On Death

………contd……..

Next, close your eyes and go through your life and see it as a flash back movie. How many moments do you see as happy, peaceful, feel good etc feelings? 20 – 30 –40

Not even that I am sure….

Continue only after doing about three days exercises….don’t cheat…

Will give 2 days time to do this…..

...contd....

On Death

………..contd……..

Next make a list of feelings you experienced, talked about, day dreamed on hourly basis..

          For eg: 3-4 pm – felt anger (discussing family with colleagues)

                      4-5 pm – self-pity (went through all the past details of  life)

Now do for minimum three days for your emotions….

 ………..contd……..

On Death

…..contd…

What is about death that makes it unwanted, not to be discussed, feared and hated? I wonder!

Let’s answer that question later.  For now, let’s look into Life.  What’s good about life?  Be honest before proceeding further.  Do this exercise first.  Just note down previous three day’s schedule for the complete day on hourly basis.  Like –

          6 am – Got up

          6-7 am – Brush teeth, tea and other chores…

          and continue till 10 pm – went to bed

even in office, please break your office hours into hourly chores…

………..contd……..

...On Death....

....contd ...

No use crying upon loosing a person to death or to life! You loose a person to life when they move out of our lives….you can never hold a person for ever in your life……Instead, ask am I ‘living with this person right now?’  Seize the moment and live it completely.

Coming back to the question “Why didn’t I cry at the loss of my dear ones?”  Does it mean it wouldn’t pain when the parting time comes?  Is it a possibility or is it reflection of a cold-hearted person.  A sadist wouldn’t cry and a dead from inside too wouldn’t.  But every person who cries for certain cries only for ‘self’.  He cries for himself.  But, a person who’s lived that relationship would let go of it when the time comes.  Just as we throw the wrapper of a chocolate after savouring it, we let the person go beyond us if we had lived the moments completely with them when with them.

How’ll I know if I’ve lived that way?

a)    If given a chance you would live that relationship the same way.  You wouldn’t have regrets of ‘moments’ missed.  So, no question of ‘missing’ and ‘I couldn’t do this’ etc feeling.  If lived fully, a relationship is never repeated.  It moves on.

b)    A relationship as long as it is a need or a habit can never liberate you.  It only binds you.  It can give you pain and be cause of suffering.  But, if a relationship is out of free-will with no need or want, then it is not required to ‘complete’ me.  In other words I am complete inspite of ‘this relationship’ not because of this relationship.

c)    In such a case, I explore, discover and live myself in that relationship.  It is not forced but comes out of spontaneity.  It helps you to open up and grow.

d)    Any relationship that is conditioning suffocates both the person and the relationship.  There can be no love lost in such cases.  People keep ‘trying to love’ in such relationships and end up being disillusioned, bitter and angry. 

e)     Love cannot exist in forced situations.

f)      It needs ‘free-air’ to breathe, grow and Be!

g)    Love is a effortless state of existence and can’t be forced to experience, give or receive.

h)    In a situation where it is not required, noticed, worked on, it just happens.

.....contd......

On death....

....contd........

What was the burden that I was carrying – I wondered?  Then I realized I felt like Gulliver held by hundreds of threads tied by the lilliputs.  These relationships, attachments were the tiny threads that had held me tight with the ground.  With these two threads untied, I felt so very loosened up and also much freer.  Sounds inhuman and cold?

 

With honestly look into the pain and suffering that you experienced or fear or imagine to experience at the loss of near and dear ones – take your time – a week or a month – maybe.  But pursue that question and feeling of loss, pain, sadness……..

 

The TRUTH is so much apposed to the belief that we carry that we actually “like” or “love” someone and that we “can’t” live without him or her.  The ‘like’ and the ‘love that we experience is also for the self.  It is the comfort /joy that we experience because of ‘that’ person which we regret missing.  We cry for the joy that we would stop experiencing through the person gone.  We cry for the loss of benefit that we were receiving because the person is dead now.  Look deep – deep into your pain, you’ll be surprised at the logic/ reason/basis of our pain suffering.  Is it loss for us that we are calling or terming as “missing that person”?  This need is the basis of fear in every relationship that we experience.  We are afraid of the ‘loss’ that we need to undergo when ‘the person is dead and gone’ /or ‘when the person moves out of our life’.  This stops us from living the relationship in toto.

 

Ask yourself questions like the following :-

·        Why am I in this relationship?

·        What do I expect out of it?

·        What am I giving into this relationship?

·        What is holding me from giving more?

·        Is that fear/ reason good for this relationship?

·        By holding back, what am I loosing and on what account?  Is it worth it?

·        What’s the purpose of this relationship?

 ....contd......

On Death....

Recently, my two aunts left their human bodies behind to resume their journey in other dimensions – in layman’s language they just ‘dropped dead’.  Fact was they were well past their 80’s and had lived quite a good innings.  But, the reason why everyone felt bad was they were special.  They had conducted themselves with immense strength and character.  They had immense love, affection and little nothings to share with all around them.  They never complained about not calling on them or any such thing.  They received one who went to meet them with open arms.  That’s all!  I never heard them bitch on others.  They both gave me lots of affection (which is next to rarity from any of my immediate family members in my life!) and it just increased over the years.  Yet, here I was listening to the news of their demise with poise and calm.  It didn’t break me as it did all others.  Everyone around me was needed to be consoled but not me.  A tear or two that slipped past my eyes reminded me that it was shed for myself.  It was for my loss – loss of affection that I had received all these years.  It wasn’t for that person.  It was surprising to me.  Even in death, we actually are bothered only about ourselves – our loss and nothing else!  Why are we so self-centered?  And the best part is we call it this missing or pain as love for the other.  When infact, it is only for the self……..when is the time I actually feel for other?  I wonder if there is any such moment……

But, that aside I asked myself “Was I incapable of any deep emotion“?  The answer wasn’t as important as the revelation that I actually felt lighter after hearing the news of my aunt’s demise – both the times…

 ......contd.......

