On love and lover!

 

On love and lover!

I thought I was in love.

I thought I loved.

And,

I felt sad, depressed, angry, frustrated that my love was not returned.

I was angry that I still remained unfulfilled.

My desires were not attended to.

I was where I started.

Then with tear filled eyes I looked at my lover.

First I saw all the pain and suffering inspite of being in love.

And then, as I kept looking at my 'love' I SAW

I saw that 

I was suffering because I was waiting for something in exchange for my love!

How stupid of me! And how stupid of my love!? 

Then I saw that just loving Him was worth everything...

then I saw that loving Him was all that mattered.

I didn't have to look for returns in this love.

Just the act of love redeemed me of all my pains

and then I knelt down and thanked Him for letting me love Him!

# on love, lover, expectations, conditions of love, returns in love 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=I+lessness 

Questions addressed : 

• What is love?
• What should I expect from love?
• Desire and love - is there a connection

Points to be understood :

• As long as you seek anything - any type of gratification, returns, fulfillment from the object of love you DON'T LOVE!
• When you expect something in return to what you give then that is barter system. In Business (since barter is a form of business), there is bound to be pain and suffering. There is bound to be loss and failure. Your expectations will break and yes, you will cry more than you laugh.
• But when you love, it makes you pure over time and you walk from one state of happiness to an another ONLY. There is no loss or failure here. There is no expectation that is broken and no suffering that comes out of it. Love frees you. 
• conditions bind you but love frees you!

On Gratitude :

I knelt down in gratitude as I watched birds fly.

I knelt down in gratitude as I watched sunset.

I knelt down in gratitude as I could kneel down.

and then I kept kneeling down for reason after reason and had to stop when my legs could support my feelings no longer..........

Easy or the right way!

 

Easy or the right way!

When things go wrong in our life or

when things don't seem to go our way

it is so easy to sit and cry

it is much more easier to cry and complain

easier too is to find fault in other's doing or non-doing

and this easier path gives us pain and suffering

and all we get is pity

but

but there is also a right way

right way to do things and be

time spent in crying and cribbing 

fault-finding and suffering 

can be put to good use

to gain strength or to sit in sadhan

instead of seeking solace from someone outside of us

let's go within and find that strength

let's use techniques that pulled us up

the previous time that we slipped so

and cried and felt helpless

the same technique that helped us then

are good enough to see us through now too.....

seek not pity

seek not a shoulder to cry

how many more times will others 'take care' of you?

it's time you learn to get up on your own

for 

till the time you learn to do so, 

you'll end up coming to this very spot again and again

going in circles 

do you want to rot in your life?

think and think right!

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=why+me 

(PS :  If you are lazy/depressed/sad enough to not even read the links given then no point seeking help .........know you are happy being sad and being where you are. You want to be sad and no one - ABSOLUTELY NO ONE  is responsible for your state of affairs. What you do with your life is in  your hands - literally as reiki channel and yet......you want others to treat you as invalid and take care of you - think about it!

On receiving consequences of our karma

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On receiving consequences of our karma

Your anger is misplaced. No one is going to break this Universal law of Karma only to appease your anger. Remember that! 

No amount of explaining all this can give your clarity unless you sit and meditate. Go within. Look within. Know thyself – honestly. It is painful and disgusting – but it is better done now than later. Sooner we own up our desires and know their nature, sooner we can address them the right way.

Sooner we address them, sooner we can experience of abundance in our lives.

Sooner will our suffering end and we would have used our pain to come out of that pain. We would have used pain to become free from our very pain that is killing us since many lives.

Your choice today will decide your destiny and what you receive now onwards.

Your mind will take you down the ‘usual lane’ of pain and suffering with its anger and logical arguments (so called!) OR

You can use your mind to cut through its game and cunningness.

Is your mind using you or are you using your mind? That is the million dollar question that only benefits or breaks you.

Think! 

Concluded....

# karma, karma's consequences,law of give and take, as you sow so you receive, law of attraction of Universe, why we receive what we receive, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=cow+is+tied+to+the+man 

Questions addressed : 

• What are the ways to surmount karma?
• How to change the way we receive?
• What should we sow so that we receive as we seek?

points to be understood : 

• No amount of crying our of fear, seeking attention or pity or shouting 'feeling bad' etc will give any respite from what we are supposed to receive.
• Accept that we are the creators of our fate!
• Next, bear what we are facing with poise and equanimity!
• Take charge of how you react to all that you are receiving.
• Look at your emotions - whatever they are - be them fear, pain, anger, lust, jealous anything - instead of justifying them or supporting them, heal them. Don't ask for reason to heal them. Just heal them. That is the only way to address them.
• Be patient. Be healing. Be changing for better. Be aware of your intentions and actions. Catch yourself from harmful thoughts. 
• Walk towards light and abundance with clarity of thought.

