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No use crying upon loosing a person to death or to life!
You loose a person to life when they move out of our lives….you can never hold
a person for ever in your life……Instead, ask am I ‘living with this person
right now?’ Seize the moment and live
it completely.
Coming back to the question “Why didn’t I cry at the loss
of my dear ones?” Does it mean it
wouldn’t pain when the parting time comes?
Is it a possibility or is it reflection of a cold-hearted person. A sadist wouldn’t cry and a dead from inside
too wouldn’t. But every person who
cries for certain cries only for ‘self’.
He cries for himself. But, a
person who’s lived that relationship would let go of it when the time comes. Just as we throw the wrapper of a chocolate
after savouring it, we let the person go beyond us if we had lived the moments
completely with them when with them.
How’ll I know if I’ve lived that way?
a)
If given a chance you would live that relationship the same
way. You wouldn’t have regrets of
‘moments’ missed. So, no question of
‘missing’ and ‘I couldn’t do this’ etc feeling. If lived fully, a relationship is never repeated. It moves on.
b)
A relationship as long as it is a need or a habit can never
liberate you. It only binds you. It can give you pain and be cause of
suffering. But, if a relationship is
out of free-will with no need or want, then it is not required to ‘complete’
me. In other words I am complete
inspite of ‘this relationship’ not because of this relationship.
c)
In such a case, I explore, discover and live myself in that
relationship. It is not forced but
comes out of spontaneity. It helps you
to open up and grow.
d)
Any relationship that is conditioning suffocates both the
person and the relationship. There can
be no love lost in such cases. People
keep ‘trying to love’ in such relationships and end up being disillusioned,
bitter and angry.
e)
Love cannot exist
in forced situations.
f)
It needs ‘free-air’ to breathe, grow and Be!
g)
Love is a effortless state of existence and can’t be forced
to experience, give or receive.
h)
In a situation where it is not required, noticed, worked on, it just happens.
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