On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

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On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

One of the causes of pain and suffering is ‘difference’ between people. The difference usually is in the following areas:

1.Religion and caste

2.Language

3.Food habits

4.Daily habits

5.Manners and etiquettes

6.Dress code

7.Life style choices

8.Belief systems and

9.Opinions

(you can add on the rest that come to your mind..)

All the above difference can be again broadly classified as

1.Life style Choices

2.Belief systems and opinions

One effects at physical level and the other at mental level eg. Opinions etc. Once you see them as just these differences it is surprising as to how this difference can create disharmony in our lives and affect our state of mind and peace of mind and happiness.

In actuality ‘variety’ is the spice of life. Then how come this ‘variety’ becomes the basis of our fights and resentment. This becomes the cause of difference between people.

The frog in the well story just explains this aspect clearly.

Similarly we live in the tininess of our ‘wells’ be it of life-style, opinions, principles, religion – just about anything. And then from the tininess of our ‘wells’ we judge the other who also lives in the similar ‘small well’ of his own. And each considers his well to be superior to the other. Each presumes his ‘well’ to be ‘the all’ of the Universe which gives them the belief “Only I am Right” and anyone who is outside of my ‘well’ which is way of living, opinion, tastes, likes and dislikes is a ‘bad person’ by default.

If, if only each one of us could come out of this limitedness of well and see the expanse of ocean of life, then there would be less or no pain, suffering, dislike and more or only respect, love and happiness in the world. How? Simple! All I need to understand is my life-style is comfortable to me and hence right for me but to the other his life-style is more akin to him. In short each is right in our way of living unfortunately we carry a wrong belief system that if I am right the other is automatically wrong and hence with our survival instinct put down the other to be right. It need not be so. We both can disagree on any issue and yet both can be right. That is the actual Truth. The one who is exposed to larger world or group of people from various backgrounds will be more open to variety and choice of others in contrast to people who live among a small limited and similar group of people.

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The frog in the well

The frog in the well - Short thought provoking story..

There was once a frog living in a well. It felt like a king in the well jumping from this end to that all through the day. It felt great about its well. For that frog the well was all that was in the world. The small patch of sky was all that constituted of Universe to it. 

One day there came a toad that lived in the ocean most part of its life. It was happy to get into the well and meet the frog there. The frog asked “Where are you from?” and the toad replied “From the ocean”. “Oh! Is it as big as this” saying so the frog jumped from one spot to the other. The toad laughed and said “Much much bigger”. “Then is it this big” asked frog taking a bigger leap. The toad replied amused “You can’t measure ocean in the well. It is so much bigger than this tiny well”. 

The frog got hurt and said “No place can be bigger than this well in this world. I don’t like you. You are lying. Leave!” The toad pitied the frog but left nonetheless. He couldn’t explain and convince frog of the vastness of the ocean.

What or who does that frog represent to you?

What does that well represent?

Have you met such frog and toad in your lives? If yes, give couple of examples (you can do away with telling their names or relationship and state the situation naming the person as x/y etc...

What does ocean represent?

What are we to learn from this and where are we to apply in our life?

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

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But people who live only among their select group of people end up demeaning, belittling, insulting and judging anyone and everyone who  doesn’t fit into their limited circle of ‘likes and dislikes’. Such people are more in number and hence come under the delusion that ‘they are right’. Unfortunately, they don’t know the maxims “The mass always goes by ‘mob thinking’ but the leader thinks his own”.

“The mass takes up all that is pleasant and convenient for them and then blow their own trumpets declaring self as the custodians of tradition”.

“The mass changes its values and principles based on their convenience and being stupid enough to presume that no one remembers their previously said words or acts go on declaring their present code of conduct as the yardstick of measurement of others character.  (cat drinking milk)

The wise/leader reflects on his words and acts and understands the scope of widening the perspective and hence changes his values and principles. Because he is aware of the fact that opinions, beliefs and traditions/rituals are subject to change based on circumstances, doesn’t judge others for the same. He doesn’t sit to gossip on others’ way of life and code of conduct. He lives and lets others live their life. But the mass or the lower cadre in the ladder of spirituality only exist to malign others, mad mouth, judge, gossip and condemn others. “But thousand dogs barking don’t make an elephant evil”. Alas! If only they understand. But then how can they? They are maggots living in the stagnant pool of their minds breading only filth of emotions, ideas, beliefs, opinions reflecting their or rather their lack of character.

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On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

If I am living with a physical ailment, it is good as the karma has ripened and I know through my suffering that I am inflicted and at least to relieve myself from the cause of suffering, I would search for cure and heal it (as a reiki channel) or live with it (in incurable) with grace and the aid of reiki knowing it to be the result of my karma. I am finally emptied of my karma. 

Same is the case when I am facing financial problem, relationship issues or any other issues. They show me the fact that “I am diseased” and hence I would work to cure it but ONLY and only with regards to attitudes, the person is ignorant of his disease and in fact works towards worsening it and causing and creating acts to help this ignorance perpetuate. And we thought “Why are this people not receiving their karma inspite of being so mean?”

God has his ways of punishing people.

