Me, My Guru – On receiving more or less!

 

Contd.....

Me, My Guru – On receiving more or less!

And next, I sat to do ‘japa’ of set number of malas thanking HIM for showing me immediately about my flaw in thinking! How generous of HIM to take time to show even my little flaws the moment it is committed by me!? How can one not love back HIM who is ocean of such unconditional love? How can HE be so caring? I danced with joy. I cried out of love and gratitude for HIM….”

“But what is there to laugh here?” I asked.

“Oh! That! Well, my mind was being smart and arrogant in thinking I can think whatever I want and nobody will come to know of it! And see, immediately it was shown its place! I was imaging my ‘mind’ curling its tail and hiding behind some stool …..” she replied.

Here she was, talking about her mind in third person and also immediately sitting to address its flaw and wrong way of thinking.

I came here to ask “You and I both do the same sadhan technique and yet why is there so much of difference in the results?” and wanted to argue and hurt her on so many levels. But with this simple incident she explained it all so clearly.

It is not about the technique. It was about its usage. Accepting our flaw and disowning the mind was the key to one’s growth and healing. Here I was ‘being adamant’ about ‘how right I was’ ALWAYS!  And yet, here she was even accepting her little mistake (that too just in thought and that too, a flowing thought…!).

She addressed it immediately. She didn’t own it. She didn’t support it. She didn’t make it her ego. And we didn’t take time to do even general healing – forget about healing thoughts and actions of the day!

I kept all my arguments with myself. I knew where I lacked and where I needed to work on. I left her place earlier than others. I had lots of healing to catch up with!

No point sitting there and listening to others and her talk. The point was ‘to heal’. How much we wrote down in our notes didn’t matter. I went home to heal! 

Concluded.....

# on healing, day-to-day healings, awareness, alertness, attitude, character, flaws, ego, 

Questions addressed : 

• What is love? How we miss out on seeing love because of our wrong definition of love?
• How to address relationship problems - esp. in marriage?
• Is your spouse or mil responsible for your problems in marriage?
• Is divorce and re-marriage solution to your marital problem?

Points worth learning :

• For us love is 'when we receive something that we demand - esp. in material form ONLY'. This definition reflects our selfishness. And yet, we based on 'our selfishness' go around telling one and all that the 'other person' is not 'loving and caring'. We call 'others' in our relationship bad, insensitive and not giving. How stupid are we?
• By tolerating our abuse the other person still holds on to the relationship - if that is not love what is?
• We are demanding and putting conditions on the other. And yet say we are 'suffering because of the other in the relationship'. How convenient is that!? No doubt we are never happy in relationships. 
• Our selfishness, being adamant and demanding are the root cause of problems in our relationship - not the other person. Know this, Accept this, work on this and heal this. ONLY then you are find happiness in life!

Me, My Guru – On receiving more or less!

 

Me, My Guru – On receiving more or less!

Today, I was more than usual angry. I wanted to shout at her. I wanted to argue with her. In short, I wanted to prove her wrong in every single way. I was prepared with my set of ‘logical arguments and case to prove’. I had to be prepared with her. She was ‘clever in giving examples and proving her point’. I hated her for that! But today, I was more than just prepared. I was smiling cheek to cheek as I entered her premises. The joy of ‘imagining her to lose to my arguments’ gave me the high that I couldn’t explain!!!

We sat down. We completed our routine and waited for her. She came with a smile and sat down in her seat. She didn’t even wait for us to say anything. She started giggling and started speaking “Guess what happened today!? I was sweeping today and I felt my back was good enough to bend today. And so, I bent more than usual under the bed to sweep. And lo! I hit my nose on ‘The foot board’ and wow what a feeling! I stood still for some time, laughed and continued my sweeping. I didn’t even wait to mop. I simply sat down to heal. I hurt my nose that means somewhere my ego had expressed itself in the wrong way. I was being a ‘showoff’. First I healed myself off my ‘ego’ and ‘need to showoff’. I also healed my ‘image’ that I was trying to build or keep up with. I then sat in meditation to see where I had done these things in the recent past. I healed that situation even though I couldn’t get to the exact situation. 

Contd.....

# on healing, day-to-day healings, awareness, alertness, attitude, character, flaws, ego, 

Questions addressed :

• How to use everyday situations and issues to better ourselves and our life?
• What is it to be aware and alert in our day to day life?
• Why doesn't Reiki stop me from being wrong even as I am doing it?
• What to do when once I realize I am wrong or I had done something wrong?

