Me, my Guru – on perception

 

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Me, my Guru – on perception

Bhishma smiled, turned to Duryodhana, and said “You see; you couldn’t find even one good person in our kingdom whereas Yudhishtra couldn’t find even one bad person in the same kingdom. This is the quality required of a leader. Each person will have some weaknesses. But a leader is one who can see the good or some capability in him and put that to good use. That way, every person can be utilised for some good in him for the benefit of the kingdom. That way our kingdom will prosper.” Duryodhana went away angrily.

So you see, leader is one who can see good in all. This doesn’t apply to leader or a Guru, it applies to each one of us. The more I train to see and appreciate the good in others, the more the divine in me strengthened. That is the ‘psychic impression’ called samskaras that we carry over the janmas. That in turn decides the quality of our life. That is how destiny is formed. The asura in me will see ‘flaws’ in Lord Rama, Krishna, Buddha, Jesus or even Mother Theresa. Now what to say of people in my life. This being the case, how can one expect ‘good relationships’ in ones’ life? It’s not that such people don’t get to have friends or family. No! everyone has. It’s just that such nature will attract similar mentality people/person in my life.

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# on perception, point of view, seeing good in others, Buddha and buddhu, you are what you see, outer world reflection of inner world

also read previous post on this topic for added clarity: https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/oh-god.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/help-others-to-tide-over-your-problems.html 

Points to ponder:

• We all want others to respect us, listen to us, follow us. We want to have power and position to lead others.
• But the qualities that are required to do so, we royally lack and don't care to develop.
• The qualities of a leader or Guru are not rocket-science. They are simple and told umpteen times before. But following them, developing them SEEMS herculean task not by way of its implementation but because we don't want to develop those qualities. Why? That why each one of you should find it out for yourself.
• Some of you may say "But, I don't want to maam" fair enough - just stop complaining that everyone is taking you for granted. You can't cry that you are not given a position of respect and power. You can't seek the perks of being a leader or a Guru - remember that!

Time for Homework:

Pick up any one quality that you don't want to develop /overcome - say laziness, indiscipline, punctuality, regularity, participation in group activities - and so on and so forth. Meditate on it and get back with your responses if you please. Even if you don't want to put it up in blog, still do the exercise and jot it down in your journal.....

No need to do any follow up action on these qualities. Just meditate and write it down. It may take couple of weeks for some to understand the reason behind even one quality - no problem...just do it...

Sit in meditation just 15mts per day. The day you start getting answers start writing it down.

Me, My Guru –Role of a Guru

 

Me, My Guru –Role of a Guru

“But you are supposed to fulfill my desires” said a student.

“Why so?” asked the Guru.

“Because as a guru it’s your duty!” replied the student.

“Says who?” asked Guru.

“Everyone!” replied Student.

“There is only “YOU” in that everyone” replied Guru.

 “Then what is your duty?” asked the student.

“Nothing!” replied Guru smiling.

“How can it be nothing! You are supposed to do something!” shouted student.

“I can do many things. But I need not do anything” replied Guru.

“Meaning?” asked student. 

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# Guru, role of guru, expectations and conditions, freedom, freewill, clarity of thought in playing roles.....

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Help+others+to+tide+over+your+problems 

Points to be understood : 

• We 'accept' someone as our Guru with an intention of 'expecting' him to fulfill our wishes. But, that is our side of the story and fact. In reality, Guru is one who accepts the student. Read various posts on Guru - every where it is very clear that the Guru accepts the student, it is not the other way round! 
• Guru accepts the student not based on having capacity to fulfill his demands. He accepts his student based on student's attitudes and qualities that he has. That means, it is the duty of the student to live up to his master's expectations, not the other way round.
• The weak and the mean expect and demand their master's to live up to their expectations. They come across people who charade as masters and exploit them because of their attitude - which is demanding and selfish.
• The person who trusts in the intent of the Guru surrenders to Guru and waits for his Guru to accept him as his student. Once it is done, it means he is ever ready to serve his master. Student accepting someone as his Guru doesn't mean Guru will fulfill his wishes.

Pointers in this post : 

• Look at the tone of the student - demanding to the full. One who is student can't get angry at his master. If he gets angry at his master, he never was his student in real sense.
• Keep aside guru- student for a while. Even if you look at other relationships - where there is respect, trust, love there is no demand. Where there is demand and expectations, there is no love and respect. 
• People think when they get married, they are entitled to live a life as desired by them and the job of the spouse is to live up to their expectations and desires. This wrong expectation, desire and demand from the spouse in the relationship is the basis of all relationship problems. It is not about persons. 
• Now apply it with children, relatives, job, career or any where - the rule is same. We expect others to be of use to us and expect the same from them. That demand is the basis of our pain and suffering in our life and relationships. 
• Remove being selfish and demanding in a relationship and see the 'love' that you miss in life express itself all through. See the abundance that you so miss in your life. This is the key to abundance!

Help others to tide over your problems!

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But, as you experience these emotions just stick to sadhan – preferably regularly. Even if you are not regular don’t feel bad. Apart from sadhan or when unable to do sadhan do the following (whichever relaxes you) – 

1.       Listen to music

2.       Watch movies

3.       Take a walk and preferably make it a ‘must routine’ atleast for ½ hr daily – twice may be.

4.       Do yoga preferably or exercise. You can be irregular but do it. When I say irregular, I mean atleast 3-4 times per week – not once in a month.

5.       Join swimming classes, dancing or aerobic classes if possible. Take to some hobby that you long since wanted and if it is physical in nature better.

6.       Pick an orphanage or an old age home near your home and visit regularly – atleast 3 times/week and teach them whatever you know. Spend time with them. To understand why listen to tum besahara ho tho from Anurodh

7.       Go to temple near your house preferably at same time daily (or as many times as possible/week) and do (circumbation) pradikshanam atleast 108 times. If not possible start with 21 times. While you are at temple chant 108 times on mantra. Gradually increase it to 7 malas or 7*108 times.

Nothing beats depression, loneliness like selflessness. The more the person thinks about himself, his desire, his life, his pain, his suffering the more he’ll be depressed. So do the opposite. Give your know-how, time to others.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF99K-uM9Fc

Duniya mein kitna gum hai

Mera gum kitna kum hal….

Looking at the pain in the world

I realized how little I have….

All this is fine but how will I know “God’s chahat” (His will)?

Buddha

 

Once in a village a notorious thief became jealous of a Buddha who was regarded as the ‘most pious man’ by the villagers and gave due respect to him. This thief went to meet the Buddha in the dead of night and looking at him said “people may not see through your garb but I can. All I can see in you is he most manipulative thief who is so smart that he’s not yet caught. You are no Buddha as people say”. To this Buddha smiled and said “Yes, I see that. That’s no problem. Because I can see only Buddha in you.”

The thief went out in a huff and started telling one and all that the Buddha was a fraud.

So you see one can see only oneself in the other. Because Buddha was Buddha, he saw Buddha in the thief but thief being himself could see himself in Buddha. In short to recognize or understand even a Guru or a Buddha one should be a Buddha or atleast have Buddha like qualities to say the least.

…contd….