A boy with a fractured hand!

A boy with a fractured hand! 

The other day I saw a boy of say 8-10years old with a fractured hand cycling happily with his friends with one hand. They were a group of 4-5 boys, chatting away to glory oblivious of this boy’s plight and fracture. Their laughter was infectious and the chatter so joyous. It was as if ‘the fracture’ didn’t exist for them! 

I am sure you all have witnessed somewhat similar situations in your life sometime! (Please share at least one of those if you have) 

Now what are the facts of this situation:

1. Boy was a small boy of just 8-10yrs. 

2. He had a fractured hand.

That shows ‘painful situation’ was real! But the fact which was also true was – 

1. All the boys were enjoying the time 

2. They weren’t brooding over a small incident – they chose to not suffer and celebrate life and live life inspite of situations!

Classic example of ‘situation is real but suffering is optional’. 

They were ‘happy’ as they chose to be happy. It was a choice – not a miracle bestowed by God or their Guru on them.

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also read related posts : 

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A boy with a fractured hand!

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A boy with a fractured hand!

Happiness is a State of Mind! It can’t be a charity that is made by others. ‘Happiness’ is not a thing that can be bought, given or gifted by others to you.


It is a ‘state of Being’ and hence (unfortunately) in our hands ONLY. 

Happiness can’t be purchased.

Happiness can’t be given away.

I purchased buildings, lands, diamonds etc etc – possible!

I purchased happiness – Not possible!

I am HAPPY – Possible if seen as a ‘state of being’ instead of seen as ‘action verb’ 

‘AM’ is a state of being, as state of existence and that is in our hands ONLY. If you are not happy, it has nothing to do with ‘the other or others’ (who so ever it b) in your life.

It has to do with your choice ONLY. It simply means ‘I chose to suffer’.

Please read related posts on   https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?=happiness+is+a+choice   
https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=suffering+is+optional

On happiness everywhere!

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On happiness everywhere!

Happiness is travelling unreserved, sitting and talking all night as there is no place to sleep...

Happiness is eating noodles at the middle of night when that sleep eludes you and watching late night horror show...

Happiness is finding your favourite jeans (torn) or your duppatta (Indian scarf worn around most ethnic wear) while cleaning your house...

Happiness is getting a discount..

Happiness is getting a 'surprise gift' on scratching a card in a shopping mall...

Happiness is going on a ride.

Happiness is having tea with samosa, listening to your favourite music with rain as a backdrop in your balcony...

Happiness is dancing (what you call dancing!!) to the blaring sound of music when you are all alone in the house!

Happiness is singing to glory as there is no one to listen at home...

Happiness is playing your music system in full volume and your house is all  yours for the day....

Happiness is hot water bath....relaxed and a long one...

Happiness is watching good movie/show.

Happiness is going for a run/walk.

Happiness is everywhere, if you know how to see!!! 

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# on happiness, il dolce far niente, in living in the moment, spirituality, simple joys of life, on celebrating life, enlightenment,

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=a+boy+with+a+fractured+hand 

Read the given link to understand how situation is real but suffering is optional!

You can share your reasons to be happy if you please......

Me, my Guru – on Valuing and gratitude

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Me, my Guru – on Valuing and gratitude

Master asked him ‘what’s it?’ in sign language.

Ananda opened the envelope to see its content and was shocked. 50 acres of land around ashram was purchased in the name of Ashram. Now ashram was self-sufficient and any number of students could be taken and trained here henceforth. How someone could give so much and not want anything in return, he thought. And Nirmaldas explained “All this is only in exchange for what I received. And yet I haven’t paid in full”

Ananda was dumb stuck. Being in his Guru’s presence and listening to and practicing his words, he and other students hadn’t incorporated the word ‘gratitude’ the way Nirmaldas had in his life!

Having given these, Nirmaldas fell on his Master’s feet and said ‘I have a request. Please don’t say no Master. I’ve set up each son a huge part of business. They are good at taking care of business too. Now, if you permit I wish to be at your service in this ashram. Please don’t deny me this opportunity. I can only give myself now to your service’.

Master placed his hands on his head as a sign of acceptance. Nirmaldas was overjoyed. 

He left with his family to settle all the matters and to come back as soon as possible.

Rest of his life was spent looking into affairs of ashram, tending cows, looking after fields and serving his Master. He would never rest. He was every busy with all the work. Being in the presence of his Master he attained ‘a state of peace and blissfulness’ that can’t be worded or explained effortlessly”  

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# gratitude, thanksgiving, giving and receiving, you receive what you give, karma, law of abundance

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=a+boy+with+a+fractured+hand

Think and question this :  If what we receive is what we give, then why are we receiving what we are receiving?