Points worth noting :

• Instead of asking questions as 'why this happened to me?' / 'why did this happen inspite of my healing? / when will this bad time end? / i just want to be happy and successful, why can't I? etc etc.... simply sit to heal every time you are hurt physically / emotionally / financially / psychologically or any other wise.....you would have used life and its issues to grow as a person. Over years you would have become stronger, fearless, balanced, successful, calmer, healthier, happier with good relationships and not to forget more beautiful too...........
• Reiki is talking to use through our every facet of life. But the big question is 'Are you listening?'. 
• We can listen to Universe/Reiki/Guru talking and correcting us/ showing us the way ONLY when we silence our mind. If we can't silence our mind at least don't support it. Stop supporting it in its arguments and there bam! you find your answers and solutions staring at you. All you need to do is sit and heal the required area of your personality.

Mind - enemy or friend!

 

Mind - enemy or friend!

Our mind should be our slave. It was designed to be so. (This is already told and written so many times previously too!)

We associate our 'ego' with our mind. And yet are not cautious enough to 'mind' our mind correctly. 

We are not aware of the games our mind plays.

Unless we know the strengths and weakness of our opponent (enemy) how can we even imagine to win against it?

We should know the rules the mind follows to beat it in its own game.

Logic is the 'weapon' mind uses to confuse us and keep us off the track. Beware of it! (Care to give some examples?)

One simple trick to help you use mind's weakness to your advantage is this - when you have some work that is boring, irritating simply tell yourself that you'll treat yourself to something that you desire after it is done. 

Like for eg. you like talking to your mom/friend daily. Don't do that unless you complete the task of dusting or washing your dishes. Do this and tell your experience. Simple but very effective.

Instead of talking to your mom it can be reading a book/watching TV/ going or checking the social media/ listening to music etc.....

and

instead of dusting or washing it can be any work - household routine/office work or even sadhan....

hope it is clear..........

#mind, how to befriend your mind

suggested readings : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+mind 

On bringing pain from future.........

 

On bringing pain from future.........

Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Just+do+that%21 .....

Read the article 'Just do that!' again to see and understand this continuation........

Some of you have given wonderful feedbacks. They did reveal something about us. 

a.We love postponing our 'even' little jobs/daily routine works as much as possible.

b.We think it is too small to be bothered about. We don't give it a thought. We don't sit in meditation and try to find out the cause of it.

c. Result is - we end up thinking 'our irritation and anger' is because of some other member of the family who is not doing 'the work' which we are so regularly postponing doing.

d.We end up being angry with him. We end up fighting with them. We end up messing up our relationships and atmosphere of our house.

e. All this in the name of 'wanting the house to be clean'. 

f. But if we only see the article - you'll see clearly that it took few minutes to complete the job that was 'supposed to be huge and boring' to me. That means we 'imagine' differently from the fact. What we assume is not true. We 'think bigger than real' ALWAYS! 

g. In article I had written, when I put my mind to rest and simply started doing the job, it took hardly 15mts and lo! I was happy too. 

We many times postpone doing jobs ASSUMING or THINKING  them to be hard/boring/ not to my like/etc etc.......but if and when we sit to work on them, it ends up being very simple and effortless......

think about it........

apply it to daily routine jobs....

and also can't we not apply to every situation in our life. We imagine our future to be something bad, ugly, frightful and what not. But it ends up being just fine - every time and yet....we do the same thing again and again......why?

Don't bring imaginary future pain into present. In the past you had wonderful healing experiences. Go through them. Collect your trust from them. Strengthen your trust from them. Now use that strength to face your present situation. Heal it, address it and have patience - do what is required and wait........let things fall in place as time unfolds......

all things will fall in place the right way at right time........

trust your trust.......

Do you have any previous post to support this thought?

do you have any experiences and understanding to go with this?

on vaccines and vaccination

 

(in continuation of https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=vaccines)

on vaccines and vaccination 

For those who want to make good use of this compulsive situation, here are few tips to use this situation also to our advantage.

Sit in meditation and ask the following questions :

1.What am I afraid of reg. vaccine?

2. Why am I afraid of vaccine?

3. Is my fear based on facts or my imagination?

4. Has reiki healing helped me previously with my health related problems and healed me back to normalcy? Have people called my health as a miracle? If yes, then won't the same techniques help me to go through this time and vaccine too? 

Do the above exercise and only then go to the next part of explanation....

If it is found that we have fear, then what is the one we need to address here? Fear or vaccine? Fear or disease?

If it is fear, don't we need to heal our fear here?

Don't trust the 'mind which is proud of its logical mind'. If you believe that mind's logic you'll suffer the consequences of logical thinking. Beware of such a mind!

