On gratitude and suffering

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Remember, no one, absolutely no one in this world is liable to come to your aid when asked. Asking is in your hands but to help or not is their choice. No one is bound to serve/help you – whatever is the relation. Be it a student, master, spouse, sibling, offspring, parent, friend, relatives or anyone.

If anyone does, he/she is good enough to do that. They are generous enough to share their know-how finance, physical help etc with us. Be grateful for that. Don’t take any help for granted. Being grateful is one attitude that defines your character and decides your destiny – either way. So instead of looking at people who didn’t ‘help you or stand by you’ look at people who stood by you and helped you. Count your blessings! Yes, I am doing that and hence state ‘only good thing about my bad times is my kids and spouse’. Really? You think your perception is right this way. No way! You are giving others selfishness major share and consolation prize is ‘kids’. That is not being grateful. 

When you are grateful, the one person who stands by you is good enough of a ‘SUN’ to light up your entire world. 

When you are grateful, that one number encompasses the whole world and you feel rich enough to pity Bill Gates. 

Gratitude allows you to look at rainbow when you are drenched in rain and shivering in cold. 

Gratitude teaches you to dance in rain and not think about your dress getting spoiled. 

Gratitude puts a smile on your face when you are facing a guillotine. 

In gratitude you know you are surrounded by hope, love, grace, blessing and kindness.

If this perception comes, you thank reiki and God for letting you go through ‘tough times’ because  you received something more special or you missed out on receiving something negative and more painful.

Now, why should I see it this way? Why should I always look at brighter side? Why not be angry at people who ditched me and who cheated me/gave me pain or are cause of my suffering?

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On gratitude and suffering

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In IIdg class giving example of ‘getting a bus no. 16’ (hope you all remember) I clearly explain how inspite of every sentence being right is actually wrong as per your requirement. We don’t change words to please the bus, but to fulfill our desire. Hope you all are with me here!

Why is it important to word it correctly? Because you get what you ask! Remember that and that is what is called as “your karma coming back to you”. So, inspite of being in pain, (since I assume you want to come out of present situation) sit quietly and do let go meditation and then sit in meditation and seek answer for question ‘where did I go wrong?’ you’ll see exactly ‘the words’ that you uttered which is forcing you to face today’s situation. That understanding is ‘accepting that you are responsible for where you are”. Unless you do it, you’ll end up feeling victimized and generate hatred for people you feel are responsible for your situation.

Next what I can infer from this situation is that out of so many students – most of whom are software people only couple of them responded. None of the others are grateful, don’t and can’t come to aid when needed and that too for the blog that I write to them. Blah, blah, blah. I can go on and on in this line of thought, when actually the cause can be something like a. since the request was in comments section, no one noticed b. because it was addressed to a person, others didn’t pitch in or any other. But an angry and expectant mind will not see any of these reasons. And it will take me on a journey no less painful than ‘hell’ and I cry and complain that ‘my students are useless, selfish etc’.

But this is a right way of reading this situation i.e., I got response immediately and exactly the way I wanted, so thank you reiki, thank you Guruji. I can feel grateful to Vaibhav and bless him for such good response. Why? Is it not his duty to do? NO. A big No!

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On gratitude and suffering

On gratitude and suffering

First of all, to all those who have been enjoying or complimenting the look of ‘NEW’ blog, the credit goes to Vaibhav. Bless him!

Many times I pick up an incident/comment etc to explain a point. Because I feel, that way It is easier for the other to understand. It is called as “going from the known into unknowing to know it”. This time too I wish to take this incident to explain a point I have discussed many times before. Why again? Because, it is still not understood and if understood not applied and those who are experiencing ‘pain and suffering’ are not able to see the cause of their pain and suffering. Hence this exercise.

I requested to be guided the procedure to make changes in the blog. And apart from Vaibhav only couple of others responded with answers or solution. This boy’s was of course very detailed and just right as per my need so I took it. 

Now, in this situation you can see there are so many students who are reading and benefiting from this blog and yet only couple of them reverted back with solutions. How can we see it? What can we infer from it?

First and foremost is the fact that “You get help/solution only if you state that you’ve a problem and don’t know how to get out of it. 

And while seeking help, don’t filter people or choose people whom you prefer would help you. Don’t. Don’t give a feeling or statements like “I would not have asked help but XYZ asked me to ask you…” what does that mean? Are you doing a favour by seeking help? Are you saying it’s a forced request but I don’t want you to step in?

Don’t say ‘I didn’t mean it but don’t know why maam took it that way?” etc. Please remember right from I degree and 1^st hour of class I am stressing the importance of right words and the import of your every word. It’s not what you think that matters but how you word it that matters.

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On Destiny

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 See Felix in 2016 still continuing his work that he started then, years ago as a kid.........

Yes, we sat down to discuss on this issue again. We all had our experiences to fall back on to understand ‘her pleadings’ to be in sadhan regularly. Yes, it was in ‘good times’ we had to be more regular with our sadhan, so that it could help us through our tough times. There was time when we would argue with her asking stupid and selfish questions like ‘if even after doing sadhan, we are to face tough time what is the purpose of doing sadhan at all?”. She had been way too generous and patient with us in gently explaining and encouraging us to be in sadhan at all times. 

 Now we understood that the sadhan in good times helped us to be more balanced in our ‘bad times’. It gave us solutions faster as we were concentrating on coming out of it rather than going on ‘depression drive’. Yes we all re-iterated our resolve to be in sadhan and to remind each other of same.

As others left to talk to others, Rahul showed me a ‘piece of paper’ that he said he found the lady leaving the premises drop. Even from here, it was evident tha she was crying. I saw that scrap of paper which had few lines “ ........  Most of the decisions which he took were emotional rather than calculated. Frankly he never took calculated risks in business as well, he just took risks hoping everything will end up as he planned. Never knew his family who all along were dependent on him would turn up against him when he is in trouble.We planned to sell the house for which  no one is coming forward to buy. As money leaves friends and family also leave .....people whom we  helped in the past also turned up against us....."

No doubt she explained on that topic in detail today again! 

I looked at Rahul and we shared a look and smile that said “now you see!” She never talked anything irrelevant. Only we didn’t understand it then. This woman didn’t have courage to ask in front of others and had written a letter to give to ‘her’ and yet she explained without pointing any finger at that lady. The lady did not seem satisfied. She went crying and without getting ‘her’ explanation. May be her ‘need’ was not met. No doubt she was disappointed in ‘her’. We saluted our Guru for what she was and the way she conducted herself once again.

It was such times that Rahul’s belief in her was reconfirmed and my doubt regarding her knowing our pain and needs were put to rest. We resumed what we were doing till late evening………

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This song is from film 'apnapan'....good one ....