Whenever we say or wish in comparison to others, we are asking for trouble.
For eg:-
I want my husband like SRK. Wish would give me a husband who is a chain-smoker, insomniac, prone to accidents, workaholic, fidgety, dear to women and girls etc. And I crib and complain, why I got such a husband? Remember “ask and it shall be given” and it is always a package-deal. Instead say “I want my husband to be good-looking, romantic, expressive, understanding etc depending on which character of SRK’s role fascinates you.
Remember, NEVER EVER use “like x/y/SRK” etc while wishing for something in life.

The most common way of asking for wishes would be in comparison. Like “I should be richer than my brother-in-law.” Fine. He has Rs 5 lakhs credit card outstanding and I complain saying “why my wish is not fulfilled?” When it actually gets fulfilled. Say my earnings should be Rs 10,000 pm – NOT more than my brother-in-law. If I say “I should be happier than others relatives”. I’ll get divorced.
Wish fulfilled but complaint and pain remains.
So, we get what we ask, so let’s ask correctly from now onwards.

Sometimes, I may ask correctly yet wish may not be fulfilled especially if you doing Reiki. For e.g.: I want to become Prime Minister and I do Reiki regularly still it wouldn’t happen. Why? When a 5 year old with high fever cries for an ice-cream, does the parent buy one? No. Right! Why, is Rs 5 dearer than the child? Cant he afford Rs 5? The same parents buys 2 ice-creams when the child is back to normal when the child is back to normal. When a parent with limited intelligence can show love in denial, Reiki which knows me through all of my soul journey, doesn’t it’s love express it self in denial. When I get what I want it’s good. But, when I don’t get, it’s even better, because in that is Reiki’s Love and wish.
Reiki always believes in short-term pains and long-term gains.

So, the trick is to increase the worthiness to receive the object of year desire/love. How?........

desire and anger

…..contd…..

Remember one thing. It’s not the end of the world if one desire is fulfilled. No next desire also will bring us on the same point sooner or latter.  So, instead of being restless and being anxious for the fulfillment of our desire,  concentrate on the state of mind.  Learn to stabilize your mind and work on your inner turmoil.  You will come out of this situation as a more balanced person and that is your actual victory because you will be better equipped next time when the next desire upsets your life and your emotions.  Desire can bring about our downfall and I have given few examples for the same but the same desire if handled correctly can elivate us and our life for ever and more!

Dhruv wanted to sit on his father’s lap like his step-brother.  But his step-mother taunted him saying that he should have been born as her son to enjoy that! He was dejected and went sobbing to his mother. She said (what a great mother she was) “She is right! You as my son don’t have the right to sit on your father’s lap! Gain that right by doing tapas and seek a boon from Lord Vishnu for the same.  That’s the only way to get your wishes fulfilled!”

He lost no time in following her suggestion.  He didn’t sit to analyse the situation or the people.  He didn’t start hating them. He didn’t go around talking ill of them.  He didn’t fight with logic or rule of the land to get his wish fulfilled.  He simply followed his mother’s suggestion and went into forest and did tapas! (You neednot go to forest to get your wish fulfilled! Just start meditating at your home and as much as you can – don’t count the minutes or hours. Meditate and do reiki till your wishes come true! Remember the seven year kid Dhruv did intense tapas to fulfill just one small wish and we don’t have patience to do reiki, meditation even for few days/months (he did it 24/7 and we do only max 30 minutes /per and still ask “how many more days?”).

…contd…..

On grace. receiving and wish being fulfilled!

On grace. receiving and wish being fulfilled!

The world owes you Nothing!

It was here FIRST!

God owes you Nothing too!

He was here FIRST! If anything, I owe Him, not the other way....

So when I do pooja, it actually pays the debt that I already owe Him. It doesn't mean He owes me and should come down running to fulfill my ---- wish!

A thought that says "when I do japa/ pooja / etc He is bound to do favours to me" says or treats God indirectly as a subservient who is deemed to fulfill your every wish - a la' genii ....is your God that?

If that is the definition of God then I got my word wrong to fit that definition - the words one should be using is "  genii or subservient ".

But unfortunately for us and fortunately for God, He is not bound by our definitions and expectations. He is what He is!