Then why are we given mind maam? Good question! Mind is given to us to use logic to remove what is harmful to our way of thinking. And that happens ONLY when we sit and meditate and become masters of our own mind. As long as we are run by our mind, we are its slaves. That mind is harmful to us. It is our ONLY enemy that we need to deal with. Painful Situations and people are just reflections of such a mind!

Befriend your mind with meditation and pranayamam. Then it will take your towards your bliss. It will open doors that will let miracle happen in your life.

And it is this exact mind that is ADAMANT AND ARGUING WITH LOGIC  to stop you from becoming its master! Be aware and be alert of its move. Meditate!

We are the believers of Reiki and healing who have our experiences to support us. Your belief is not based on what I say or based on some book to follow. It is totally based on your experiences and clarity of thought that you have developed over the years. Fall back on that. And now sit to heal the fear with the various techniques known to you/taught to you in various classes. This circumstance in life is here to show us our 'weak link' in our persona and our way of thinking. Let's make our weak link strong. Let's remove the weakness of 'this fear' from our system. Let's sit to heal it. 

Don't ask "how many days should I heal maam?"

You know the answer "Till you are free of that fear!"

If you are bored of your own healing how and why should someone else be interested in making good in your life?

Think about it. The mind that wishes things fall in place on their own in his life and someone else does it for him is a selfish, greedy, lazy person's mind. Even when someone does something for him, he is going to be still dissatisfied saying "but you did XY for her and not to me..."He will only complain, crib, cry and seek pity from others. Are you with such a mind? If yes, heal that first. Address that and then work on next para.....

If no, get up, tighten your belts and heal yourself. Outgrow this fear once and for all! Let strength be your middle name. Learn to be self-reliant. Its great feeling to be respected. Pity is a disgusting substitute for it. Don't fall for it. 

Earn respect by being strong, by outgrowing fear. Healing it is the first step towards being strong. 

You have it in  you. Go for it!

Just do that!

 

Just do that!

Recently there were lots of 'little things' I needed to attend to (as ever though!!) and I kept postponing doing them. My assumption was that I was too busy to do these things NOW! So it was for 3-4 days and the 'work' kept staring at me every single minute. As I passed the pile of clothes I had to fold it irritated me. As I had to clean my desk, it irritated me. Dusting, washing everything was so glaringly staring at me all through the day and I was getting more and more irritated. 

So say on the 4th or 5th day, when I went into my room and saw the pile of clothes I started folding them. I had actually gone into that room for some other work and yet.....it took say 10mts to do that job. I was surprised. My clean room gave me a high and incentive enough to go for my next pending job. 

And then that took say 15mts. Every job I took up took something between 5-15mts. I ended up doing all the pending jobs that day. 

And as a perk I made myself a wonderful cup of tea and relished it satisfied of the jobs I had completed..! 

What does this incident teach us?

Do we have something to take home and apply in our day-to-day life?

Will this post make a difference in the way we conduct ourselves from now on?

Why did I not do the chores the first time itself? Why did I postpone it in the first place?

# postponing, little jobs, just do it, now or never, heal now, its easy to do now than later........

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=postponing 

Questions answered and addressed :

• How to address the pain that we experience of 'future'?
• Can we address the fear that comes when we are thinking of the future?

on waiting

 

On waiting!

We have a desire and we WANT  it to be fulfilled immediately.

We don't WANT  something or someone in our life and we want it/them to go away immediately. It can be a disease, financial commitment, promotion, buying/selling a house, having children, wanting good relationships etc etc....

We want people in our life, situations in our life to change overnight.

We all know that we need to get up at 3 am and do our sadhan daily. We need to do 'suryanamaskar and suryopasana' daily at sun rise and sunset to keep our body and house healthy. And yet we have our reasons to not do so. We justify and strongly believe our reasons to be valid too! We are not ready to CHANGE  for our betterment. We ourselves are not ready to change for our betterment!!!!

Read the last sentence of the previous para again and again.

And yet, we want people in our life to change as per our desire and taste.

We want children to behave as we want them to.

We want our spouses to talk and behave right (as per our expectations!!).

We want our relatives to be good to us.

We want our work environment to suit our taste.

We want everything to go as per our taste. We want everything and everyone to work for our comfort. 

But when we, our body, our mind itself revolts against our 'wanting to get up early' or 'be active' or 'do exercise daily' and such very many little wishes and resolutions, how can you expect some other person to work for your wish fulfillment?

Think about it!

Let us learn to be good to ourselves first.

Let us learn to fulfill our own check list of things and habits to do and pick up first. Let's stick to it for some time first. Lets change for better first. Let's improve towards our better life style, eating and sleeping habits, way of thinking and then, ONLY THEN let's expect others to fit into our bill......