On doubts and clarification!

contd.........


On doubts and clarification!

On student seeking doubts and master not catering to them!

Student justifies but looking at his actions and the words that he uses!

Master knows to look at the source of his complaint.

Master looks at the reasons of complaints.

Read it multiple times and understand it. Rather read it till you get the answer.

If you are planning to write a mail or justifying your point of view, you haven’t got the message – just keep reading it till you do! – Even if it takes this life time!

Points to be understood:

Here, it is explained with an example. Try to understand it the right way!

Don’t say “yes, my boss etc goes for plastic surgery” etc.

Don’t say “yes, and so I am doing yoga regularly and eat homemade food only”

This is not about food or body here.

It is about why you complain your master is not answering you.

This is about your getting angry at your master for not catering your need to receiving your ‘doubts clarified’.

Read it multiple times and understand it. Rather read it till you get the answer.

If you plan to write a mail or justifying your point of view, you haven’t got the message – just keep reading it till you do! – Even if till takes this life time!

If you are angry, disturbed, frustrated then you haven’t read it right!

If you think the master hasn’t understood well you need to read it again!

If you feel pushed to the wall, then read it again and again and again!

Even after reading it multiple times you are where you started then, simply sit and start healing the ‘emotion’ that has surfaced in you. No need to understand it. No need to justify it. No need to validate it. No need to prove anyone how ‘some other person’ is responsible for it!

Just sit and heal!

If your response still is “yes, yes, I get it but……” then forget it……enjoy this pain and suffering and keep up with your regular healing. When you have healed enough to understand ‘this moment’ you’ll understand and do the needful!

contd......

# understanding and knowing, answers given yet not received, on giving and receiving, qualities required for receiving - whether grace or answers, doubts and clarification

Points to be looked into:

• Why we 'feel' we haven't received an answer whenever we ask a question?
• When and why do we not 'see' an answer when it is given?
• limitations that stop us from receiving solutions
• why our complaints have remained the same inspite of being addressed by the one to whom it has been made?

Me, My Guru – Hiss, but don’t bite

 

Contd....

Me, My Guru – Hiss, but don’t bite

No real Master or scripture wants any sadhak to suffer while walking the path toward Enlightenment.

Before understanding right you may end up having 1000 wrong understandings that you would presume to be the right one!

No issues there – keep applying your understanding and see how you fare. Also, be asking yourself “Is there a different way to understand this or put this to use?” as you keep healing and questioning your understanding, bye and by, you’ll unravel the mystery of Truth. You’ll walk from lower understanding to higher understanding. Don’t feel bad. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t get angry at the wasted time too! Just collect yourself, and walk the new understanding till a newer understanding takes over. This way you’ll find yourself getting better and better in dealing with yourself, others and life in general.”

We didn’t ask her anything. And yet we got our answers – in full. Did she listen to our conversation? But that was almost impossible!!! We were left with these questions – as ever with ourselves. We got what we sought. Now, time to make necessary changes!

We should learn to hiss – but not bite!

Concluded….

# me my Guru series, Buddha and the snake, hiss but not bite, be firm but gentle, disturbed mind, balanced person, disturbing emotion, anger, calmness, patience, spirituality, 

also read suggested on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/05/on-owning-up.html

Pointers to understand this post contd in the next post......

Stories in the blog and their interpretations!

 

Stories in the blog and their interpretations!

Stories especially those from Vedic Itihaasa (Hindu scriptures) are told to you to drive home one point which is usually explained in the post one way or the other!

But that explanation need not be the ‘be all’ of those stories.

That is the beauty of all these stories from any scriptures. They are a treasure trove of knowledge!

Once you complete reading the post – read it once again – just the story part without the explanation given by me. Then sit in silence with the story. Or, if your life is too busy, carry the story with you with you all through the day. Ruminate (mananam) on it! Keep thinking about it. and see how you understand it. see how that understanding can be infused into your life and your personality. Come back and share with others.

Every time you come back or go back to the story, you’ll find a different perspective – that is if you’ve been in sadhan. If you've healed enough, your understanding will surely change for the better. And with that changed understanding, you’ll be able to understand the story better this time!

