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Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

Vijaya continued her complaint “my maid says she has to go to her village once fortnight to stand by her daughter whose husband was drunkard, useless, jobless and trying to sell her land to make money. I have to end up doing the job sometimes. Else I need to beg others’ servants to come and work for couple of days. All my time goes in this searching for maid, waiting and being treated. These servants are so arrogant and so unprofessional. They don’t feel bad about their clumsy way of doing work and being absent for so many days! Disgusting!”

There was so much of pain and suffering in her tone.

“And that too for just a servant” I thought. I had almost given up on her and today’s’ lecture by now. What was more irritating and unacceptable was that my Guru even took pains to answer her, address her issue – as if it was one!

Now that I noticed I found that I disliked, resented and hated her addressing any issue if it didn’t have to do with mine. Whatever was my problem at that point of time seemed to be the only worthy issue to be addressed. All others looked frivolous and waste of time! I understood that! I saw it too! But my Guru?!

“Instead of suffering for so long you could have used just part of that ‘suffering time’ to heal your maid in two ways. 1. That her daughter’s life runs smoothly on its own/my maid’s daughter is independent and strong enough to deal with her issues on her own/she is leading happy contended life 2. My maid is free of her responsibilities and duties towards her daughter. And hence she is coming regularly for work happily, contended and healthy in her life. So simple!” replied our Guru.  

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#  on solving day to day problems, challenges of mundane routine, healing, suffering, tension, pain, anger, conditions, acceptance

also reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=irritation 

Points to understand : 

• to understand why we need to heal every day issues
• how our choices decide our destiny
• on how the energy we generate every incident that is to come in our life 
• on how we attract the people and incidents in our life and the need to break that vicious cycle attracting all that is painful and not to our taste in life and suffering because of it
• how by assuming others are responsible for our pain we miss out on one more chance to correct the way we respond and heal that pattern  

Note : As you share your experiences also share those incidents where you did intention reiki for situations where you were tensed/stressed/fearful and then it turned out well later......

Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

“Guruji, it may seem stupid and irrelevant to you but my life and discipline goes for a toss because of my maid!” complained Vijaya.

We all laughed. Yes, it did seem very simple and stupid. At the same time we all faced this pain and problem one time or the other in our life. And so we could relate with her suffering and complain. And yet I felt disappointed with the flow of discussion today. It seemed like one of those ‘wasted days’ for me when I didn’t take back anything worth a dime. I was very practical person always bothered and assessing what and how much I benefited by coming here. This was my regular affair. This hasn’t changed much over the years. Why even while listening to her talk and lecture I would listen only if it benefited me or was useful to me in some way. Many times, it had thrown away precious gems given in abundance by her rather carelessly because it didn’t suit my taste or liking. Today I felt it would be same. I had already lost interest in the talk!

Vijaya continued her complaint “my maid says she has to go to her village once fortnight to stand by her daughter whose husband was drunkard, useless, jobless and trying to sell her land to make money. I have to end up doing the job sometimes. Else I need to beg others’ servants to come and work for couple of days. All my time goes in this searching for maid, waiting and being treated. These servants are so arrogant and so unprofessional. They don’t feel bad about their clumsy way of doing work and being absent for so many days! Disgusting!” 

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# simple problems of life, challenges of life, acceptance, solutions, pain and suffering, healing issues of life

also reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=difference+between+master+and+shishya 

Food for thought : 

• Why we don't see a solution even when there is one?
• Why are we so lost in the problem and trying to find why it came in the first place instead of 'simply healing' it?
• Change is ONLY THING certain in life. Sooner we accept it lesser will we suffer. But more we want things to go our way the more we suffer and we assume that others are responsible for our suffering.
• As long as we justify the cause of our suffering to be others, even when we heal it takes longer to heal and we become more agitated with the healing process too....
• Heal - many times it is enough to address the issue. Sometimes no healing can bring the difference in the way things are happening in life. Even then if we keep healing then first it calms us and keeps us stress free and second it gives us a solution to our problem in some other way - for sure! (if you are open to seeing it)
• Life is good and easy - don't mess it up trying to live it in your brain......

Gratitude Time :

If any of you have received any blessing from reiki - time to show some gratitude. 

Share at least one of your experience of having received 'a wish fulfilled' miracle in your life in the blog!

This post will run for 2-3 days. Share at least one experience of yours per day here.

Share how you did reiki to address a simple day to day issue of your life and how it got resolved. Simpler the issue better. 

share your experience so that one of you can keep up his morale high........

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Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers 

And today I thought my day would go waste! See, I also understood how to address my issues. But the solution was same for all. I had issues with my juniors, colleagues, higher ups, family, friends and even my boss. I always was frustrated and angry at them because of them. Now I could take one or two persons/issues at a time and start healing to be relieved of my pain.

Even I am surprised that I didn’t ask “but why should I heal all of them maam? I am bored of healing. Don’t I have a life of my own? Where do I live it if I end up only healing others?”

