Fear of society – Me, my Guru

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Fear of society – Me, my Guru

Today we all were bit depressed and felt lost. We didn’t exactly know our feelings and the emotions that ran through us. The news that hit us and the nation today had shaken us in many ways. In some way we were glad that we made it to our Guru’s place. Not that she would make the situation any better but atleast we felt safe in some way there.

She didn’t answer many of our questions – maybe she had but chose not to let us know that!

It is even possible that she gave us “the answer” but we either ignored it as it didn’t fit our definition of answer or that it was not the answer we were looking for.

It is also possible that we didn’t “see” the answer when it was given to us. 

Whatever! Today and such days we didn’t come seeking answers. We just came seeking some solace. We wanted to be near her as that did wonders to our agitated mind. It calmed us and gave us hope and courage to face our realities.

“Guruji the criminals were shot dead today. The justice was met and this was something we all had wanted since long. And yet when it happened it sort of shook us. Unknown fear came over us! I can’t exactly say why and for whom. But fear gripped us and I started to cry out of fear! Throw some light on this today please!” That was Deepa asking that question but it was a question we all had and the feeling we all carried today.

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# hatred, violence, killing the wrong, anger, fear, correcting the wrong, punishment, justice, listening after asking questions, listening to receive solutions, on blaming or thinking the cause of our pain and suffering to be outside

Questions answered :

• Why she doesn't answer my questions?
• Why she gets irritated with my doubts?
• She doesn't answer my questions and moves on. Why?
• Why we are sad, angry and fear even when our wishes do come true?

Points to be understood :

• Do we really know to "LISTEN" to answers when we ask questions?
• Which attitude of ours is responsible for us not being able to get an answer even if given and keeps insisting on repeating the same question again and again in the name of 'asking questions and clarifying doubts'.......
• Do we seek an answer that is 'right' or are we demanding results or action from the other party when we say we are asking questions/doubts?
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related posts that explain the points 'to be understood' better:

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=answers

The art of asking questions

The art of asking Question

Dear ones,

As you know, I write this blog to facilitate your understanding of ‘self’. And this starts with the enquiry – enquiry into the nature and character of things, People and above all self – i.e., the mind of ‘self’. I try my best to answer your queries. And some of you don’t want your names or query published – fine – but yet your query is addressed.

If you think ‘his questions’ are answered in detail’, then instead of seeing ‘who is asking’ look at ‘how he is asking’ – I mean the wordings of the question. That’s why, I usually refer ‘comment dt: …….’ And then explain the question. This is to bring your notice to the question and then let you see how it’s answered. Answer does depend totally on the question. I’ve explained it so many times to you. Infact, the I dg. Class starts with my explanation ‘how to ask what you want to ask’ and I stress the importance of ‘right way of asking question’. It just doesn’t come to us. It’s an art. Yes, asking the right question the right way is an art and like any art takes years of practice to make it perfect. And so, I encourage you to ask questions here. So, that you develop that great art. Because, at the end of the day, success/failure, peace/confusion rests totally on the question asked.

For start instead of asking simply ‘explain XXX’ see the way it can be asked in such a way to get the detailed answer. Look at posts which are explained in detail ad associate them with their query. Learn – otherwise, our entire exercise is waste.

Don’t be shy or afraid of asking – but be humble to learn – to seek and above all be available to learning. Imagine a situation where the following questions are posed and imagine the resultant response too –

1.       Are you angry?

2.       I see you are angry, what can I do to dissipate it?

3.       This anger is eating into our relationship, what do we do to go through this situation calmly and to just experience this issue?

Will there not be difference in the response to above 3 questions? Both the parties involved are same in all the situation yet response is different in all situation – reason – the question.

Likewise, my answer depends on your questions. See, read and learn. This is very important attitude that one should develop to grow in life.

And yes, when your question is answered, I wouldn’t mind reading atleast ‘understood’ as your  feedback in the comments section.

Yes, I sometimes I choose to explain from your comments that you post explaining your understanding – eg. Aparna’s comment dt.Tuesday, August 26, 2014 and the result are the posts dt.October 19,2014 to October 29, 2014.  So, your sharing of your experience may also help you in getting clarity further on the subject. So write (in the comments section)

Keep enquiring, keep learning and keep growing……..

All the best for the same.

On social etiquettes

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“Can you think of such irrelevant and baseless questions?” Sethu asked.

“Oh! They are in scores.

A  Seeing a person at hotel/cinema hall/park and asking “What are you doing here?” I always feel like saying something like “Came to purchase grocery/vegetables or came to bury my dead uncle”. Isn’t the answer obvious? Then why do they ask?