• Definition of charity is - giving something out of concern and sympathy to persons who are less privileged than us. 
• If I go around carrying the bill of charity say eight thousand five hundred and twenty five rupees in the purse and being angry that my 'wish' is not fulfilled in exchange for my charity, then where am I wrong?
• Can something be expected in exchange for charity?
• If I expect something or anything in exchange for charity even 'good karma' is it considered 'charity'?

Awareness Tip :

There are two ways our emotions can be used.

First, I get carried away with our emotion. Then I justify why I got angry/dejected/cried etc with the situation that triggered it. Then I project that emotion on to the person who I consider responsible for triggering that emotion in me. I suffer. I think I am victim and am made to suffer by the world and its inhabitants. I use my emotion to destroy my happiness, contentment, peace and mental balance. I am driven by my emotions.

Second, I catch my emotion that is disturbing. The moment I become aware of that disturbance, I go within and find its reason. Instead of finding a 'punchbag and reason for suffering outside' I accept 'the reason to be inside of me'. I sit to heal to get relieved of my pain and suffering. I address my emotion, face it and overcome it. I don't let my emotion define my state of mind. I use my emotion to gain my confidence, sense of empowerment, peace, freedom and mental balance. I am in control of my emotions.

|Understanding the keywords right!

 

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Understanding the keywords right!

Health VS wealth – we have lost our health enough to gain the wealth only to lose wealth earned to gain our health. Thanks to covid we have come to realize the importance of health. It’s ok to be a little less richer than before in exchange for a healthy life style and richer moments in life. Life is not a race to be won. We are not here to compete with every other person in life. We are here to embrace life to pick all the valuable lessons it teaches through and in simple moments lived. We are learning the importance of “being”!!!

So much of competition and envy! We are here to get at everyone. All movies – Rambo, Terminator and most of the blockbusters are telling us silently to take revenge. We are relishing hurting others and killing others through these movies. And for long we have come to believe that killing and hurting others is the way to live. But, now, all the new age gurus have come up with lessons that only through forgiveness and kindness can we live a healthier, meaningful and peaceful life!

Time to look at our definitions and make the necessary shift where needed!

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# happiness, we get what we want, success, 

Questions addressed and points to be noted:

• Maybe you are getting what you asked for. But because you didn't MEAN IT THAT WAY  you are suffering even after getting your wish fulfilled.
• Instead of crying about spilled milk, see how you can correct your way of thinking and usage of words to make a better tomorrow.
• Others can only show the path and the pits in the path. You need to walk the path yourself!
• Fear or laziness will only be the cause of your suffering. They can't be used to get things that you desire in your life.
• Sooner you work on fear and laziness and overcome them, the sooner will you see the changes in your life - for better!

• Also read suggested: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=A+boy+with+a+fractured+hand%21

              

On Wow moments!

 

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On Wow moments!

The common in all these moments is that all these moments are free of cost. They are available to one and all! We need not go out ‘do’ or ‘achieve’ something for it. We need not work for these moments. These priceless moments are ever present for all of us to relish and live. We need not ‘go’ anywhere to experience them. We need not ask others to help us get these moments. We don’t need to depend on others for these moments. 

And these moments are spread all through the day! They are available 24/7 for one and all! All we need to do is ‘be available’ for them. We need to be ‘aware’ of them! We need to appreciate them. We need to just be on look out for them. They are there – spread throughout the day! And yet, we go by without noticing them. And when we notice we realize how priceless they are! We realize how rich we are! We realize how much happiness is within our reach!

Isn’t it? Did you realize this? Did you notice this? Were you not surprised with this knowledge?

Just by being aware of these little joys of life, your state of mind had been more calmer, happier and livelier than before - isn't it?

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# simple joys of life, facts of life, abundance, secret of happiness, peace of mind, simplicity and abundance, miracles of life, echo of life, mindfulness, il dolce far niente, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=a+boy+with+a+fractured+hand

Read the above link to understand how situations don't decide our state of mind. Read to understand how we can be happy inspite of situations in life....

Points to understand :

• More or less everyone is going through the same stuff. The stuff is full of job and its demands and complications, relationships and their downside, financial insecurity, pandemic and other heath and social conditions. 
• Yet some people come across as more joyful, healthier and peaceful than most of the people we come across in our life. What is the secret?
• We usually assume these people have all that we desire and hence are more content.
• The fact is one who is content has seen more ups and downs in life than the average ones. Their life is more of a mess than most people around them. And yet they choose to look at little joys and wonders of life. 
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• They haven't forgotten the 'art of wonderment' that we had as a kid. They still kept it alive in themselves. They laugh not because their life is a bed of roses. But because they don't some problem can come any second. So they don't want to miss out on this minute of joy.
• They are grateful for little 'normal routine' things of life. Because they have found that what is normal is also very rare in their life.
• think about it!
• You are not loosing to circumstances and people in your life. You are losing to your mind. Beware! Read the given link below to remind yourself of the same - https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=hell+and+heaven