Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

     Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Then talk to yourself with an intention to find out ‘about the problem’. Knowing ‘the problem’ and ‘about it’ is half the battle won! Then take necessary action for the same”.

Later she talked on other topics but I didn’t register any of them. Sometimes, one word, one thought, one sentence or a story says it all. I take just that for a day and plan to work on it. And it has borne fruit – always!

One gem collected per day made me rich on all accounts. Now, all I had to do was to ‘encash’ it. That, was totally my choice. It depended totally on me. And this is the reason why no two student who met benefited the same way!

Concluded.....

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+taking+decisions%21 

Points to remember and understand :

• Life is not about collecting stories, quotes or sayings...
• All teachings come to naught if not applied.
• Life gives us opportunities to put to good use all that we have understood (or atleast say we have?!). 
• Unless we are able to apply what we have learnt, how will we know that we have learnt?
• Unless we have opportunities to apply what we have learnt, how will we grow?
• Unless we have opportunities to behave differently and act differently from before, how will we know we have grown?
• So, to let us know of our understanding, wisdom, application of it in life we are thrown problems in our life.
• Every time we treat a problem as an opportunity to express our growth, know you have passed the test. You have reclaimed yourself. You have learnt to live life. You have learnt the 'art of living'

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

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Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Apart from such persons, don’t talk about it to one and all – not even to yourself 10 times a day. If you need to think about an issue, then there is a way to do it.

First, take out time and relax. Then look at the problem with an intention of finding a solution and a better way of handling it.

Then once a decision or solution is noticed, act on it.

Next be man enough to bear the consequences of your choice, action and decision. Everyone wants power but hardly people come forward to bear the responsibilities that come with power!

The slips that can happen in this are  

1.     when we sit to understand a problem we get carried away with our emotions. We don’t look at them from distance.

2.     Hence, we tend to judge the situation

3.     Result, we can’t see the solution

4.     We question as to why it happened or didn’t happen in a certain way. Don’t do that.

5.     We compare our situation with others’ and become jealous. Again we go on roller-coaster ride of pain and suffering.

6.     We keep repeating to ourselves and to others as to how other is wrong. Our agenda is not about healing the situation. It is not about handling it. It becomes more of proving that the other is bad and cause of problem. Result – even if proven so, situation doesn’t change. So, we end up with this pain more than before!

Avoid these pitfalls! 

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# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+problems+and+solutions+-+1 

Points to remember and understand :

• When ever one faces a problem in life, instead of looking at it with complaints, anger and frustration, if one looks at it with love, calm and a desire to solve it, one will find the solution faster than later.
• First overcome the irritation that you get when faced with a problem.

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

 

Me, My Guru – On Hindrances in problem solving

Our Guru said “Don’t go around telling one and all about your problems. The more number of people you talk about your problem – be it your spouse, career or desire that much of negativity you create with regards to that issue. Result – longer it takes to heal that issue. So, if you want to heal an issue, reduce talking about it to as many people as you can. In fact, stop talking about it completely”.

“But we can’t ma’am. We need to tell at least few. We need to talk about our problems” said one among us. But that voice represented most of our thoughts.

“Then tell only 4 types of persons –

1. One who wouldn’t judge you for that

2. One who wouldn’t use it against you in future

3. One who supports you by understanding you and your problem – even if he can’t give you a solution

4. One who gives you a solution –

A. But this person shouldn’t have any personal agenda attached to your problem

B. This person should be impartial.

C. This person should have clarity of thought

D. He should have your good as the only thing in his agenda 

Contd....

# on talking about problems, consequences of talking about problems, karma, negativity generated, problems and solutions, healing the issue, finding solutions, life, beauty of life, facts of life, lessons of life, obstacles of life, life is not perfect

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/directing-our-energies-right-way.html 

Points to understand and remember :

• Every one has his own set of problems. It's just that some take time to help others solve theirs inspite of having more problems in their own life!
• Just because someone is smiling, happy or helping others doesn't mean he hasn't any problems. Don't be jealous of such people if you come across one such person. They have the ability to smile 'in spite of their problems' in their lives.
• Talking about one's problems to one and all actually increases the the time period one has to live with it or in finding the solution.

 

Problems – Me, My Guru

 

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Problems – Me, My Guru

“Will it go away” I asked hopefully.

“Not necessarily always. But, it will give you strength and better perspective to address the problem. You will be better equipped to face the situation. Your clarity will improve. You will find ways to accomplish the task undertaken. Don’t ask, just keep healing. Each unto his own! Every one’s experience is different and individual. It depends on the individual’s various facts – so we can’t compare between two identical (supposedly) situations” saying so she left us for the day.

And we were left with the path to walk upon – as ever!

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