B.      ‘So sad! So you both are staying alone now?’, ‘how come two people can be staying alone?’ such stupid statement or question.

C.      Calling someone in the mid-afternoon or late in night and asking ‘are you asleep?’, then why did you call?

 All started laughing out loud. Infact our stomach started to ache. 

Yes, it sounded funny now that we listened to these questions clearly! Oh God! How many times we could have parroted these ‘stupid questions?’ We asked him to stop. We got the picture. With tears rolling down our cheeks, we decided to listen to our own questions and stop ourselves from asking these questions. We wanted to take that initiative to stop asking such stupid and irrelevant questions.

“Then we would automatically talk so little” laughed Sethu. “Yes. True! And when you talk it would be on a sensible topic or subject. Something would come out of such topics then” replied Ramana.

‘Not only would your external chatter reduce but it would automatically reduce the chatter in your brain. That would in return help you to be more peaceful. This would lead you to more energetic life” added Prakash.

“Now don’t you exaggerate. What has less talk got to do with our energy levels?” I asked.

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Me, My Guru – On fear!

Me, My Guru – On fear!

“Guruji, do you have any fears?” asked Rahul abruptly in the class that was dealing with fear.

He was good at asking questions related to our Guru. We asked irrelevant questions like –

“Where did you study?”

“What is your degree?”

“What is your caste/religion/marital status?”

“How many children do you have?”

None of these questions benefited us one bit. But we were only for “data collection” as she termed these questions and their answers.

But Rahul asked questions the answers of which not only benefited him but also us in more than one way! Today was one such ‘question’. Most of us thought she had no fears. And some who thought she had fears didn’t dare ask her that.

Moreover we were ever busy collecting irrelevant data. So where was time left to seek “sensible” stuff from our Guru!

I like many presumed her to say “I don’t fear anything”. But to my surprise was her answer. It also hurt me a lot! 

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# fear, emotions, attachments, desire, love, losing, anger, character, choices

also reads suggested : 

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=fish+and+the+lake

Points to look into : 

• Not every question asked is worth an answer!
• Not every thought that crosses our mind deserves to come out as question
• Only question that is "sensible" and useful either to yourself or others is the 'right' question
• Accusing and calling names someone who benefits you is not "asking doubts"
• Question that you ask reflects your character. Justifying it further only reiterates your character. It doesn't help one bit in making your wrong right!

Me, My Guru – on asking the right question

 

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Me, My Guru – on asking the right question

How many times must we have asked a wrong question and got wrong answer? And how many times we would have lived with that wrong answer?

Yes, we did get no for an answer, but we would have not only gotten yes for an answer but also gotten over our problem in the first place if, if only we knew how to ask?

This set me thinking on so many levels.

I applied it at the physical level and so many of my problems were addressed right away.

I applied it in my relationships and I found cause of my bitterness and lack of happiness and contentment in my relationships.

I applied it in me asking Universe/Reiki/guru questions and knew why I got the answer that I got now….

Now I knew why I lacked abundance in so many fields of my life and the reason and way to address that too……

I need to work on this area – I need to work way too much in this area….

Concluded......

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# on seeking answers, asking questions, seeking, praying, you receive as you seek, ask and it shall be given,

also read :    https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru-+On+a+Road+trip     

    

Hinduism - rituals

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I have many times asked you to learn the art of asking ‘right questions’. No, I agree there’s nothing as wrong question. The moment you ask a question, I know where you are and where you are heading.

Not clear? I’ll explain, the questions that Vaibhav has asked now come under ‘right questions’. Anything that helps you to understand, follow or know about the practices, rituals etc which would help you to come face-to-face with your ‘real self’ are ‘right questions’.

And all the questions like ‘but why did he do that? He is bad and he should change/ be taught a lesson, but when I am good why should I not get what I want and he gets it when he doesn’t even deserve it etc are the wrong questions. Because, even after knowing the answers the state of mind is of being restless and our temperament irritating and based on anger and hatred. Hence! Any question that keeps you agitated, restless and suffering in pain is a bad question. Just remember that!

So, ask, ask as many questions as possible but for you to gain abundance – abundance of wealth, good health, success, peace, contentment and divine grace.

Before going to questions let’s read the posts dated :

Thursday, October 9, 2014,

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Friday, November 8, 2013

Friday, November 29, 2013

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Thursday, November 28, 2013 to understand that Hindusim is multi-layered and has various reasons for every custom followed.

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