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Pointers to understand the post:

““Guruji, I surrendered and yet things didn’t go my way. And you still ask me to believe in God? How can I trust Him if HE doesn’t fulfill my wishes – MY WAY!” asked Vaishnav.” – This is the very oft repeated question/complaint/doubt. The anger that stems from it or that is behind this question/complaint/doubt is also a very common one.

There are two ways of living our lives. One is that we assume to be “normal” (quoting others in our lives) and in justifying our demands/desires and in being angry/frustrated/disappointed/depressed/hopeless and so on.

The other is more “The Right way” and hence less taken one too. It involves that we address our state of mind instead of the issue in our lives. We look at ourselves and see how and why we are feeling a certain emotion. In this path, we take responsibility for our well-being and state of mind in our hands. We stop blaming others for the mess in our lives. This path empowers us in the long run.

But then, as I already said, this is the path less taken and hence assumed to be “not for everyone”!!

“He was fuming with anger. And to him, he was justified. He was wronged by our Guru, Reiki and God. They have let him down. He had every right to be angry with them – or so he thought!” – Look at the words here. It is clearly said, “to him, he was justified for his anger”. Is it not so with each one of us in every situation in our lives when we think we are suffering our anger/hatred or any such emotion because of others? We ASSUME, I repeat, assume that we are justified in feeling so. As long as we give power to others to take away our peace of mind, we will be victims of our situations. We live in an assumption and belief that if the situation in our lives gets corrected we will be happy. It never is so! We think if people in our lives change for good we will be happy. This too is never right.

Look at the desires and emotions. Sit in meditation. Know their cause. Know their impact on you. Know their hold on you. Become free of their hold on you. That is true freedom! That is empowerment. There is no other way to happiness and freedom!"

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

Question time:

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If you are not happy with God’s way of running your life, don’t surrender. Go your way!

Work out your life and desires your way. No one can object to that. You have both choices. You take the one that is beneficial and up to your preference.

But if you hold others’ responsible for the results that you seek, the only think you are walking towards and creating for yourself is hell of pain and suffering!

To know, accept and outgrow that we all need to meditate – a lot and then put all the techniques that we know to apply what we know to practice.”

She left us for the day!

We didn’t leave her or the topic – for many days to come.

Later too, we just pushed this topic and related emotions into the background.

Other issues cropped up that demanded our attention – hence!

And those emotions lay there buried fuming to express themselves with a little trigger!

Would we be able to know then that these emotions had surfaced?

Only Time would tell?

For now, we thought we had left them behind us for good!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/05/expectations-and-conditions_20.html 

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Once you meditate and understand this, you’ll understand the nature of desire. The Ego survives because of our desires. So it keeps generating desires one after the other. The story never ends.

But if we take a pause and meditate, we’ll see how our emotions make us run from here to there – driving us crazy.

Then in that state of understanding when we surrender our desire to Reiki or God, then, we know that “whatever happens, happens for our good”.

We’ll not use ‘our stupid logic’ and pose questions like “But this happens in everyone’s life know?”

OR

“But everyone is happy…”

“We’ll not play a ‘victim-card’ to project ourselves as ‘poor baby’.

We’ll stop all these childish games.

And in that wait which is full of faith and trust – not hope of fulfillment, a certain miracle happens. The doors of abundance opens. This necessarily doesn’t mean our desire is fulfilled though. In each one’s life, the abundance and miracle take a different hue. It all depends on his soul agenda, journey, karma, worthiness and need of the hour.

Then, the sadhak doesn’t see the storm that is in his life – he sees the “rainbow” – the miracle as promised by Reiki or God!

Surrender is a big thing! It is not a word as you say or think. It takes janmas to understand it right and apply it.

Many use it to avoid playing their part in the happenings of their life. They are weak ones. They are escapists. Surrender is not that also!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/05/faith.html 

read the link to understand what faith is made of.........

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He often thought he was logical and right when he posed questions or argued his points. But those listening to him could clearly see flaws in his attitude, words and logic! The day we are able to do the same with our words, feelings, emotions and logic would be the day we have won ‘Olympic Gold’ in the ‘Spiritual World’. Would I see that day in this life of mine, I wondered!

“Yes, you can. Nobody can question that. It’s just that not all demands are given in to by our Father! Isn’t it the same with our biological fathers too?

( https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/real-growth-is-in-letting-go.html )

“To ask is our right and to fulfill it is His Choice”.

To love a girl is your right. But it is the girl’s choice to accept it or not.

To apply to a Company is your right, they accepting it or not is their right! Isn’t it?

You expecting your children to take care of you in old age is your right. They doing so or not is their choice” she continued.

“Ok, ok, I get it. then why should I surrender when He may not fulfill it?” asked Vaishnav visibly irritated.

