Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love

 

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Me, My Guru – on keeping count in love

It was here that he heard the milkmaids talk. He found his answer and solution. “Even a simple village girl knows how to love!” she doesn’t keep count of the milk that she gave her lover. For that girl even little money matters. And yet, she does not keep trail of ‘how much milk her lover had drunk”. She knew how to love. Such purity in love! Such simplicity in conduct! Such clarity in her vyavahara (loosely translated it is behaviour). If that is her conduct in love with a mortal, how much more better should mine for my lover be who is the ‘Ultimate lover – God!’?” so saying he returned into the jungle to resume his tapas (penance). Our Guru left to attend her personal calls.

We were left to discuss among ourselves. We enjoyed this part of our sessions. This helped us to share our opinions, insights, observations and experiences with one another. We learned from each other. If not, we would go with only our understanding. But when shared, we actually benefited more. Some of us were selfish even in this area! They kept mum most part of the day, but wanted others to contribute to groups talks. These silent people benefited from others’ experiences and explanations. And yet, they weren’t open enough to give and share their understanding and experiences. Therein lay their flaw in their attitude. It didn’t ‘seem’ bad but was not doing them any good. In fact, the people who didn’t share with others were the slow learners and absorbents of this learning. Yes, Rahul and gang benefited most all because of this one quality! Their nature to share their knowledge paved way to receive more of the same back into their life! Isn’t it simple?

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# on love, on loving, sharing and caring, affections, relationships, attitude needed for relationship to be perfect, business vs relationship, on living life, life partners, expectations and conditions, unconditional love, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=monk+and+the+scorpion 

Read the above link to understand what giving and receiving is in a relationship....read why we need to forgive our family of their little flaws...read to know how and how much to forgive too.....

Tips to understand the post : 

“Even a simple village girl knows how to love!” she doesn’t keep count of the milk that she gave her lover." - We assume we need to learn from the rich, famous and the learned to love and live life perfectly. But that 'knowledge' isn't taught in any business school. It comes from the purity in intent, character and innocence. Many a times, love is lived by simple people for they are simple in character. With 'the mind that knows to think and be smart' comes cunningness in character that we are proud of as 'intelligence'. And that intelligence and that mind of ours robs us of the ability to love and be loved....

"It didn’t ‘seem’ bad but was not doing them any good." - Not sharing is not a bad attitude. And yet it slowed our learning and decided on our growth. See that with open eyes! Look into it! Meditate on that! A simple act like sharing can make so much difference in your self and healing happens in so many ways - just like that! And yet, we stop ourselves from doing that! At least, do you know why you do so? Don't justify your nature/act/ behaviour.....instead, sit in meditation and question it.....

Me, My Guru – On doing good!

 

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Me, My Guru – On doing good!

At the same time, I can’t expect all to make such progress. Because, such expectations would turn me into a bitter person. Instead, I pray and hope for all to make such strides.

Like that grandpa I can only put turtles back into the sea – one at a time. If I look at all the turtles dead, I would be filled with pessimism and grope in dark moods. I would be no good to myself or to anyone then. So, it is better I work on the one right in front of me. Like grandpa in the story, I’ll put the turtle back into the sea. I know that doesn’t guarantee it’ll survive for next 3-400 years. Maybe, even that turtle may die in a week or two caught in some fisherman’s net or die due to oil spill in the high seas. It may also be eaten by higher predators in the sea. Anything is possible! We are not here to work or worry on all those possibilities. Right now, right here, what is the best I can do is all I have in my power. I can ONLY USE THAT POWER SENSIBLY! How it turns depends on so many varying factors which may or may not even be known to me. So why worry about that? I just do my duty and Let Universe take over from there!

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# on doing good, making right choices, dharma, playing our part right, being responsible, right and wrong, do your duty and leave the rest

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=is+kamzard+zindagi+ko 

(I couldn't give complete link to the above post. Request you to go to the link given above and read the complete post....the date is the clue. You can search it with date in blog archives column)

Please Note : "You didn't know that any sadhan for 21 days becomes our habit???" - This is said in I dg and you are asked to do sadhan for 21 days without a break assuming that you'll make it your ritual for life. But people after having wonderfully completed 21 days cycle assume that is all they need to do and stop doing it. I also explain this ritual of 21 days clearly. I am sure atleast few of you remember that....