Leaves from the pages of my life......

...cont........

I had given the same to all – yet the benefit depended totally on the receiver.  I was like rain water that fell on the fields – alike on the entire field.  Yet, few seeds germinated and others didn’t.  the one that did had the capacity to – they just needed water and the rain gave them that.  Others didn’t because they were dead seeds and no amount of water could help them to germinate – never.

Likewise, a person who has positive attitude, who has gratitude, openness and simplicity would flower into a beautiful and a complete person with a little assistance from outside – here it being me!

The person who is bitter, lacks gratitude, jealous is full of hatred will always find reasons to suffer and to be bitter in life.  That person will always find an excuse to blame a person or a situation as wrong and cause of his pain and suffering……….

That’s goes to prove that “I can receive only as much as I am OPEN to receive.”

A closed fist will come out empty from a filled cup!

Is yours a closed or an open fist?

Check it every time you are irritated, angry, depressed, complaining, jealous –in pain and suffering?

Just open your fist (literally) everytime you experience any of these negative feelings and see them vanish from your system and the huge shift it brings in your attitude and in your life.

Share your experiences with me after you practice it……till then be open to life and it’s experiences…..

Leaves from the pages of my life.....

..........contd.....

Then how come all didn’t benefit from what I got to say or from being in my company?

What was the quality that separated that group into two categories of
1.    Joyous and successful ones and
2.    Bitter and complaining and less successful ones.

Major attitude that the successful students haves is:

1.    They were students.  They had come with the humility of a student.  A person who thinks he knows can never learn.  The second category belonged to that attitude group.

2.    They were open to learning, so ‘listened’ to all I said.  Whereas, the second group kept thinking “as if this is so important / we know this already/ my mom told me this story” etc type.  Their main concern was to prove to themselves that they already knew as much as me – if not more.

3.    They were simple and pure in heart.  So, they immediately started applying all that I told in class and started seeing results immediately.  Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall inherit the kingdom of the Lord.  But, the next group kept questioning, “if it’s so simple, there would be no problems in life.  So it can’t be true / If Reiki can do all this how come she has health/ other issues in her life?  Their every question was to prove me wrong and to convince me that I am bad, wrong, fool and what not.

4.    They had ego hassles with me.  They were not open to receiving any information, knowledge et like from me.  They would excitedly talk about the person/book that they found saying what I had already discussed or said.  But me – they were selectively deaf to all I said.

In short, the learners or the benefactors were open, pure and simple and the losers were closed, full of hatred (many times towards me!) and high headed. How it matters - well that's something we need to know what we are missing in life.........

.....contd.......

Leaves from the pages of my life.......

Today, I received lots of calls.  And later I realize that all these phones had one thing in common – their gratitude for me.  Each one was talking about his/her benefit and then wound up saying they owe all that to me.  Each one thanked me for transforming them and their lives.  Few had widened their perspective.  They felt love, peace and goodness  is flowing more in their lives thanks to their own changed attitudes.  And that they said was because of a word, a sentence, a story that I had shared with them.

That really set me thinking.  Was I really instrumental in changing and shaping their lives?  If yes, how come not every person in their class/batch had benefited equally so?  Can I take the credit for their transformation?  Then I realized, class had been the same for all.  I had been the same for all.  Infact all those who called me today, hadn’t even had chance of talking to me personally.  They had just attended the class in a group of 6-10 and left silently.  That’s it.  Yet, here they owed up their joy and success to me.  Then how the people who have spent more than a decade with me haven’t benefited so much?  Proportionately they are to benefit that many times more – Right?  It’s simple maths and it’s logical.  Yet it was not to be.  I have found that benefit that a person gets to receive it NOT proportionate to their proximity to me.  Does that mean I didn't bring about that joy in these peoples’ (who proclaimed so)life?  Yes, I did.  But, I was just an instrument in bringing about that change and abundance in their lives.  I showed them the path and told them how to avoid the pits and falls and gave techniques to fasten their speed in reaching their goals.  That’s all!  That particular individual walked the path.  They followed most of the don’ts and do’s and benefited enroute. 

                                                            ........contd......

Life is a race between cat and rat.
Rat mostly wins because cat runs for food and rat run for life.
Remember - to succeed You should have a Purpose.  Because purpose is more important than need.  Need may lack commitment and dedication but the Purpose also adds drive and passion into it.....

If you want to be happy, successful, satisfied and to give your best performance everytime, then, "work for a cause and not for applause."

Next Year's Annual Reiki Meet would be the last Reiki Meet that I would be conducting.  I'll not take anymore Reiki Classes after next meet.  So, please pass on this info to other reiki channels that you are in contact with and ask them to complete pending classes if any by then.