On receiving consequences of our karma

 

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On receiving consequences of our karma

There are two options available to one and all always!

1.Following the path of Dharma and inheriting the kingdom of God. In this path we develop ‘Divine qualities’ like patience, trust, discipline, perseverance, selflessness, charity, sacrifice, truthfulness, simplicity and purity. 

Simultaneously we also work on letting go off lust, greed, being adamant, ego, vengeance, anger, hatred, selfishness, jealousy, envy, laziness, indiscipline, irresponsible, lying, falsehood and attachments.

As we work to develop required qualities and let go off asuric qualities, we experience abundance in the form of purity, happiness, love, contentment and peace.

2.The second path is chosen by those who wish to live life as they desire – without any rules of Dharma to correct, stop or guide them.

No one can question them their choice?! It is their right. But, with every right comes responsibility too! Here too! He is responsible for his actions and hence should bear consequences of his acts!

You can’t follow second path and demand the goodies of the first path.

You can’t say ‘I want what I want the way I want’ and then seek asylum under ‘first’ category. 

Ravana was given the title of being the ‘Greatest Shiva Bhaktha’ and yet he met his end and his downfall for his acts. His bhakthi gave him benefits that he deserved for it. His suffering is the result of his karma. Mixing up both and coming up with ‘twisted logic’ doesn’t get you anywhere.

Your anger is misplaced. No one is going to break this Universal law of Karma only to appease your anger. Remember that! 

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# karma, karma's consequences,law of give and take, as you sow so you receive, law of attraction of Universe, why we receive what we receive, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=selfish 

Questions addressed : 

• I am doing sadhan regularly. I am a great bhaktha. That should be enough to protect me against my negative karma. right?
• Can a person who is doing reiki regularly get away with wrong deeds and thoughts? 

Points worth mentioning :

• Karma's effect can be negated by those who have stopped the negative karmas completely and are living only for others and in service of others.
• Condonement of sins is received out of His Grace. It is not an entitlement. It is not your right. It can't be demanded.
• Only the humble in heart, free of ego, person who is pure is eligible to receive his grace.
• Become pure and receive His Grace!

Suggest other links /posts that you think supports this topic. You can do so for every post that you read in future.......

On receiving consequences of our karma

 

On receiving consequences of our karma

Dhritarashtra* lived his greed and lust for power through his son. He paid the price ultimately by losing all 100 sons of his. Not only did he become cause of annihilation of his sons, he became cause of annihilation of all the dynasties of that era! One man’s lust for power and the world paid the price for it. if you think it is some imaginary Indian Mythology and it has no relevance in my life, then just look closely at today’s stories.

Hitler is a classic example of lust for power. So many innocent lives taken and all in the name of retaining the ‘pure blood’ and cleansing the Earth of impure race!

Every scam has been the result of ‘that person’s lust’ for power, money and possessions. And every scam put a dent in society’s economic structure. So many lost their hard earned money and lives! When ‘lust’ exhibited by others is wrong, would it be ‘right’ to call ‘ours’ as right and justified – be it in any area of our life?

Others wrong we are so angry with and want to kill them even! And ours, we are angry that Reiki/God is not fulfilling our ‘desire’? 

Contd.....

PS : You get your answer if you see for it. But if you think your matter is not discussed here, then you'll not see it and think 'maam is not answering me?!' 

Tip : We don't see the 'answer' given because we are seeing from the angle of wanting the solution our way. And here, the basis of 'problem' is dealt with and the way to heal it......

Dhritarashtra* - read related post on Dhritarashtra  https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Dhritarashtra 

# karma, karma's consequences,law of give and take, as you sow so you receive, law of attraction of Universe, why we receive what we receive, 

Questions addressed : 

• Why we receive what we receive?
• Why we don't receive what we desire?
• How desire is harmful to us?
• When and which desires are harmful for us?

Points to be understood : 

• Our suffering and being in pain has nothing to do with the circumstances of life.
• We will suffer in both the situations - on the fulfillment of desire and its non-fulfillment too! It has nothing to do with the desire. It has to do with the centre from which we desire! 
• Our anger is not the justification of our desire. 

