proceedings and just reflect on it.

I. Meditate. Nothing brings you closer to yourself than meditation.

J. Sit erect. Work on your posture. It really affects your spine. So take care of your posture.
Sit in vajrasan as and when possible.

If there are any more tips, you can share with us..................

Now the question is "What does taking care of this vehicle called body actually mean and how does it benefit me?" "Does it mean that if I take good care of my body, then I will never fall sick?"

Taking good care of the body doesn’t mean –
-Applying expensive creams and colouring it or parts of it, beautifying it with piercing, tattooing and clothing and accessories certainly DON’T come under this category. They are like adding extra – fittings to our car/vehicle – like mirror, painting some figures on the vehicle, etc. That suits the eye but it’ll not reflect on the vehicle’s performance.

ONLY servicing, oiling it filling it with diesel/petrol such acts make a difference in the vehicle’s performance.

Likewise, few tips that go a long way in maintaining this body are:

A. “Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy if not wise for sure!”

B. Right kind of food is eaten – green vegetables, sprouts, fruits and vegetables, instead of deep fries and drinks that are harmful to the body especially the aerated drinks.

C. Breathe properly. Breath is the basis of life and the stomach should expand when inhaled and should contract when exhaled. Many times it’s the other way round. Proper breathing ensures good oxygen supply through blood to all body parts and thereby good health is a possibility. To attain this start with pranayamam – deep breathing daily at least 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the night and see the benefits in the weeks to come not only on your physical self but also on your emotional self.

a. Sit in a comfortable position.
b. Preferably do it early in the morning or before eating anything or in empty stomach.
c. If after lunch/dinner give a gap of 3 hours for the food to be digested and then proceed with Pranayamam.
d. Take a deep breath.
e. Let it fill your entire abdomen.
f. Do it slowly.
g. Exhale gently.
h. Don’t pressurize yourself to do for long hours at the start.
i. Be relaxed and let the breath guide you gently to calmness.
j. After 15 minutes just breathe normally with eyes closed and sit calmly for few minutes – as long as you wish.
k. Rub your eyes with both your palms. Open your eyes.

follow this tips till I get back to you with few more in the next post....

take care...

Before dealing with the ACTUAL PAIN of 50 gms which is real, let us learn to deal with other add - ons.
1. At the start, just accept Pain as a part and parcel of life. Any one who drives

-Knows that the vehicle breaks down once a while
-Knows that in spite of maintaining it and keeping it serviced it still may meet with an accident
-Knows flat tyres just happen
-Accident happen even to “good” drives.

Like wise this body is our vehicle - the only one that we’ve got – so it may need a few days of over-hauling – this we call as disease. But, it actuality, it’s the body talking to us of the need for rest and service needed by it. Before going further, I would like to question myself “If I depend on my body for all my happiness, if I really love it the way I say, did I or do I really take good care of it in the first place?”

b. Self-pity is the twin sister of pain. It crops us saying “oh, poor you why it always happens to you? How can you enjoy that film, party, life now?”

“Things always happen to make it go wrong in my life – always!” this also is will supported by both real and imaginary situations of past and present. Add 500 gms more pain.”

Whoosh! Now it’s 50+500+500=1050 gms. No doubt I am reeling under pain.

c. any pain immediately gets with it ‘fear’. Fear of becoming invalid, losing near and dear, losing possession which mean a lot to us and ultimately fear of death.

How many times I experienced severe headache and doubted it to be brain tumour? Or a pain in the chest and thought it to be heart-attack? When it actually was simple gas or acidity. Go on the memory lane. I’ll wait..........

Get the picture. Fear let us experience the simple pain as inevitable loss that’s going to loom large in our future. And funnily none of these fears have come true! Yet, we go on living with these fears.

Add 500 gms more to our original Pain. Now it’s............WOW, YOU ARE getting smarter – yes 50+500+500+500=1550 gms – this is really a big pain indeed! But is it?

Let’s go in detail. How does pain reflect in physical body?
1. Physically pain is experienced because of injury, disease, surgery, etc.

For example:-
When I’ve headache the pain is say 50 gms (pain is not measured in gms. This is just to make understand easier) the body is so beautifully structured by nature that it can actually bear this “pain” and still move on in life. Then, if it so, why I can’t bear my headache? (You can replace headache with any pain however unbearable it is..........).

1. First and foremost, because of the conditioning of the mind that “to be happy, I shouldn’t have a disease or pain in my life.” The moment this conditioning “thought process starts functioning” it sends messages like:-
a. Only I am suffering whereas all the others are fine when in actuality I am more deserving, to be happy and healthy, than others.”

Jealousness and comparing with others sends messages that are detrimental to the healing of the pain/disease. In fact, it aggravates it. This feeling will be supported with few or many of the past instances where this type of injustice has been meted on us. Few of the imaginary situations also crop up to support this suffering. The PAIN caused by this suffering is 500 gms and that makes this total pain as 50+500 and that really is unbearable and I break down.

Please refer to our blog posts dated 09 April 2009 and those related to pain posted earlier.

Each one of us has experienced pain at some point of time of our life. And the ‘pain’ is experienced at physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual self. Let’s look into each one of them separately. We’ll deal with it as:-
1. Types of pains experienced.
2. Why we feel it in the first place.
3. How to deal with the pain once it’s there in life.
4. How to heal it and the situation that’s causing us pain.
5. How finally to outgrow pain.

So, basically, it’s all about understanding pain, then transmitting it and finally transcending it.

Let’s try to define ‘Pain’ in the first place. Pain is “anything that causes discomfort in us and stops us from experiencing happiness and well-being.”

What is the actual cause of pain?

1. All that displaces ease from our life is a dis-ease and that is the root cause of pain.”

2. We experience pain because we are not able to get all that we wished, worked, longed for – and because we are getting all that we don’t want in our life.

3. Anything that limits us causes ‘pain’.

For example:-

1. I want to be healthy. In fact, everyone wants to be healthy ONLY and when they fall sick they experience ‘pain’ in their lives.

2. We all want to be successful, rich and yet are not most of the time. Hence, the pain.