....contd....

The purpose of a rose plant is to give roses right? Why she failed to understand this simple point, I never knew.

“If I LOVE-it means I’ll take care of this plant, tend to its need protect it and give or create conclusive atmosphere for it to bloom. That’s all but just because I do this the plant can not be compelled to give roses to satisfy me or grow in a certain fashion that would be killing the right of plant to grow on its own .Love cannot demand .Love doesnot possess or own .Love doesn’t manipulate. Love doesn’t force. It just lets the object that it loves “To be” with no conditions and no exceptions”.

A tear rolled down my cheek.”If I can’t love a plant this way .How can I say I love a person in my life? Love is not for discussion .It is not a fancy object to be possessed.It is a state of existence. And state of existence can’t be owned or won .We just live it.That’s all! Nothing more  nothing less”.

She turned around and walked away I fell on the ground and cried. How long? I don’t know. But I felt happy, light and peaceful when I left her place. I may or may not be able to apply “Love” in my behavior but I certainly did experience it for once that day. 

That was worth a life! I thanked her in my heart and I left with a song on my lips ......

…….

Me, My Guru – On doing good!

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Me, My Guru – On doing good!

I am neither writing anyone’s fate nor running the Universe. Then why behave or think or suffer like one?” our Guruji completed her response to Rahul and Aziz’s outburst of anguish.

We were stunned. I was stunned. I went home and read that ‘Grandpa and boy story’ like 10 times. It was a simple story. We could’ve read it in some forwards too (as some said). We simply would’ve forwarded it and replied it with thumbs up emoji. But, here was the one who never forwarded any ‘good thoughts’ or ‘stories’ on any social platform. And yet or may be because she didn’t she lived it! She took the story and applied it. No doubt, that made her what she was. And us choosing to say ‘I forwarded it to 10 groups maam’, ‘I received it or my mom told this story maam’, ‘but what about turtles that died maam’, ‘isn’t it sad that so many turtles are dying because of climate change?’. These or such would be our response!!? We would take the topic away from its essence. And in that lay our ego. And in that lay our cause of pain and suffering. And in that lay our denial to see solution. We would then cry saying ‘maam, why are you not coming to our rescue?’.

Contd....

# on doing good, making right choices, dharma, playing our part right, being responsible, right and wrong, do your duty and leave the rest

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=rose+plant 

(Those who don't have much time can just go through the 'rose plant' posts to understand giving in every relationship and leave the results for time to show....we can't condition the results...)

Me, my Guru On Buddha and sweets

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Me, my Guru On Buddha and sweets

There was silence. It was heavier than acceptable. We were processing all that she said again in our brains. What little we understood also seemed too heavy to process. It hit us – hit us hard enough to wake us up from the slumber.

And she had been asking us to ‘let go’ all these years to this end. And so, she asked to heal ourselves. We with our immediate agenda wanted to heal to fix our material needs only. But, she was working on us to see that we tap to our ‘light bodies’ that could drive away all our problems once and for all!

We used a technique. She knew its uses, effects and all of it. We wanted short term effects. She worked on long term benefits.

“So, Buddha lived ‘a Truth’ before saying it aloud and that’s why his words were so effective. He himself let go and only then suggested others to do so!” said Rahul summarizing the answer.

“So we can’t or shouldn’t give advice to others till we become Buddha's?” asked Vaishnav irritated for next reason now.

Today, I saw what she had been telling all these years. Your anger, conditions etc finds an excuse to express themselves. You don’t get angry at people or situations for whom or what they are! You use situations and people to project your anger! 

He, our Vaishnav would get angry at everything, well mostly everything she said.

Contd.....

# let go, on receiving and giving advice, honesty, character, ego, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=rose+plant+ 

read the posts related on rose plant to understand how giving is right only when given without any conditions attached to it......

Pointer about this post :  

• "We used a technique. She knew its uses, effects and all of it. We wanted short term effects. She worked on long term benefits..." - This shows how the giver should know when to give, how to give, how much to give, why to give and when not to give and whom not to give.....all this qualities in a person makes his giving effective.....
• "He, our Vaishnav would get angry at everything, well mostly everything she said..." - few of us must have noticed how we get irritated at very small things also when it comes from a certain person. Why, have you wondered about it? Have you sat in meditation to understand this? Logical mind will spin tales that will justify our emotions and reactions giving various incidents as examples and valid reasons for us to behave so.......trust me, that is the smartness of this mind. That's how it can keep us engaged with our suffering. That is its agenda. Don't fall for it! Go beyond mind! Meditate to go beyond mind! As long as we put strength in mind, it will drag us to hell. Don't fall for it! Outsmart it! You are not doing this for any Guru, God or Reiki. You owe yourself some peace. Meditate and see the workings of your mind! Drop it and become free of your anger and pain.......

Reiki Work Time : 

Make a list of people who have helped you, reached out to you, stood by you since the time you remember! It can be a physical help -

a.When they helped with your shifting or so

b.When they served food when sickness visited your home or so

It can be for giving you emotional, financial or psychological help. Though you would've returned the money which they had lent in times of need, maybe even with interest, still you owe them.