Like many things said in I dg itself even this was not registered by most. 

At the end of II dg class, I tell always "You are taught techniques to address every material need and spiritual need with I and II dg. It can give you just material benefits and make you enlightened. Where you stop and how much you take from Reiki depends entirely only you~!" - These are the exact words I wrap up my class with....and yet..........

If you take correct understanding from this event, then you will understand that not only from me, even from others you may not listen completely and correctly. What you remember is not what exactly happened, it may not be the complete picture too! But we hold on to our part of truth and assume that to be the complete Truth. There in lies our problem and cause of our suffering. That's why give benefit to others and their part of argument and opinions in your relationships. You will not and need not suffer  most of the problems in your relationships - if only you listen.

The premise of my entire teaching is to teach you to "listen and see". Once learnt, it opens doors to so much of abundance and at the same time closes doors of pain and suffering. 

Every technique clears the blocks that impairs our ability to "see and listen" AS IT IS!

Live light!

 

Live light!

This body is your house. Apply the same principle to your body and mind too. You live here. If it is cluttered by thoughts, memories, feelings and impressions that are judgemental, full of pain, fear, anger then how can you SEE clearly! No doubt our clarity of thought is compromised! 

Stop judging others. 

Stop defending your near and dear ones.

Stop defending your ideas, opinions and beliefs.

Stop defending your principles and ideologies.

Stop criticizing others.

Start living. Start praising others. Start to see beauty in others, life and in world around you. Start living!

Completed walking 10,000 steps per day target today......wow!

On choosing an enemy!

 

On choosing an enemy!

Each of us has an option of choosing an enemy. We can choose ‘external enemy’ to fight. They are people in our life and situations of our life. By choosing to fight them we lose either way!

You can chose to fight internal enemy and win – always! 

# enemy, win win situation, perspective, on choices, fights of life, life and its opportunities 

On this post : Happy 304th post - The highest in the year till date in our blog....

The number of posts written and posted every year since year 2009 has been varied and interesting going from as low as 59 in 2012 to 303 in 2016. As rightly pointed out by you today we have created new high (in terms of number of posts per year) is 304. Yes, today's post would be the 304th. 

As I  have said many times, every milestone can be celebrated and cheered by us. We can look back at the milestones with happiness, sense of joy and achievement. We can take pride in our work and the amount of work too! Not because we have outlived, out done someone else. No! That path of comparison would take us towards our hell and all our work is to be aware of all the paths that take us down that road and avoid it by all costs!

Is this my achievement? Yes and no! Yes, because I worked on it and no because it wouldn't have been possible if you didn't read it all along. So, this milestone had been created because of you and me - both doing our part of job joyously and regularly.

Your part was to be participative as a reader - by way of asking questions, sharing opinions, comments and experiences. That was the impetus that drove me to write more. More you said, more I saw where I had to explain better. I used various methods of explaining - some story way, some as examples, some by way of taunt, some even pointing out words and actions that were holding us back - stopping us from making the journey forwards towards our 'own heavens' instead of hell..........

Our fight is not with each other - it is with the Vedic philosophy of the Greatness of Atman versus the 'attitudes' and our mind which are playing their games to the best of their abilities. My job is simply to tell, point and remind you of the way our mind is holding us prisoners of our 'karma' and limiting us to suffering and the life of low lives....

I sit and walk all through the day thinking of ways to present 'The Truth' so that it can be seen, understood, assimilated and then become part of your lives effortlessly......

felt glad when it went down well with you and worked again when it was not received  - once more........

Participation from your end doesn't mean 'praises' only - it is sharing your observations, doubts, experiences, understandings, insights, applications of the techniques, perspectives and way of living and thinking and how they effected you and your lives......these and more are the participation that i look forward to and they keep me motivated and drive me to work more....

may your journey within be as beautiful, joyful, interesting, unburdening, beneficial, heartening and fulfilling as it is for me in writing for that journey ........

 

How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

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How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

I can tell how and where you are faltering, tripping, going wrong as and when it comes to my notice. I can tell where you are heading with your present state of mind. Whether to abide by the suggestions or not would be your choice – as always! I can stay with you as you make this difficult, hurting and yet fulfilling journey within! I can cheer you along! I can be patiently waiting when you choose to take a break!