“No, you didn’t GET IT. if you had you wouldn’t have asked this question. We DEMAND that our wish be fulfilled because we become restless, disturbed, adamant and demanding because of our desires. We DON’T LIKE being in that space of disturbed state. So, we ASSUME we’ll become calm and peaceful if and when our desires are fulfilled. But it doesn’t happen so. We may become calm for very little time but the next desire comes to disturb us. This way we keep going from one desire to the other.

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/09/on-belief-and-trust.html

Point to consider:

I take pains to search for the link that adds meaning and gives answers to your questions as you read through the present post. When I can take pains to do so, why can't you take the trouble to read the link to get your answers, is the question that bothers me since years.......

Or 

better still, I think I can stop doing this unnecessary work of giving links of the previous posts for your read.......

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Our Guru smiled and shared this beautiful, small yet profound anecdote with us.

“In a certain lived two neighbours. The drainage of one house-holder was going through the compound of the other house-holder. One insisted stoppage of the drainage and the other refused to do so. An arbitration was arranged. Arbiters were appointed. It was accepted that both would abide by the judgement of the board. Both agreed.

Then one refused to close his drains or change its course. He was adamant. Now the board was confused. Were they not selected to make a decision? But still, one wasn’t ready to accept the decision.

In the same way, surrender doesn’t mean “I’ll give you power to resolve this issue but it should be resolved my way.

If you’ve surrendered your desire it doesn’t mean God or Reiki will fulfill it! (https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/let-his-will-be-mine.html)

It means you’ve a desire and you’ve given God or Reiki to decide to give it or NOT to you. Either way it works, accept it as “Mahaprasadam”.

That is surrender!

Being happy only when it works as per your taste, preference and want is not surrender. That is demanding”.

“But you say God is our father. Then why can’t I demand from HIM? asked Vaishnav being very irritated.

He often thought he was logical and right when he posed questions or argued his points. But those listening to him could clearly see flaws in his attitude, words and logic! The day we are able to do the same with our words, feelings, emotions and logic would be the day we have won ‘Olympic Gold’ in the ‘Spiritual World’. Would I see that day in this life of mine, I wondered!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/07/me-my-guru-on-gaining-clarity-of-thought_23.html 

Every image in every post speaks volumes........SEE, NOTICE, ABSORB, MEDITATE ON IT, WORK ON IT TILL YOU LIVE IT ALL!

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

“Guruji, I surrendered and yet things didn’t go my way. And you still ask me to believe in God? How can I trust Him if HE doesn’t fulfill my wishes – MY WAY!” asked Vaishnav.

He was fuming with anger. And to him, he was justified. He was wronged by our Guru, Reiki and God. They have let him down. He had every right to be angry with them – or so he thought!

Were we all not so in similar instances that involved us?

We transferred our helplessness, frustrations, and desperation on people who had nothing to do with it – mostly and many times!

We understand where he came from. But, now being away and disassociated from (similar) situations, we could see how wrong he was.

It is so easy to know right from wrong when we are detached. Now, I understand why our Guru always asked us to practice detachment in our worldly affairs. We would be fair. We would be calm. We would act sensibly!

Our Guru smiled and shared this beautiful, small yet profound anecdote with us.

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/03/rama-purushottam.html 

read the beautiful story of the young boy to understand what "FAITH" actually means.......

Repeat sadhan of last year - Slowing down to receive Grace!

 

Repeat sadhan of last year - Slowing down to receive Grace!

The one common statement that I get to hear a lot is “I want to receive special treatment from you/God/Reiki. Well, I found that I have given this opportunity last year and I am repeating that offer again this year too!

Read the link “https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=On+slowing+down+%E2%80%93+Sadhan+of+and+for+Grace%21"  and follow it to the “T” to receive special treatment – which is (in my opinion) Reiki from me.

This sadhan also entitles us to receive from the Universe. That is the best part of this sadhan. But, you can’t do with that in mind. The entire sadhan is about being with the “ACT” rather than the bonus at the end of the day. So, be with it. Enjoy the process. And be blessed!

One disclaimer: DON’T THINK YOU CAN ENCASH THIS GRACE IN EXCHANGE FOR YOUR DESIRE! And then don’t come complaining that your desire is not fulfilled. Grace works in its own area and at its Will! That is the rule of “Grace”.

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# being aware, mindfulness, being in the moment, disturbed mind, disciplined mind, being grateful, on grace, miracles, living now and here, 

NEVER LIE!

 

NEVER LIE!

“Never lie. Above all, never lie to yourself. The one who lies to himself and listens to his own lies comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him”. Fyodor Dostoevsky

 We have our reasons for not being able to tell the truth.

