Sunday, June 17, 2018

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story


On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story


Contd....


But people who live only among their select group of people end up demeaning, belittling, insulting and judging anyone and everyone who  doesn’t fit into their limited circle of ‘likes and dislikes’. Such people are more in number and hence come under the delusion that ‘they are right’. Unfortunately, they don’t know the maxims “The mass always goes by ‘mob thinking’ but the leader thinks his own”.

“The mass takes up all that is pleasant and convenient for them and then blow their own trumpets declaring self as the custodians of tradition”.

“The mass changes its values and principles based on their convenience and being stupid enough to presume that no one remembers their previously said words or acts go on declaring their present code of conduct as the yardstick of measurement of others character.  (cat drinking milk)

The wise/leader reflects on his words and acts and understands the scope of widening the perspective and hence changes his values and principles. Because he is aware of the fact that opinions, beliefs and traditions/rituals are subject to change based on circumstances, doesn’t judge others for the same. He doesn’t sit to gossip on others’ way of life and code of conduct. He lives and lets others live their life. But the mass or the lower cadre in the ladder of spirituality only exist to malign others, mad mouth, judge, gossip and condemn others. “But thousand dogs barking don’t make an elephant evil”. Alas! If only they understand. But then how can they? They are maggots living in the stagnant pool of their minds breading only filth of emotions, ideas, beliefs, opinions reflecting their or rather their lack of character.

Saturday, June 16, 2018

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story


Explanation Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=frog+in+the+well


On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story



One of the causes of pain and suffering is ‘difference’ between people. The difference usually is in the following areas:

1.Religion and caste

2.Language

3.Food habits

4.Daily habits

5.Manners and etiquettes

6.Dress code

7.Life style choices

8.Belief systems and

9.Opinions

(you can add on the rest that come to your mind..)

All the above difference can be again broadly classified as

1.Life style Choices

2.Belief systems and opinions

One effects at physical level and the other at mental level eg. Opinions etc. Once you see them as just these differences it is surprising as to how this difference can create disharmony in our lives and affect our state of mind and peace of mind and happiness.

In actuality ‘variety’ is the spice of life. Then how come this ‘variety’ becomes the basis of our fights and resentment. This becomes the cause of difference between people.

The frog in the well story just explains this aspect clearly.


Similarly we live in the tininess of our ‘wells’ be it of life-style, opinions, principles, religion – just about anything. And then from the tininess of our ‘wells’ we judge the other who also lives in the similar ‘small well’ of his own. And each considers his well to be superior to the other. Each presumes his ‘well’ to be ‘the all’ of the Universe which gives them the belief “Only I am Right” and anyone who is outside of my ‘well’ which is way of living, opinion, tastes, likes and dislikes is a ‘bad person’ by default.


If, if only each one of us could come out of this limitedness of well and see the expanse of ocean of life, then there would be less or no pain, suffering, dislike and more or only respect, love and happiness in the world. How? Simple! All I need to understand is my life-style is comfortable to me and hence right for me but to the other his life-style is more akin to him. In short each is right in our way of living unfortunately we carry a wrong belief system that if I am right the other is automatically wrong and hence with our survival instinct put down the other to be right. It need not be so. We both can disagree on any issue and yet both can be right. That is the actual Truth. The one who is exposed to larger world or group of people from various backgrounds will be more open to variety and choice of others in contrast to people who live among a small limited and similar group of people.

contd....

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=belief+system

Friday, June 15, 2018

FOR WHOM THE BELL TOLLS - The short story




FOR WHOM THE BELL TOLLS - The two horses


Just near my house there is a field, with two horses in it. From a distance, each horse looks like the other. But if you stop and watch you will find something amazing. One of the horse is blind. His owner has chosen not to put it down. If you stand a little longer, you will hear the sound of a bell, ringing. It is coming from the other horse in the field. Attached to the horse's halter, is a small bell. It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow. As you stand and watch the two friends. you will find the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and slowly walk to where the other horse is, trusting he will not go astray. 

Like the owner of the two horses, GOD does not throw us away just because we are imperfect or problematic. He watches over us and brings others into our lives to help us when we are in need. Sometimes we are the blind horse being guided by the ringing bell of those who GOD places in our lives. Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way. 

Good friends are like that. You may not always see them, but you know they are always there. 

Have you ever been a 'guide horse' to others? If yes, then cherish those memories for they mean you have lived those moments right! Work on increasing those moments in your lives....






Have you been the blind horse guided by some guide horse or horses in your life? If yes, note them down, kneel down and praise the God for those are the blessings sent from above.......



query on guilt!



i request all to pitch in their understanding and support too for the following 'state of mind'...i am sure you all have become deft in understanding the before and after of this sentence too "I feel a lot of guilt and that really makes me suffer more than anything else. I always feel guilty that may be I haven't utilized my abilities to the best or that I have not done anything to those who love me. I find it difficult to get out of it. "....

i am just giving few related posts, others - you can too remind of previous posts that are related to this state of mind and ways and means to come out of it.....

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=butterfly




esp. the post on 'worth' and the posts related to query "Even if i don't write/contribute' to the blog, you people said i am worth and not useless etc...." please read that and posts related to that query....

Thursday, June 14, 2018

on intelligence!




The happy monkey - Short story - on letting go!


The happy monkey - Short story - on letting go!




There once was a happy monkey wandering the jungle, eating delicious fruit when hungry, and resting when tired. One day he came upon a house, where he saw a bowl of the most beautiful apples. He took one in each hand and ran back into the forest. He sniffed the apples and smelled nothing. He tried to eat them, but hurt his teeth. They were made of wood, but they were beautiful, and when the other monkeys saw them, he held onto them even tighter.  He admired his new possessions proudly as he wandered the jungle. They glistened red in the sun, and seemed perfect to him. 

He became so attached to them, that he didn't even notice his hunger at first. A fruit tree reminded him, but he felt the apples in his hands. He couldn't bear to set them down to reach for the fruit. In fact, he couldn't relax, either, if he was to defend his apples. A proud, but less happy monkey continued to walk along the forest trails. The apples became heavier, and the poor little monkey thought about leaving them behind. He was tired, hungry, and he couldn't climb trees or collect fruit with his hands full. What if he just let go? 

Letting go of such valuable things seemed crazy, but what else could he do? He was so tired. Seeing the next fruit tree, and smelling it's fruit was enough. He dropped the wooden apples and reached up for his meal. He was happy again. 



Like that little monkey, we sometimes carry things that seem too valuable to let go. We carry an image of self like the shiny wooden apple. But in reality, our engrossment leaves us exhausted, worried and hungry for a better life. Still, letting go seems crazy. Sisyphus syndrome...?  You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. It takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. You must learn to let go. Release the stress. Unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself , you cannot move forward.