And I can let go of you when you decide you don’t want to walk this path and instead only collect the materials of this world with reiki taught to you! If your desire, expectation is something away from this, I can’t be of any use to you in any way! Instead of staying here and getting angry and hurt for not having your expectation met, I suggest let’s part as friends. Move on!  *

Go to a master who can live up to your expectation – whatever that is! I am not a one-stop shop that fulfills everyone’s expectations. So go wherever your desire takes you! If possible, go without malice in your heart – for that would only be harming you in the long run.

Au revoir! And good luck on your journey wherever it takes you or with whom so ever you wish to continue it with!

This is just a pointer on how to understand this blog especially Me, My guru series. Hope it proves useful to you!

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*This is the answer to your question as to why some masters and grandmasters and their students are no more in touch with me.

# choices, expectations, desires, wants, hope, destiny, failure, road taken, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=on+taking+decisions

also read this beautiful urdu couplet on expectations : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=if+your+eyes+shed+tears+wipe+it+yourself  

Statements addressed :

• "I hate to heal everytime i need to address some issue in my life. I hate it that I have to heal so much. I don't like healing so many issues in my life." - and related statements, opinions and choices

Points to take home :

• See everything in blog as your solution to your problem as it is written only for that!
• You applying it in your life or not is a choice you have. But the solution is given - the final way the moment crisis or difficulty arises in your life. Every time you raise a question it is addressed. Answers are not what you desire them to be. They are what they ought to be! Take it or leave them is your choice. But they remain the same - for one and all!
• One who sees it as and when he does will sit to heal!
• One who tries to understand with 'limited and twisted logic and reasoning' will suffer till he gets bored and tired of suffering.
• This life or after 100 kalpas (in each kalpa we have multiple pralayas (end times like now pandemic) ) the final solution is always to go within and correct what ever is going wrong there.
• To address our inner nature is all it takes to correct the issues that it reflects in our outer world!

Today's HW :

Go through one of the previous Me, My Guru post and read it with this new understanding. See if you are able to understand it better now! See if it relates with you problem now!

How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

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How to understand blog and Me, My Guru series especially

What better way to understand desire, wish, expectations, conditions and trust!

Same explanation applies in your life too! If peoples’ expectations are met, you are good and if not, bad. That’s what peoples’ opinion mean. The day you realize this you’ll move on beyond the need to get ‘good name’.

There is so much to tell of this series. It is a treasure trove! Dig deep and collect the gems it offers – layer after layer. No story is simple and straight. Every word used has a purpose. Even tea served is for a reason at the appointed time! See, meditate on it and benefit out of it!

Those who try to understand it with their intelligence and logic can’t find their answers even when told dozens of times.

Those who read and then meditate on it will find it the first time. These are the people who work on themselves effortlessly. They understand right and find it easy to apply it in their lives and get transformed. These are the very people if they continue on this path this way will finally transcend too……..

I am in a zone when I write them. I pray you also drink of this nectar called ‘bliss’. 

And in the process of getting de-addicted, rearranging your thoughts on right and wrong, discovering yourself, expressing yourself in a better and better light, you’ll slowly maybe but surely get connected to that ‘soul energy’ of yours. Then you’ll have immense energy to direct it in any area of your life. But you need to walk this path in right direction for that first. You can’t expect me to hand over ‘goodies’ that you seek. You need to discover the treasure trove on your own! This blog is written with that intention and purpose only!

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# deaddiction, lower nature, possibility, divinity, soul consciousness, bliss, acceptance, healing, self heal, awareness, know thyself, 

also reads suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=me%2C+my+Guru%2C+roses 

Question answered :

• How to deal with difficult people in life?
• What to expect from relationships in life?
• Does an event in life guarantee happiness?