Either take Him or leave Him!

But we can't force Him to be bound to our definitions?

No Guru is bound to be your "wishing rod". You are not being generous in letting him serve you. You are not giving him an opportunity to serve him by putting forth your desires in front of him....

Guru's job and requirement is there to dispel your ignorance and to give you love and knowledge of the Divine - not to face the brick bats that you wish to hit God with. He is not the spokesperson who has to defend God to a 'self declared Bhaktha' who all that he knows is to "USE" God and then once a desire is fulfilled says "that is fulfilled but, now I am asking for this and He is not doing his job..."

hello, stop going to Gurus or God and be on your own......

If you want their help, then first know 'beggars can't be choosers'.

One who is receiving can't demand what he has to receive........

Sadhan on sunsets

 

Contd....

Sadhan on sunsets

If you are doing Reiki for your intention – trust that it’ll come true.

“But maam, when?” – No one had answers for this question.

“But maam, he got his wish fulfilled, when will my wish be granted?” – Basically stupid question! Your wish will be fulfilled at ‘your time’ – not when you demand it to be fulfilled!

There are two types of people who do intention Reiki.

First type are those who get angry right from first week saying ‘but I am doing Reiki since a week, month..etc..’ They become more and more irritated, tensed, angry and depressed. They are becoming more selfish, adamant and seeking pity from others.

The second are the ones who remember every intention that was fulfilled in the past and keep being grateful for that. This in turn increases their faith. They address their fears and doubts with various healing techniques. They keep saying “If Reiki has given me this tough situation, there is something I need to learn from it”. They keep looking for flaws in their attitudes and keep correcting them. They keep reminding themselves “Even this shall pass!” As they are in pain, suffering and depressed, they keep with the techniques. Sometimes, not even with faith but as a routine. And that in turn brings them out of this state of mind sooner than later.

Contd....

# sunsets and sunrises, on little joys of life, miracles of life, wow moments, everything happens for good, abundance, life as it is, awareness, mindfulness, being available to the miracles of life, happiness, state of mind, 

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=she+had+a+faint+smile+on+her+lips 

Share the sentence that touched you.......

Me, My Guru - On thanking God!

Contd.........

Me, My Guru - On thanking God! 


Our Guru continued "How long do I do that? 


If you think your son is worth one day’s gratitude, do it ‘one day’.

If you think you are happy with him and grateful for him for a week, do for one week.

Hope you got it!”

“But maam I am not yet married!” blurted Vaishnav.

“Good for you. No need to do this extra work!” she replied lightly.

“But this is not about just son. It is  about   every  blessing  that  we are living  with  and enjoying. Many we had received over the years which we brushed aside as ‘we got few wishes fulfilled but……” replied Rahul haughtily.

"You can plant a tree on his birthday every year! So you can for every blessing in your life!" she concluded.

"That would start with our birthday. Our life though we are ever complaining ever about is a huge gift that we abuse every day crying and cribbing about it" said Kshama.

We all nodded our heads. And then came our special days - like the day we got our jobs, degrees, we met our best friends etc....and it was then clear to all that each had so many blessings that had come their way but no one actually did anything much about that! 

Many had even forgotten many blessings or have started taking them for granted.

Some good souls have even started complaining about them! Like “I am suffering in my office when they had wanted this job badly!” etc…

Now the ball was in our court. What each one of us did with this ‘knowledge’ depended solely on our ‘character’.

“Just hope no one ends up coming and telling her “maam I have been even thanking God for all the blessings He has given to me! How mean and manipulative is He for expecting that from me? Or why is my wish not getting fulfilled inspite of me being ‘grateful’ for the ones fulfilled?” said Aziz and we all laughed.

That seemed quite possible what with the type of students she had!

But for now we had our 'to do list' prepared. 

Concluded.......

Points covered :

• Why there is emptiness and sadness within us?
• What is the cause of loneliness and suffering?
• Why there is listlessness in our life?
• Not having our wish fulfilled is not the reason we are unhappy and angry. We are so because of ingratitude......
• Working for our dreams and desires doesn't mean 'we make ourselves "pity" desiring vessels for others to feel sorry for and make our dreams come true.
• Waiting for our desires to be fulfilled doesn't give us license to shout and be angry at God/reiki/master/Universe for not fulfilling our desires. Sooner we understand that good for us! 
• Gratitude is not a word but should express itself if it is real.......
• No God or master is expecting or demanding your 'gratitude' for you to call them names like egotist etc.....
• Being Grateful is for you not for the God!