Do not understand what is being said here incorrectly. You need not tell “every Truth” that you know.

But, here we are asked not to lie. Stop lying.

Before lying to others, we practice it in our head a few times. We lie to ourselves before lying to others.

After lying to others a few times, we start believing our own lies.

When this happens again and again, we start living in the web of our lies. Then, over time, we become so clouded by our lies that the line between Truth and lie becomes blurred (in our perception).

There comes a time later in life when we believe our lies to be true and we no longer can see the Truth anymore. We become blind to Truth.

That is the most dangerous and horrible thing we can do to ourself. We take ourselves away from the Truth and redemption becomes that much far and impossible for us.

In such times, meditation becomes very painful and impossible to do.

Never lie!

Even the little tampering of facts comes under this category.

We twist facts and figures to fit our story.

We want to project our image our way and our little lies start there. Stop right there.

Meditate regularly to be near Truth. Keep away from lies that we tell ourselves for our good.

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# lies, Truth, deceit, karma, destiny, freedom, sensibility, faith, ego, you receive what you give, 

also read https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2023/01/truth-wins.html

We - The Creators of our Hell and Heaven!

 

We - The Creators of our Hell and Heaven!

The Mystic says “We are the ones creating our hell and heaven.

We are the ones with desires that drive us crazy.

We are the ones that long for permanent happiness from the changing and impermanent.

We run our life without a clue of “Who we are” and “Why we are the way we are”.

And yet, someone out there is responsible for our joys??

Someone out there is responsible for our pain and suffering.??

Someone out there is bad and cruel????

We are the “Good ones”???

Till the day we stop and question all this, we are going on the roller-coaster ride of pain and suffering ONLY!

Wake up!

Know right from wrong!

Choose happiness over pain.

Know the cause and do away with it!”

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# hell and heaven, we are the creators of our destiny, destiny and fate, karma, daily routine of life, our choices

read also https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/12/me-my-guru-full-moon-and-monk_0156189266.html 

On being still!

 

On being still!

“The easiest way to get hold of the mind is to sit quiet and let it drift where it will for a while”. – Swami Vivekananda.

This is so far away from being lazy. This is also not doing some binge watching too. This is far from it. This is not being idle. This is not about passing away time. 

This is about disengaging yourself from all the chatter that your mind makes. This is being able to get to your oasis of silence in the midst of your inner chaos and desert.

Take up meditation with open eyes and see the magic happen.

It may not happen the first few times you do it.

Keep doing it daily and then bam, you experience it – may be only for a few seconds and then it is gone.

Just watch the nature – be it sky, running water, clouds, trees, just about anything without any agenda.

Don’t expect your problems to get resolved.

Don’t expect your desires to be fulfilled.

Do this exercise without any agenda.

If anyone does it, come back with your experiences, observations and insights!

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# beingness, being still, living in the moment, being present now and here, restlessness, agitated mind, disturbed mind, calmness, calm mind, 

also read https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/04/time-to-rest.html 

January - A trial month!

 

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January - A trial month!

The person who owns up his choices and bears the consequences of the same has grown in stature. He has strength that comes from “soul character”. One who works for this is the one who is walking towards his well-being and good. That is the test that tells a man that is walking the ‘spiritual path’.

The rest are just talking the walk!

Coming to my quote – I took it.

Now, I have to bear the consequences of making that decision.

Either I should live with less number of posts this year or work more to make good the loss.

Many may think since it is not paid and I am not answerable to anyone, does it matter?

Yes, it does!

I KNOW that I could have given more than what I have to this year and that impacts my soul – that is the basis of my self-esteem.

And you thought your respect was received from others?

How you play your roles – especially ones where you don’t receive anything in return decides your soul character. That is the basis of your soul-strength.

I know it is all too heavy. Go, take your time and meditate on it.

Take your time and work on it.

Just keep healing yourself and one day you may see what all this means.

Till then, be honest (the real way) in your work, duties and responsibilities. Give your best in everything that you do – all through the day. That is the secret of increasing soul strength.

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# on choices, consequences of our actions, karma, destiny and fate, decisions, healing, attitudes, character, 

also read suggested https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/05/me-my-guru-on-heaven-and-hell_4.html 

People go around asking questions all through their life. They keep pestering Reiki/God for answers.

And Reiki/God has to answer through a medium. One such medium would be the blog written for you. And yet, when the answer is given, you don't have patience, interest or time to go through the link given to RECEIVE that answer. And you say"Maam, I ask questions in meditation and yet am not given answers. I don't know why God makes you tell such lies.)

How ironic is that "We RECEIVE only when we become worthy of it. Till we heal ourselves enough we CAN'T and WON'T see the answers even if thrown at us umpteen times"!