Once, a pastor of church was swept by temptation to play golf instead of giving the sermon at church. Flesh being stronger than spirit at that moment, he lied that he was running temperature and asked to be relieved of his duties that Sunday and later went ahead to play golf. There, the entire day he hit perfect shots and he had great day Angels were confused and asked God “How come instead of punishing him for his lied and forgiving his duty you are gifting him perfect day with perfect shots?”

The God smiled and replied “True! But with  whom can he share about this perfect day and shots?”

Dear fun spoilers don’t sit to JUDGE God’s character here! Don’t look at Him. Look at justice as that is our prime concern. Not everytime the justice is meted with punishment dipped in pain, sometimes a blessing too can come as our punishment or in other words “Our karma/ punishment reaches us through our blessing to!”. Look at people with such attitudes! How they create their own hell with their attitudes! They don’t need us to curse them for what they do to us. They are curse unto themselves!

Now you decide which suffering you want to live with?

How and where would you apply this in your life? Which side of suffering are you in?

Which is better – to be the receiver or giver of pain and why?

Were there instances where you shifted from being the giver to receiver of pain and vice-versa?

Has pain in your life stubbed or accelerated or aided your growth and how and in what circumstances?

concluded.....

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On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

On pain and suffering – Frog in the well Story

Yes, inspite of shouting from rooftops about their ‘good name’ they are nothing but pain for everyone around them.

So are they bad? No, they are just silly, stupid, ignorant fools who can’t think straight and hence celebrate their crooked way.

They being wrong and yet not being bad how is it possible? If they are not bad, then what are they? They are ‘sick people’ whose disease is self inflicted because of their ‘stagnation of thoughts’. 

They need to be treated with pity as they are living with the ‘curse’ of their own actions, beliefs, attitude which is living with their thoughts and emotions. If listening to them for 10mts can drive us crazy for hours imagine how much they must be suffering living with themselves? (Of course, pig enjoys the shit he is in, that doesn’t mean it is in right place – right?) Can you put yourself in their shoes even for a second? 

So you see their karma comes back immediately for them, only pity being them not being able to see that. And that is the ‘bonus returns’ for their karma which being causing pain to others and in others’ lives at such magnitude and in such consistency. Yes, unable to see the connection between their lives and their acts, that ignorance is the biggest level of punishment in the ‘code book of karma’. If I don’t even know that I am sick, how can you imagine me to look for any cure? And that disease eats me up slowly and surely from inside and this effect is carried for God Knows how many janmas (births) to come. Yes, ultimately my attitude and character is the only thing that decides my destiny and that going to ‘dogs’ with my hard work, how can I expect my future births (at least few for sure) to be anything for good.

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A deaf frog - A short story!

A deaf frog - A short story!

Once a young frog wanted to climb out of the well. It told it's grand idea to all and being young and enthusiastic started working on its desire.  But being old and wise all other frogs started giving advice and kept saying 'You can't, you can't as no one has'.  The young frog was born deaf and looking at all of them talking at a time presumed them to be cheering for it and with more vigour and belief started the climb and reached the top. This no frog who was normal could achieve till date and yet the deaf frog could. It was joyous and all the old wise frogs couldn't understand how it did it!

What did you learn from this story?

Who are these old wise frogs in your life?

If you want to achieve something does that mean you should have been born deaf?

Why could no other frog climb the well before 'the young deaf frog'?

Where do you think we can apply it in our lives?

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Me, my Guru On Buddha and sweets

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Me, my Guru On Buddha and sweets

Her voice pulled me to the present “we draw our energies from our ego bodies. Now, you must be wondering what our ego body is made up of. Well, it is made up of our identifications, beliefs, emotions, attitudes and character. Meaning it is filled or built with anger, selfishness, fear, pain, suffering, hatred, conditions, expectations, attachments etc. every time we compete with others it gets strengthened. Even these emotions carry energy and they put together make and hold this ego body. When we give advice, help, affection or healing etc we give it through this body and hence it’s made up of our selfishness. But a Master gives out of selflessness and hence the energy of those words and his affection is so pure and powerful!

The more we own up our ‘ego bodies’, the more we work on them, the more we weaken them, we’ll work towards owning ‘light bodies’. And when we draw energies from that body, our thought, act, feel and word become ‘more potent’ and ‘effective’” she stopped.

There was silence. It was heavier than acceptable. We were processing all that she said again in our brains. What little we understood also seemed too heavy to process. It hit us – hit us hard enough to wake us up from the slumber. 

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# on receiving and giving, ego, energies and their effect, 

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read the above link and understand how our ignorance becomes foundation for our stupid way of thinking which in turn messes up our choices, emotions and thereby our relations and life in general......we suffer our ignorance like nothing......understand this, outgrow this and get transformed into living heaven....be a friend unto yourself.......

Miracle a day!

Weather is sunny in here, Hyderabad, India since two days........it had been raining and gloomy for the past 10 days or more........

however gloomy weather is or life is, sun has to come up sooner or later......

nothing remains so for ever.........

change is for certain......

good to bad and bad to good keep happening.......meditate on it, accept it, see it, understand it, heal the condition that we set on 'not wanting things and people to change', attachment to wanting things to go the same way and get transformed to being better, happier, fuller, accepting and content........