On living in the moment – Me, My guru

On living in the moment – Me, My guru

She (our Guru) said “Be aware while taking bath daily” as if it was as easy as eating a toffee. I fought with that idea for over a year before realizing the impossibility of that ‘simple task’. So instead I decided to break it into smaller units – units which were manageable and I hit upon a plan. Instead of wanting to be Aware all through my bath, I simply decided to be Aware on ‘my last mug of water’ that I poured on self. Here, ever if I forgot or didn’t get it right, I could collect myself to be Aware for that ‘last mug of water’ by repeating that ‘last mug act’. Before long I succeeded in being Aware 80% of the time – I mean only the ‘last mug part’. Then I shifted to next level. Now I decided and started practicing to be Aware even during my First mug of water which I poured on my body. This way the exercise became simpler and before long I was Aware during my entire bath” said Rahul.

Here was the guy who was thinking way of putting into effect our Guru’s every word and here was the same I who only wrote down her words, dissected them, analysed and argued on them, praised or found fault in them – in short I did everything else except put ‘her teachings’ into practice.

No doubt there was this stark difference between me and Rahul and I envied him, complained and was hurt that ‘she’ was more partial towards him etc. I myself was responsible for all this gap and yet....and the sad part was I felt that even this was ‘her’ duty – to pull me out of this way of thinking and was so angry at her for not doing so and letting me be where I was! Kudos to my way of thinking and living!

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On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru Crow, Parrot and other birds

On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru

Crow, Parrot and other birds

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Sometimes, the voice you’ve raised may not be heard or even hushed. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed. What is important is ‘have you tried with 100% commitment’ to raise voice against what is wrong or not. Raising your voice doesn’t mean literally here. It is about putting across ‘the picture of Right and Wrong to the other’. Increase the quality of your argument instead of raising your voice. If you are doing that, then know you are ‘growing spiritually’ the right way and all the life lessons are to enable just that growth in you. Other things are just ‘add-ons’ that comes as goodies to us – that’s all!

So, time and now take a break from the world around you and spend time with yourself. Connect to your self. Sit in meditation and go through your life decisions. Write down pros and cons on each decision taken. Learn from them. Don’t start crying and come to me saying “Guruji, I am depressed, help and all”. No need for that ‘self-pity ride’. Just see your decisions clinically and learn from them. See how you’ve been repetitive with your mistakes in your asking change – learn and outgrow them to know your needs clearly and correctly” she concluded.

“Everytime we see crow or parrot we’ll relate to either of our desires – one that went wrong or right and do this exercise” said Shreya.

We all laughed. Yes we could remind ourselves of this fact everytime we saw a bird – infact and that can increase our awareness more....

Few years down the line in some other session we would look back to gauge benefit that we received from todays’ class but as of now, we would only enjoy jokes, biscuits and tea. As rightly said only Time could tell if our journey was worth it or not!....

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On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru Crow, Parrot and other birds

On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru

Crow, Parrot and other birds

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Not having clarity of thought at the start is the main cause of this entire drama. But no problem! As you paint the canvas of your life your way, also work on your self from within to know yourself better and to seek what you actually desire and want.

So was parrot wrong in making a wish? No! As already told neither crow nor parrot is right or wrong. Either way you live with the consequence and you lose something when you gain something – always in life. Now what is the price you are ready to pay to gain what you desire is a learning process that life enables us to do with these situations. So see it that way and enjoy it all the way instead of suffering at every nook and corner and bend of life.

Not making a choice is also a ‘decision’ and we have to live with consequence of that ‘inaction’ too! This entire game keeps going till your character hits the middle path of being wise. It means being strong enough to make a decision and change things that need to be changed because they are wrong. And to accept gracefully things that are right though they are not to my taste. Knowing when to take which decision is the wisdom that needs to be acquired by each one and only then has that person hit the ‘middle path’ of being ‘karma yogi’.

A balanced and wise person doesn’t mean accepting everything blindly that comes your way. Neither does Krishna telling ‘Take arms to fight against Dharma’ mean going against everything. Being above our likes and dislikes and yet acting according to dictum of ‘Right and Wrong’ is the sign of the ‘Regular Sadhak and his sadhan’.

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(PS : I don't give link for related posts just for fun - i take that pain because i know you would have forgotten few facts and issues already explained before...to avoid repeating few issues again and again, i give you links....take pain to read them.....you'll in most of the cases get your answers.......don't think i have already read and i remember etc....still read, then you didn't need this answer/you weren't looking for this answer and now you are...so you'll read the same topic or you'll receive more from the same topic this time...)


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On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru Crow, Parrot and other birds

On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru

Crow, Parrot and other birds

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“Ask and it shall be given” is the word of God. He is not answerable to the consequences of your wish coming true, so spare Him that”. We all laughed. We did it everytime! We prayed, prayed and then cried when our wishes did come true too! Either way, we felt doomed always. Would we ever find satisfaction and happiness in our lives? I very much doubted that with our present state of mind.

“So learn to live with your desires fulfilled. Agreed you didn’t see it coming this way and you are not forced to stay put that way for ever too! Yes, that’s the good news. Heal again and ask for change of events again and do this till you are more comfortable than in pain with your circumstances and people in your life. You can do it ‘N’ number of times – no questions asked. Just don’t be a ‘cry baby’ and envious

of ‘others being happy’. That’s all! If you want to do it or decide to do it, I mean the crying, envying and being angry with Reiki, reiki master or God, you are welcome to do it, just don’t expect anything substantial to come out of it...and then when none of these work and you realize that and are desperate to work on your dreams and desires again, just start doing sadhan the right way and in time you’ll see things shaping up again....