Need a feedback : 

Every time I write, i feel i am repeating myself like 'nth' time. So, i stop writing and get up. Then later i tell myself, maybe till now the way it was presented was not easy for them to understand. Maybe, if i write this time differently with some other example or story, they will understand this. So, i compel myself to writing. 

So, if you feel this topic is written more than required then do let me know, i'll stop writing on that particular topic. Otherwise, you'll get new stories but telling the same thing said again. 

Some get it the first time. Some get it with a simple sentence. Some need a story to see the 'obvious'. But which story will strike one can't be told or expected. I can only keep writing different stories hoping this story will put some light on the topic. 

These are basic alphabets in the language of spiritual science. Unless you get to learn it right we can't go ahead. I can talk and explain many more things but then it will be just one more 'Harry potter story'. We are not here to learn or hear  stories. We are here to understand the root cause of our pain and suffering and remove all obstacles that stop us from experiencing the abundance in our life. I am just using stories and some examples to explain this. My purpose is not to just tell stories...😊

Once you learn this then in which field you wish to apply depends on you and your desires and priorities. 

i can't go ahead unless you pick these 'essential truths'. So i end up with the same old facts and figures.

I promise to get you as many stories as possible to explain every single issue every time. But the purpose of story is same - to drive home the 'truths'. 

On receiving consequences of our karma

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On receiving consequences of our karma

when others wrong we are so angry with and want to kill them even! And ours, we are angry that Reiki/God is not fulfilling our ‘desire’?

Just because I have a desire, can I say it has to be fulfilled by hook or crook? And when time to bear its consequences comes, end up saying things like –

“But I should be given free pass under Reiki quoto…”

“Maam, save me, I am afraid of my karma coming back..”

“But everyone does…and it is acceptable now-a-days..”

Read the lines multiple time…..

You are saying “I will do as and how I wish but I should not be made responsible for the consequences”. Think for yourself, how right or justified are you in this demand?!

Look at yourself.

Look within.

Understand your intentions, desire and character.

If you can stoop to any level to get your desire fulfilled, so be it!

But then like Ravana, Shakuni have strength to face the downfall and the consequence of every desire fulfilled.

There are two options available to one and all always! 

1.Following the path of Dharma and inheriting the kingdom of God. In this path we develop ‘Divine qualities’ like patience, trust, discipline, perseverance, selflessness, charity, sacrifice, truthfulness, simplicity and purity.

Simultaneously we also work on letting go off lust, greed, being adamant, ego, vengeance, anger, hatred, selfishness, jealousy, envy, laziness, indiscipline, irresponsible, lying, falsehood and attachments.

As we work to develop required qualities and let go off asuric qualities, we experience abundance in the form of purity, happiness, love, contentment and peace. 

Contd.....

# karma, karma's consequences,law of give and take, as you sow so you receive, law of attraction of Universe, why we receive what we receive, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Thief+-+a+Shiva+bhaktha  

Questions addressed : 

• What are the qualities to be developed to minimize negative karma?
• What are the qualities to be transformed to reduce negative effect of karma?

Points to be understood : 

• Two persons action being same, results are different. Why? Because of the difference in their intent. Know that and work on the intent.
• We fool people by covering our intent with logic and justifications. We justify our actions quoting 'right examples in wrong places'. We may end up fooling people to think we are 'good'. But Universe can't be fooled. It gives us back based on our intent not based on how we market ourselves as!
• Beware! Universe can't be fooled. No one is so intelligent to fool the Universe.
• Our arguments and logic holds no ground in the field of Universe. 

Was this useful?

Did you understand anything different this time?

How is it going to be applied to better your lives?

Query Addressed

 

Query addressed : 

PS : further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/01/on-receiving-grace_30.html?showComment=1612034500637

read further on karma to understand how our present situations are created by past lives : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=me%2C+my+Guru+-+Ramayana+and+Rama+-+Indian+Mythology  

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=nara+and+narayana 

Our present 'good deeds' will shield us, protect us and benefit us in future but we have to face the effects of our past in our present! 

If we are to bear the consequences of our past acts then what is the purpose and benefit of doing reiki/healing now : read the related link : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=krishna%27s+death 

I hope most of your questions have been answered by now.....others are answered in other posts. search and get those answers.....

Remember, don't try to satisfy that mind of yours by going through links of karma of every great person from his life. These stories serve their purpose when the point is driven home. Once done, sit to heal. Why should we know about Rama, Krishna, Buddha, Ramana, Shabari, Narada, Indra and who not!

Look within. Meditate. Find why you are searching for all these answers. Every question should get you to the centre not taking you away from it. Think about it!