Every person’s understanding is subject to his level of consciousness. So be with it. be with healing. Then infuse every understanding into your life and keep growing. And as you keep applying that understanding to your life and also keep healing your attitude, the level of consciousness will shift – for the better.

This is one wonderful way to enjoy and grow on this path!

So now, how do you wish to sum up?

So, what did you get from this?

BTW, a totally routine question - does my writing all these stories help you in any way?

Do they help you in any way?

Does it show you a way out of your pain?

Does it help to navigate through your life easily?

Concluded...

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# Me My Guru series, understanding the blog and its posts, 

also read suggested https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=how+to+understand+this+blog

Change the perspective lady!

 

Change the perspective lady!

When our expectations are not met we get angry!

At that time we justify our emotions and we identify with our expectations. But if we look at others situations and understand that – many times instead of anger, we could’ve generated love and respect for the same person! It’s all about perspective. Their actions don’t generate our emotions. Our perspective does it all. So, if there is lack of love in our life that is not because of people in our life! It is basically because of how we see and look at people in our life!

Change the perspective and let love flow in and through you!

Change the perspective lady! 

There once was an old woman name ‘mayya’ in a certain village named ‘Reason’. She was always sad and crying her heart out – day in and day out! She had two daughters whom she loved dearly. They both were married and lived in nearby villages. One was married to ‘an umbrella seller and the other to ‘a fisherman’.

Whenever it was sunny, she would cry thinking “oh my poor child! How will husband of my eldest daughter sell umbrellas enough now, since people would not buy umbrellas when it is not raining?” Thinking of her eldest daughter’s problems and lack of abundance, she would worry and cry the whole day!  

When it rained, she would think “Oh, my poor second daughter! How will her husband go fishing now that it is raining? How will my daughter wade through these tough times?”

Contd........ 

# change the perspective lady story, perspective, perception, attitude and its effect, good and bad, seasons of life, life and its aspects, celebration of life, reasons to celebrate in life, complaining about life, grateful for life .... 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=cleaning+the+window 

read the link to understand the following points : 

What is the definition of good and bad?

Are we really good or in relation to someone else only? 

We presume we are good, but are we actually good - think about it...

When we change for good our world changes for better. Does that not mean the 'bad' that we encountered, saw and hated was actually within us all this time? think about it!

Pointers in this story : 

"When our expectations are not met we get angry!" - This is the premise for this story......many times we have held discussions on expectations and anger and yet it remains a subject worth discovering and understanding. We may understand the words many times yet when it comes to applying, that's when our logic buts in to negate all our understanding and say " yeah, true, but...." and lo! down the drain goes all our hard earned understanding. 

Understanding is no understanding if it is not applied, ingested into our persona and it reflects in our way of thinking and living it out! 

"There once was an old woman name ‘mayya’ in a certain village named ‘Reason’. " - Look at two major characters here that are distractions and culprits that distract us from our understanding and our desire to be balanced in and through all stations of life. 

One is 'mayya' loosely translated means 'mother'. The central character is called mayya and is also a mother. We usually identify ourselves with our roles in our life. We become the roles we play and start arguing from that identification. That way our 'logic' says we can hurt the other person or make him lose his argument in our favour - whichever the need may be! 

How many times you must have said "but maam, as a mother is she not supposed to...etc, etc"

"but maam, as a mother how can I not worry about my child..."

"but maam, is it not my duty to see my child get married etc, etc..."

replace 'mother' with any other role of a parent, young man, spouse, sibling, relative, elder person, friends and why even God...we justify their duties and also our sufferings based on these relationships or roles that we play. 

The logic may seem right, but it is basically stupidity and flawed and hence doesn't hold good in the region of 'Truth'. 

"Reason" - We think we are arguing on the basis of reason but it happens otherwise - always. We argue from the basis of our assumptions, definitions of relationships and expectations. Hence our suffering is baseless and useless. And we get angry that no one is taking us out of our misery! How sorry is our state!?