Now I know your next doubt. “How long should I keep changing my ‘prayer’ and why can’t He give what I want the first time itself?” if you’ve played ‘card game’ you would understand my explanation easily. When you start card game you hold certain cards, most of them are useless and more of a liability to your hand, so you start changing one card at a time till you have a hand which is perfectly sequenced and you declare ‘Show’. Do you say ‘why can’t we take all the cards in sequence at the start of the game?’ I’ll not help you with the answer here. You find it yourself. Similarly, you change one ‘variant’ in your life (like salary, person, place of residence or some other materialistic possession etc) till you get more or less all that you seek finally.

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On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru Crow, Parrot and other birds

On desires and decisions – Me, My Guru

Crow, Parrot and other birds

As usual I came late. My gang had that mischievous grin as they saw me. What could I do? I never wanted to be late but things always happened that way. But these friends of mine never understood that point. Not that they judged me on that either, just that they laughed everytime I tried to justify my ‘late coming’ with genuine reason. Not once did they say ‘it’s not your fault’. It pinched me a bit – not the hurtful way but in a guilty sort of way!

The session was in progress as I joined them.

In a certain forest lived a crow and a parrot and both were black and simple birds. Parrot saw itself in the water and felt it deserved to be more beautiful and pleaded to God to make it beautiful. Its prayer was listened to and then lo! It got its beautiful coloured body!

And today crow flies freely in the sky and the ‘beautiful parrot’ is caged.

As you see neither of them is wrong. Each took a decision and lived with the consequence. When we take a decision, we take into consideration one aspect of our desire and do it, but the price is paid for the decision as whole.

Divine or Universe assigns us a role for some reason. With that plan in mind, it places us accordingly in some set up and with same set of people. But as we don’t see its plan due to ignorance or our desires, we plan our life as per our wishes and desires. On that process we end up healing and praying for the same. It is not wrong. Neither does it mean that it is right. It just is! Well, if we pray contrary to our role as in Divine plan, then Divine does listen and Act accordingly and fulfills our wish – a la’ parrot case. Then, when our wish is fulfilled our fate falls in line with our new state of existence like parrot being caged. That is when we complain again. Now both God and Universe are confused. You’ve asked for something and when it is given also ‘you suffer with your wish being fulfilled’ that’s the tragedy of events.

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Pray for others - Me, My Guru

Pray for others - Me, My Guru

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‘When you pray, your heart opens up and gets automatically healed and that is your ‘love centre’ and when that opens up and expands it becomes your ‘power centre’ to get connected with all that is ‘divine in and of you’. That by itself heals you, transforms you and your life and all the people in your life.

And the easiest way to heal it is by praying for others – as many as you can. And as Reiki channels send healing to all such ‘sick people’ in your life.

When heart expands it itself insulates you against other negativities of your life in a very miraculous way. So let your day begin and end with ‘prayer for others and by sending reiki for others’.

Even dogs and worm work for their ‘grub’. What’s the difference between them and you if both are working at same level? Having got human body become worthy of it and raise above animal needs and instincts and ‘live for others’ few minutes and few times a day on regular basis. Again, I repeat, don’t quote this action again demanding and expecting some ‘goodies’ in your life. This is to better your character. And that by itself is the end. Being good is not a pre-requisite to some other end or gain in life. It by itself is the end. So, if you choose this option and work on it, keep it to yourself, don’t proclaim it to others – yes not even to me. Knowing all this and being very clear about it by itself is the end and not a technique to gain some material benefit sometime later in life or afterlife. Is it clear?”

Having received only our silence for answer she said “if you have understood then start sending reiki and your prayers for others now for next 1/2an hour without opining your mouth”. Having said this she left us for the day. We did what we had to. Then we left her place. How many of us would follow it was unknown as of now. Only time would tell that, but I was bit confused and also little excited. Yes, I was both as of now. Others were in hurry and we didn’t get to discuss it further. I wasn’t totally sure about myself. Maybe, few times I would ‘pray for others’ but.......hope someone’s prayer to give me clarity of thought comes to my aid............

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Pray for others - Me, My Guru

Pray for others - Me, My Guru

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“Pray for every person who emits and taints everything and everyone around them with hatred. Pray that they find peace within. Pray that they find and recognise and validate love in their life. Because, they are giving out hatred because that’s all they have with them. Bless them with love so that you get that love in their company later! You may choose to walk out on such persons – yet pray for them. Not because you forgive them. Not even because you understand them. Don’t! Don’t waste your precious energy and time in understanding them and forgiving them. Be as angry aas you are with them. But- just push that anger to one corner of your big beautiful simple heart. And with your remaining whole part bless them completely.

Don’t come to me asking why they didn’t change yet. Don’t let that question bother you. Don’t let it crop up. Instead look within. Are you more peaceful? Are your smiles more frequent? Do songs stay longer on your lips? Then know our purpose is ‘attained’. We are not here working so hard for ‘that person’s’ happiness and change of heart. No! It’s for our sweet self! And that ‘Self’ is dancing!!!

So, pray, pray for all who are mean, manipulative, irritating and grumpy and spoilsport. Find a negative trait in others so that you get more ‘reasons’ to pray for them/others. Use these peoples’ negativity to bring more stability in your character and peace within. This ‘type of selfishness’ is accepted and if anyone raises their finger, send them here, I’ll handle them. But you go ahead and pray/heal. Pray for others so often that God gets to do ‘double shifts’ to ‘clear your wish list file’”.

We all laughed. Her sense of humour was fantastic if you get it, I mean! It had a bit different flavour though. What audacity of hers to say “send them to me and I’ll tackle them”. It seemed like child’s play to her and it amused us.

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