Sunday, September 23, 2012

...On Death....

....contd ...


No use crying upon loosing a person to death or to life! You loose a person to life when they move out of our lives….you can never hold a person for ever in your life……Instead, ask am I ‘living with this person right now?’  Seize the moment and live it completely.

Coming back to the question “Why didn’t I cry at the loss of my dear ones?”  Does it mean it wouldn’t pain when the parting time comes?  Is it a possibility or is it reflection of a cold-hearted person.  A sadist wouldn’t cry and a dead from inside too wouldn’t.  But every person who cries for certain cries only for ‘self’.  He cries for himself.  But, a person who’s lived that relationship would let go of it when the time comes.  Just as we throw the wrapper of a chocolate after savouring it, we let the person go beyond us if we had lived the moments completely with them when with them.

How’ll I know if I’ve lived that way?
a)    If given a chance you would live that relationship the same way.  You wouldn’t have regrets of ‘moments’ missed.  So, no question of ‘missing’ and ‘I couldn’t do this’ etc feeling.  If lived fully, a relationship is never repeated.  It moves on.
b)    A relationship as long as it is a need or a habit can never liberate you.  It only binds you.  It can give you pain and be cause of suffering.  But, if a relationship is out of free-will with no need or want, then it is not required to ‘complete’ me.  In other words I am complete inspite of ‘this relationship’ not because of this relationship.
c)    In such a case, I explore, discover and live myself in that relationship.  It is not forced but comes out of spontaneity.  It helps you to open up and grow.
d)    Any relationship that is conditioning suffocates both the person and the relationship.  There can be no love lost in such cases.  People keep ‘trying to love’ in such relationships and end up being disillusioned, bitter and angry. 
e)     Love cannot exist in forced situations.
f)      It needs ‘free-air’ to breathe, grow and Be!
g)    Love is a effortless state of existence and can’t be forced to experience, give or receive.
h)    In a situation where it is not required, noticed, worked on, it just happens.
.....contd......

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