You gave or returned them when you had excess and what was theirs. But they gave in times of your need. You've given the amount, but could you return the 'need which their help fulfilled'? So you owe them inspite of having returned the money....remember that...

Someone who has let you pay later for their service which you used first...some times we pay others after months or years later and yet when we pay them we pay as if out of pain, as if we are doing them a favour by paying them their due, we think they are getting so much of money from us and we are losing money.....these thoughts are cause of 'karma' that stops abundance from entering your life.......imagine your boss crying or abusing you every time you are paid your salary?

Ok, now coming to the list....make the list of all these people ....

All these lists we are coming up with, preferably do it in your reiki journal leaving two pages after every list so that you can add the names you have forgotten now, later ......and you can also add the new names that would enter your life in future.......

Thought for the week : 

In the end, it's you against you. Fighting for yourself!

Me, My Guru

Today, I found her tending to her plants .She was trimming rose plants .She was doing it with such care and delicacy that I didn’t even have the heart to disturb her with my ‘usual’ “Good Morning Maam” sound. Yes, today I realized it was just a routine sound I made whenever I met her. No doubt , she hardly responded with “Good Morning” she would just smile.Today.I felt maybe even that smile denoted the redundancy of that wish which didn’t have ‘soul’ or meaning in it .She saw through it and laughed at our dreamy dead habits .She and her smile reminded us of the unnecessary rituals that we carried on and later complained of the burden of carrying them. But, I never understood. Today, I understood the gesture of her smile .She wanted us to ‘be’. Just ‘Be’ and yet……Like it had happened many times before, I did not understand it.

I missed it.

I smiled. Even to understand this small thing, her presence was require. Even without opening her mouth she had the ability to communicate. No doubt, I loved her company.

“Smiling? Found a treasure?” a question boomed through my thoughts.  I looked up and saw her looking at me.

“No nothing special”. I lied.

She turned to her trimming.  I joined her. She  watered the pot with such love .She washed the leaves with such care and then I suddenly remembered .This pot never flowered .In so many years, I had never seen it bloom .“Why are you wasting your time on this plant? It has never bloomed .Throw it .It never will”. I said.

“I love plants especially roses .So, I bought this plant. But before bringing it in my house and life , I didn’t put a condition that it’ll bloom and give me lots of roses in exchange for the care I show to this plant .So today, I can’t be angry that it doesn’t flower right?”

“But all the time and energy is wasted on this plant. Why love it when it doesn’t give

anything in return “I asked.

 ....contd....

...

anything in return “I asked.

On raising kids – me, my Guru

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On raising  kids – me, my Guru

h. when he loses faith while waiting or suffering some pain of his doing or others doing, just be there to build that trust and faith in him to keep going the right way.....

i. teach him the right from wrong instead of just telling him "don't do this or do this" statements thrown at his face.

j. don't set a wrong example and expect him to come out right.....if you lie don't expect him to tell the truth (don't say other members of the family do etc.....etc..). YOU don't lie and he'll pick that from you.....set an example that he can't overlook

k. create good memories - not expensive ones.......good memories can be created even when you are away from him. You can create beautiful times/memories without spending a single pie .......

l. teach him to love people and use things. don't lavish him with things and comforts so much that he starts loving things and using people. 

m. when someone shouts or scolds him, don't pamper him or talk wrongly about that person to him. Instead teach him to see the good  in that act......

contd..........

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=purpose+of+rose+plant

(All the points are given in concise as they have already been discussed many times before.....any point seems vague or questionable let me know, will explain in detail...
i presumed that these points are self-evident and clear)

On raising kids – me, my Guru

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On raising  kids – me, my Guru

“mm....then what can we do as parents? Can't I protect my child against pain and suffering all through his life? Good questions. Question every parent asks and suffers the answer – no! You can't protect him from failures, pain and suffering” replied our Guru.

Svetha questioned her again “but i want my child to smile always and be happy always “.

“Yes, every parent's wish and desire but still, the painful truth is it is not so.......

they have to fall, fail, be hurt, fall sick and suffer various lows of life”

“But then Guruji  what is the difference between us and other (non reiki) parents (i would suggest you better read it as non sadhaks or people with no clarity or love for their child!)?” asked someone from the side.

Our Guru replied “The answer is :

a.Be there for the child when he fails or falls - without judging or lecturing......just be there for him.......you can lecture later when he has risen......but then just stand there with him......

b. don't let your fear stop him from experiencing life in toto .....

c. don't let him be dependent on you and the comforts you give him.......teach him to fend for himself....teach him to be independent , i would go a step further and say, teach him to take care of others too.

d. you can't stop him from getting hurt but you can teach him not to hurt others, to be sensitive  towards others be it human or animal or plant - life in general.......

e. don't think of saving him from harsh realities of life instead give him strength to face realities of life 

f. don't push him to think life is all about winning......teach him to give his best and to work on himself to better himself in every aspect of life.....if possible teach him to help others win in life.......teach him to help others realize their dreams

g. your upbringing can make him think that he deserves all the best in the world and that everyone and the world owes him service and are here to wait on him.......beware of this damage

OR

you can teach him to be grateful for all that he has and receives

you can teach him to be good to all

you can teach him to be selfless

you can teach him to be HUMANE!

contd..........

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=rose