Draupadi - Mahabharata

...contd...

This goes to prove that any wish however illogical comes true and unfortunately as we would've forgotten that we asked for it - end up cursing our fate and God and envying others thinking they got more than what they deserve.  As in Draupadi's case it happened in her next life.

How many of our situations and people in our lives, we have asked for in previous lives - do we know that? do we remember that?  No, Nature has given us a great boon of forgetfulness.  So, we forget or don't remember our previous births and actions and end up crying and complaining.  If we "accept" that the present situation is just an effect and the cause is our own desire, then the list of our complains would be drastically reduced - nay completely done away with.  Maybe, we'll become more responsible with our desires, wishes and thought!

There is also another version to this story where Draupadi gives such a huge list of characters that she seeks in her spouse that Lord Shiva said "Granted.  But all these qualities can't be in a single man, but all the characters will be equally distributed in five men - those five men would be your five husbands!"

Whatever be the case, one thing is clear - "She received what she asked" - as I always say "Ask and it shall be given and then, suffer with your asking".  Our wishes are so illogical, paradoxical and confusing that we end up having our wish fulfilled in a way it pains us!

That's why I always request people never to comment on others situations saying "they got it because of their karma!" statement....never ever do it.... because as you can see Draupadi didn't want her wish fulfilled this way.  Likewise everyone gets as per his /her karma, but can we say what that karma is? May be, it is just a wish asked gone wrong...so avoid - yes avoid is the only action in these cases. Avoid commenting on others and their lives and lifestyle....

...contd....

on comparison

Conversation with GOD

One more quality that hits hard on financial abundance is comparison with others...Never ever do that....
Never give up and never quit.

Today I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality, Iwanted to quit my life...I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD."GOD", I said."Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"

His answer surprised me..."Look around", GOD said."Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied.

"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant andplentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit onthe bamboo."

GOD said."In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit."

"In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo see. I would not quit."GOD said."Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant."

"But just 6months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it neededto survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle."

GOD said to me."Did you know, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"

"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don't compare yourself to others." GOD said."The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."

GOD said."Your time will come", GOD said to me."You will rise high"

"How high should I rise?" I asked."How high will the bamboo rise?" GOD asked in return.

"As high as it can?" I questioned

"Yes." GOD said,"Give me glory by rising as high as you can.

"I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you seethat GOD will never give up on you.GOD will never give up on you

"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed"Conversation with GOD

The Moment i compare, always remember i am drawing with energies and with it comes their life situations...and then you complain that your wish is not being fulfilled...but it is. Only you are not aware of it...

For eg. if you wish your husband was like Salman Khan. you must have wished with regards to his looks. But the wish comes back fulfilled. And the husband becomes or is one who is so possessive that he beats you blue everytime you are smiling or talking to any other male...and you complain he is not understanding...but you only asked for it...

Next if i say I should be as or more rich than Anil, he will lose all his property and i will end up with Rs.1000/- in my pocket..the wish is fulfilled. Yet my sorrows and unfulfilment doesn't ....

So ask what you want specifically...not in comparitive terms...

eg: my spouse should be loving, earning Rs.100000/-, good looking etc

my bank balance should be Rs. 10000/- by X date etc...etc...

Stop using comparitive terms....and realize your real worth...YOU are unique in this world and no body can be like you even in millions of years to come...realize that and work towards your wishes and dreams..

Do re-birth meditation with confusion, jealousy and lack of clarity to be able to see clearly what you wish to have in life...

all the best for it....

regarding healing and comments

regarding healing and comments shared.....