Where did you apply this understanding of today?

Grace healings – Mona, Kshitija, Swathi

 

Grace healings – Mona, Kshitija, Swathi

Receive Reiki for 3 days for going through the “Read suggested” and then coming back with their understanding. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/peace-of-mind.html

Read here once again – they receive grace healings for “coming back with their understanding” – no filters there.

No one is telling – it is right understanding or

It is great understanding or

It is beautiful and so on….

Just for sharing their perspective, they receive “grace healings”.

So, understanding from this exercise “When we just do our job right sincerely, honestly, completely, with the right intent and to the best of Our (not the best or in comparison to others) – just to the best of our abilities, we become eligible to receive the “grace” from above and Universe.

Let this understanding change the way you do things and expect grace!

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# grace healings, grace, gratitude, you receive what you give, destiny and fate, abundance, 

Me, My guru

Me, My Guru

It was 10 days since I met her last. I was excited about today’s meeting.  Very rarely, I understand what she has said or explained experientially. This was one such time.  I was excited to share this knowledge with her. My hands were shaking when I opened the gate of her house…I smiled. She would tell me “It’s just an experience…yes, even an understanding is just an experience. Why do you give so much of importance to it?  If you are excited about it or feel proud about your understanding or an experience, then it means you are bound by it – and that my dear, is no good..have an understanding, apply it and then move on..be available to the next understanding…so now drop your excitement!” I have heard her say it so many times yet I couldn’t live it……like most of her sayings….

This was for some other time….now was the time of understanding “You are what you read”….

She was feeding some pigeons and her back was towards me…I tiptoed near her.”So! this one understanding has got you so much excited. Yeah? Fine, tell me” she said without even turning around to see who it was….

My excitement gave rise to surprise but I gulped my surprise and started “the other day I met Priya.  She looked  a bit tensed. I enquired and she said they had a function in their place the next day and the caterer had gone back on his word because of a death in his house..she had arranged for everything else….and where would she get a caterer at such short notice…she was worried. I simply smiled and offered to enquire with the couple of caterers that I knew.  While she waited I dialed Vidya and asked if she was willing to take this order at such short notice…she immediately agreed and I put Priya on phone and she fixed Vidya for her function.

and....

...contd...

on feedbacks etc....

Contd.....

Coming to feedback Einstein said “How much you know is unimportant if you can’t explain that to a six year old. You don’t know it”. In short, teacher is not ‘great’ because of his knowledge. That our ‘google’ has more than most teachers. Then? The understanding that is the by-product of experience – not only the worldly one but also that understanding that is received in meditation – that needs to be explained coming to the level of he listener.  You may not accept what I say, but  if you haven’t understood the failure is more of mine than yours because I think...i need to find a better way of explaining it. So, to know ‘the need’ to change my angle, examples of my explanation I ask for feedbacks. To give you a something that can be a pointer to what I am pointing at. Let me share something that I should be ashamed of. 

Since childhood I’ve been told like trillion times “your talk is

beautiful but I didn’t understand a word of it”. Then what the hell did you like? I mean well---- you can imagine my state. So, I know many find it difficult to follow what I explain so I try to put it across in as simple words as possible! (as per my understanding simple).  But I seem to miss the mark still.....so....

What’s the purpose of all this hard work (that you credit me with) if it is of no use to the end user!

Inspite of your feedback, I may still not be able to explain it in a way for you to understand – that is a possibility that I can’t rule out! But I am just promising one more attempt from my end. Result, well Shivarpanam! Well, this applies only to topics of this world or subject to our emotions, sadhan and such ones. 

Again with regards to higher topics like God, healing – I can explain but you may not understand it because even I can’t word such an experience in words. Yes, they are experiences – not some matter knowledge to be analytically understood. So, I explain knowing fully well that you wouldn’t understand or accept it. So relax there! Why, because one – you are going to apply it topically

i.e., subject to your problem and see your problem within you.  You don’t separate your problem from your relationship to understand it. Two – these things are only be experienced and that understanding only is an understanding and no amount of reading or hearing any scripture can give you that understanding. I know what I am saying, but can’t explain however much I try to you or anyone who didn’t have that experience. And to one who had, I don’t need to. Right? Then, why do I explain?