She had once given answer “You are NOT HEALING others. You are healing YOUR issues – thereby easing your life. You are able to live happily and you can live peacefully only when these issues/people are addressed. So what life would you live with your suffering if they are not healed? If, you have a dog, would you complain about wasting time in ‘potty training’ it? No! because you know if you don’t then you’ll end up cleaning its shit behind it for the rest of your life. So the little time used in training your dog is actually small investment in making your future less cumbersome. Similarly with these people or issues. Anything that irritates you, annoys you, angers you means you need to heal it for your life to go smoothly. “That time I walked out angrily. I didn’t understand her concern for me. I didn’t see the logic in the solution that she suggested to me. But today I did.

No wonder even after being with her since two decades we still had to ask her simple questions like how to deal with the maid issues………till the day we stop being adamant of wanting things our way we would suffer and be the cause of pain for others. Till the day we were stuck with our way of thinking we would hurt her inspite of all her efforts to make us come out of our suffering.

Till the day we understand, accepted that we need to heal our every fear, anger, desire, pain, hatred, expectations etc we would be creating world filled with these energies only!

What we were inside became incidents and events in the outside world! It’s time we wake up to this fact………. 

Concluded.... 

# challenges of life, problems and solution, everything happens for a reason, break down or break through situations, life is not perfect, change is inevitable

also on this topic: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=butterfly


Food for thought : 

• Life is not perfect
• situation is real suffering is optional
• Every change in life is either break down situation or a break through situation. 
• Our response makes it so!
• If we are breaking down with every unwarranted small incident in our life then it could mean we are very weak from within. 
• Time to build up that strength - mental strength that will make every problem in life as a challenge that we are eager to face.
• Our anger many times could be a result of our weakness which we are not aware of.
• go within and check that strength meter!
• If caterpillar found being chrysalis to be a problem then it would never emerge as a butterfly

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Me, my Guru – on healing servants, maids and helpers

Vijaya was so relieved with this answer. So were few others who clapped out of joy. Well, for the on-looker this may seem frivolous and showy at the same time but I over the years have come to understand the logic and reason behind this answer because, all of us were with her since two decades. We knew her complete answer though she gave only the dos and don’ts now! Today once again she made it a point to show us the easiness with which we could address any issue – as small or mundane as maid problem to complex social issues. 

The problem always came with a solution if only we looked for it. 



We couldn’t - not because it was rocket science or that we were dumb but because we were lost in ‘our problem’. We were lost complaining, fearing, emoting, analysing and judging our issue. All we had to do was ask ourselves “how do we deal with it now?” and to almost every time the solution was right there and simple to apply. We were carried away with ‘how things should be’ rather than ‘how to fix this?’ every time something went against our set way of living.

Here though our Guru gave simple answer and the solution the lesson was much bigger one, I had missed it for many years pushing it aside as ‘stupid/irritating problem unnecessary answer’.

But now, I know what she said. She was asking us to ‘heal where the problem was’. She said if you are angry, sad or in pain, simply heal it or the cause of it and be free from the suffering.

“If we had time to suffer, we had time to heal” her words. So true! 

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# problem, heal self, suffering, pain, 

also on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+destiny 

Points to understand : 

• What ever the problem of life the solution lies within!
• Problem may seem to be outside - be it corona, recession, price hike, Govt etc - but the problem is US!
• Heal the self and the reflection of self will be what we wish it to be......
• Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world
• Every time we are in a situation which we don't like and then if we exhaust our energies on venting our anger on someone (mostly me for no good reason) then where will we get energy to solve our problem?
• Sometimes, we have to live with it then how will we find energy to do that if we are angry with (me or) others as if they created that for us?
• When we are in a situation that is not pleasing to us we need all the energy to either solve it or live with it - depending upon the case and either way we can't dissipate our energies by being irritated or angry. 
• conserve your energy. Don't lose it on others by way of these negative emotions that will only weaken you from within.

Note : I am not posting those feed backs which had name of symbol in it......you can post it once again without the name and i'll post those comments....

all of you remember not to mention the symbol in these comments....

Problems - Me, My Guru

 

Problems – Me, My Guru

“Guruji, how do I address my problems? They never seem to go away for good!” asked one of us.

“Sometimes, all that you need to do to address the problem is ignoring it. Look at the problem not as part of it but as an outsider. You’ll get a better perspective and the right one many times. Shift the position from which you look at the problem, you see the solution right away.

Other times, you just have to understand it. Sit on the problem. Meditate on it. Know its cause and the effect gets healed on its own” replied our Guru.

“But what if it doesn’t go even then” asked another student. He surely had tried the above given solutions. He didn’t find a solution in them. It was obvious.

“Then sit to heal as a healer” she replied with a smile.

“Will it go away” I asked hopefully.

Continued.....

# problems and solutions, pain and suffering, healing, finding solutions, mindfulness, awareness, life is beautiful, ups and downs of life, facts of life, challenges of life, life, 

Read also : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+Guru+%E2%80%93+on+healing+servants%2C+maids+and+helpers 

Question time :

Share your story of problem solving with others to motivate them, show them the way and to guide them find their path.....

Do unto others as you would want others to do unto you....