Swathi and Supriya shared a wonderful experience of theirs where their wish was not fulfilled and they realised that it is for their good.....glad to hear about such realisations.......

i am sure more others would give such wonderful insights with their experiences.......

what we can learn from such experiences is that our 'desire' is based on our limited view of our needs and facts that we hold in our hand and small head.....but Reiki knows All About us and our future too - so even when things don't work out know reiki is working for us -protecting us from our own wants and desires being fulfilled....it is protecting us from ourselves.......

and yes unfortunately even to understand that and validate that we need to have healed that part that lets us see this miracle happen on daily basis in our lives and be grateful for what it has not let happen in our lives too.......

Desire by its nature gives pain. Some by getting fulfilled. 

Some by remaining unfulfilled.

Unfulfilled desires can be just deferred fulfillment too - at times!

And yet we swear in anger because it is delayed assuming they never would be fulfilled!

Desires don't get fulfilled for various reason.

Some just because of the nature of 'that particular desire'.

Some because of our karma or destiny.

Some just because it is not the time.

and some just by coincidence.......

And to think we get angry and throw that anger on people whom we 'suppose' are responsible for that 'fulfillment' and punish them with our words and acts - is it right?

When the wish gets fulfilled ultimately can we take back the hurt that we gave people on whom we downloaded our anger? If not what right do we have to throw at them in the first place? And yet, we think THEY are wrong!

Can a simple sorry make good the loss? If yes, would you take it when others hurt you and just throw a 'sorry' or a emoji on you?

Would you accept when the think they can get away with their acts and words that they put on  you?

Treat others as you would be treated!

only when we heal enough can we actually be aware of all this.......

accept it or leave it - but the fact remains so.......

everyone - keep sharing such wonderful experiences of yours on daily basis till this 'corona time' is over.........should i add it as my request?

On wish fulfilled !

On wish fulfilled and Grace received!

If this is what Helen Keller felt and expressed - the one who was born blind and deaf and hence ended up being dumb too.......then why are we endowed with all these faculties crying, complaining and talking and living hatred and anger?

Read it and push it aside as a good 'forward' but not good enough to solve my problem or help me in finding my happiness and peace - well that is one choice you have and most frequently taken too!

OR

read it as if it is just for YOU written by the PERSON whom you have been addressing all along / questioning all along/ searching all along and then you see it as an answer to the source of your pain and suffering.

It is easy to give that 'cynical smile' and move on and live with that aching heart and splitting mind.........but log on to that courage deep down in you to face the 'Truth' NOW and see where the problem is and heal it.......

Sadhan for October 2025

 

Sadhan for October 2025

This month let the sadhan be a little different.

1.     Wear “green” dress at least 2-3 times per week.

2.     Do re-birth meditation with “sadness” at least 2 times a week.

3.     Do earth healing 2 times a week.

4.     Last month we cleaned the house. Any old article lying around in the house which is of no use to you – give away or sell it off. Take away at least one such item per week.

5.     Give away old and unused dresses to people who want it.

6.     Daily sit for 5 mts and list out things that worked out for you thanks to healings.

7.     You can also list out healings that happened or wishes fulfilled – big or small – just 5 mts a day. You can time it. If laziness takes over you, then you can even repeat the same miracle/desire fulfilled every single day. Just remember to thank Reiki or God after listing every wish fulfilled. “Thankyou REIKI OR GOD for fulfilling this wish of mine”

8.     Give minimum of three packets of food this month. Those who can’t cook, just give away a couple of fruits of your choice to the beggars/rag pickers.

9.     “You receive as much as you give”.

This is the month of receiving “Ma Lakshmi” in our lives. Let’s prepare enough to receive her. Give enough to receive enough!

Give heartily.

Disclaimer:

Later day, DO NOT COME TO ME AND GIVE ME THE BILL OF HOW MUCH YOU HAVE GIVEN IN CHARITY AND DEMAND RETURNS!

WEAR GREEN doesn't mean you take it as an excuse to go shopping like mad. you need not wear a new dress every day. You can wear the same green dress every time for the entire month. 

Do not let manipulative nature take over you using sadhan as an excuse.

Men who don't wear green can have green around them in any form at least 2-3 times a week. Say, have a plant or cutting of a twig or plant in a vase in your hall/table. 

You can have green cover on any item of your house/office. 

Use your imagination. It is all about being surrounded by green colour, that's all!

 

May this deepavali light up your life and burn away your ignorance and stupidity!