To show you that there is a world of experience out there ready to be yours for an asking. All you need to do is sit in sadhan! I can only create that desire to ‘have that experience’ that I am talking about – even if be to prove me wrong – no problem – as long as you are in sadhan, my job is over! Then it is for your karma, intent and His Grace to work out that ‘Destiny of yours!’

Hope I am clear on this – at least as of now!

contd........

Frogs

Contd.....

Stories and all - Man and the frogs

Sometimes it doesn’t happen as we plan! Then? Then it is very good as His will is there in it. This also you’ve experienced (refer to the comments section for when you did Reiki and they didn’t get fulfilled). They turned out even better! So why worry in such cases!

Both ways, only what is ‘right and good’ for you, happens. Learn from your past experiences. Build your trust on them, work on that frog called ‘fear’ and remove it. Also remove the ‘frog’ of ‘ignorance’. Your ‘mind pond’ is silent. You experience happiness, peace and satisfaction!

Ignorance

The seed of every fear of yours is ‘ignorance’. So, remove ignorance. Develop clarity of thought. Shift the way you ask questions and apply those answers. To remove them is very easy. Just remove. But when you see them for ‘only two’, you think it is ok. You let them stay. After all, they are just two cute frogs. And then, suddenly, their sounds become deafening!

What's in for us in holding on to ignorance?

Who helps the man in removing those two frogs? 

ONLY ONE LAD! - The man goes to all and sundry seeking guidance and redemption from his pain and suffering. He goes from one master to another seeking happiness, peace and contentment. And all it takes is ONLY ONE MASTER who removes both his frogs from his self. And it is symbolically told or shown as ONE LAD here in this story. 

Master is one who is telling you that all the problem is caused by only these two frogs within - fear and ignorance. He KNOWS  it and is showing you various ways to free yourself of it and yet.......

So beware and be alert of these ‘two frogs’ – fear and ignorance!

The same explanation should be applied for health issues, financial, social and global issues too! Our hell and heaven are created by these two frogs only! Remove them. 

Our choices are made because of and by these two frogs only! Remove them and your perception changes! Your clarity of thought develops! 

These two frogs are also the basis of our ‘dharma’ and principles. Do away with them! 

The activity of these two frogs results in the generation of our desires. Throw them away! Then the desires lose their power to hurt you. Then like Krishna, Gandhi, Ratan Tata, your desire will set you free, not bind you! Remove these two frogs and like Rama you can have your intention manifest with a single thought! 

Think about it!

Concluded.........

(For all your future reference :I am encapsulating the same again in one go.........also read the other stories this way. You'll see the depth of the same story differently. Every character, scene can be deciphered. It's like you are pealing layer after layer to get the meaning out of it.......and I haven't completely explained this story.......there is more to it......keep peeling it and savouring the taste of understanding layer by layer......)

# trust, ego, pain and suffering, attachments, we are what we read, ignorance, fear, divisiveness, upanishads, oneness, whole, abundance, happiness, divinity, selfishness, cause of pain and suffering,  

also reads suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=greatness

Homework : Now take one story from the previous posts and understand it this way! And come back with your understanding. Let's pool our understanding to get a larger understanding. Lets move from lower understanding to higher understanding together......

Questions addressed : 

• Why after doing reiki for so long also I am not happy?
• How long should I heal myself?
• "I didn't understand this story. Please explain" 

Points stressed :

• "I am fed up of healing. I want to stop healing" - good know the reason and do so!
• Heal now or later. Choice is yours. No questions asked. No punishment given. Never judged by anyone. 
• The punishment given is by self to self by our acts and choices. You take decisions and you alone bear the consequences of your decisions.
• Good or bad - we are reapers of our choices and destiny. Our karma is ours to bear!
• God, Master, Universe, Life can only give you opportunities and techniques to better your perceptions and ability to deal with life. They can't do it for you!