Points to digest :

• The object that we so crave for becomes the object of our pain and suffering if our destiny is to suffer.
• Our destiny rests on our attitude.
• Heal that attitude that created the destiny that you should suffer, then the object or event that happens in your life becomes the cause of your happiness in your life.
• People crave for an event to happen in life. They keep complaining that 'it not happening' in their life is the cause of their pain and suffering. They show their anger on one and all!
• And yet, no sooner that event occurs, they complain about the event and its facts. They start giving explanations and detailed description of how that event was the biggest curse of their life's!
• Whether they don't have something or they have something in life - these mind sets will suffer no matter what in their life! 
• The good news is 'the cause of this suffering' is the 'mind set' of that individual who is suffering. And it is within the purview of that person who address this issue and be free of this suffering!

Life Tip:

If you have had great time or memory with a book or a TV programme, then it is better you don't revisit that again now. Savour the taste of 'good memory' and be content. Don't try to revisit it with the hope and belief of reliving that book or programme the same way you did it many years ago! There is a great possibility that you wouldn't feel the same 'awesomeness' now when you do that. You can't recreate and relive past moments in the present times - ever!

Don't try to replay 'happiness' button by creating the same atmosphere. It doesn't work that way!

Me, My Guru – On disagreement

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Me, My Guru – On disagreement 

For every ‘me’ you had crossed this difficult line, there were many who had left her because of their ‘selfish’ nature only. And some were even ‘masters’. Would God save such masters’ students from them? I doubt! Because those students went to them, selected them on their own. And each bore the brunt of his choices! So true!

Love

But here I just wished Vaishnav would change for his own good! I just hoped it would be sooner than later, for her (our guruji’s) sake!

Why do we hold on to our negatives with such tenacity when all it did was give us pain and suffering? And then we complained we received problems in our lives. It was our own doing. But we didn’t accept it! We wanted to strongly believe that ‘others’ were responsible for our pain and suffering! 

Not knowing where to go with my thought, frustration and hopelessness, I sat to heal. I healed not only myself but for once I even healed Vaishnav. Not because I loved him or understood him. 

But because she had patience to work with him and on him and for her sake I wished he changed for his own betterment!

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# disagreements, relationships, love, trust, opinions, attitude

also read on this topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=perceptions 

Points to understand : 

• There is nothing as perfect relationship or partner (in any relationship)
• The people in it make it perfect with mutual respect, trust and above all affection for one another.
• They still may hold different views, opinions on various subjects.
• They also know that they are seeing differently but they also know come what may they will stand by each other! 
• You think the other has hurt you by not following your advice in short he didn't live up to your expectation. Did you ever realize that you also didn't live up to his expectations? If both didn't live up to each other's expectation then who is to decide who is wrong and by what standards and whose standards?
• Let's agree to disagree till we learn to know our 'dharma' of playing each of our roles. 
• Let's be verbal (but without anger and hatred in it) about our expectations and feelings. Just as we can't know their expectations from us, they also can't know our expectations from us.
• Lets start a dialogue - i repeat 'a dialogue' not accusing them! But with a condition of not expecting them to accept all that we have to offer.

Homework :

In every relationship there are two people. One who is seeking advice, support and respect and the other who is matured, person who can be leaned on and taking care of the other. 

Guru in this story represent the person who is more matured, balanced and with more experience and in the position to give advice with right intention. Vaishnav represents that person who is immatured, adamant, wants to follow his heart over common sense type of person in your life. You can also term him as immature and may be younger than you too! 

(The two roles can be inter-changed during ones life time too!)

Now if you have a Vaishnav in your life - one who is not listening to your advice, being angry, adamant and going about doing things that can hurt him (as per your opinion), then are  you also behaving as Vaishnav by your response?

Close your eyes and think about your situation. Now play it as it was played in this story. Replace Vaishnav with that person who is irritating, adamant, not seeing right etc in your life. Your job in this meditation is to see yourself in 'Guru's' role! Play it atleast once for 4-5 days and get back with results.

Next as you are in the Guru's role, are you suffering and in pain? Are you crying? If yes, did not Guru's character teach you how to behave with Vaishnav's of life? Work on those areas of yourself which is causing that pain and suffering in your life? Develop the qualities of 'this Guru in  your situation and then play it in your mind sitting in mediation atleast once daily for 4-5 days. Get back with both your experiences!

And also give the feedback of your issue's present state.

FYI - This is how every story should be used for your situations in your life. It is not a story of some Guru who is perfect and some Vaishnav who is giving her problems. It is the story that is giving you how Vaishnav's of your life behave and how you are to behave as a Guru!