On love and lover!

 

On love and lover!

I thought I was in love.

I thought I loved.

And,

I felt sad, depressed, angry, frustrated that my love was not returned.

I was angry that I still remained unfulfilled.

My desires were not attended to.

I was where I started.

Then with tear filled eyes I looked at my lover.

First I saw all the pain and suffering inspite of being in love.

And then, as I kept looking at my 'love' I SAW

I saw that 

I was suffering because I was waiting for something in exchange for my love!

How stupid of me! And how stupid of my love!? 

Then I saw that just loving Him was worth everything...

then I saw that loving Him was all that mattered.

I didn't have to look for returns in this love.

Just the act of love redeemed me of all my pains

and then I knelt down and thanked Him for letting me love Him!

# on love, lover, expectations, conditions of love, returns in love 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=I+lessness 

Questions addressed : 

• What is love?
• What should I expect from love?
• Desire and love - is there a connection

Points to be understood :

• As long as you seek anything - any type of gratification, returns, fulfillment from the object of love you DON'T LOVE!
• When you expect something in return to what you give then that is barter system. In Business (since barter is a form of business), there is bound to be pain and suffering. There is bound to be loss and failure. Your expectations will break and yes, you will cry more than you laugh.
• But when you love, it makes you pure over time and you walk from one state of happiness to an another ONLY. There is no loss or failure here. There is no expectation that is broken and no suffering that comes out of it. Love frees you. 
• conditions bind you but love frees you!

On Gratitude :

I knelt down in gratitude as I watched birds fly.

I knelt down in gratitude as I watched sunset.

I knelt down in gratitude as I could kneel down.

and then I kept kneeling down for reason after reason and had to stop when my legs could support my feelings no longer..........

Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love

 

Contd.....

Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love

She was a bit tensed as she re-ran her accounts. Her friend chided her saying “What about the milk you gave your lover? Did you count that?”

The milkmaid immediately retorted “Does anyone keep count of what one gives and how much one gives to his lover? Forget that and help me with my count”.

They all laughed and left after a while.

Now, there was a sanyasi lying on the other side of the tree. He was not visible because of thick foliage. He had been meditating for past 10 years in the jungle since the day he took sanyasi and yet he was not happy with the progress. One day he said “God, I’ve been meditating so long and yet you haven’t made me ‘realized’. I’ve even counted mantras ‘n’ number of times. And yet, with no fruit. I doubt if YOU exist. I don’t think I need to waste my time on such God!” He had left his place in jungle. Being tired, he lied down under this very banyan tree.

Contd.....

# on love, business and love, attitudes, Me,My Guru series, love by a milkmaid, purity, unconditional love, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=and+then+I+knelt+down+and+thanked+Him+for+letting+me+love+Him%21 

Some posts are very simple but effective...said in very few words and yet those few words encompass all that needs to be said...and the above link is one such post (for me!)

Tips to understand the post : 

"One day he said “God, I’ve been meditating so long and yet you haven’t made me ‘realized’. I’ve even counted mantras ‘n’ number of times. And yet, with no fruit. I doubt if YOU exist. I don’t think I need to waste my time on such God!” He had left his place in jungle. Being tired, he lied down under this very banyan tree." - Even a casual way of talking or speaking on God is answered immediately - if only we know where and how to listen. Our every question is answered. But being adamant about even the answer to receive and the way we want to receive it, we don't take the answer and help that is sent to us!!! And then cry 'maam/God, why are you not coming to my help/aid/answering my question?' 

to understand the above explanation go through this https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+why+God+doesn%27t+come+to+my+rescue 

What did you understand from this story/post?

How is it applicable to your situation and complaint?

Where did you think you missed out on following this understanding few days back?