The Price of everything!

The Price of everything!

Everything in life comes with a price!

The question is what is that you "really want" and what is the "price" you are ready to pay for it?

And the more important question than that is "is the thing you want really worth the 'price' you are ready to pay for it"?

Think about it!

Assign value to things that matter to you to understand this better......

On raising kids – me, my Guru

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On raising  kids – me, my Guru

n.set great ideals in front of him, talk about them and revere those ideals - be it RAMA, JESUS or Jabala and above all YOU!

o. Love him as much as you can.......but that love doesn't mean hating someone else (like people who scold him or win over him etc)......

p. stop marketing yourself as a 'good parent' and just be the parent as good as you can be......you are not here to please others - just to be be with your kid......so make the most of it....

q. As a reiki channel do reiki for the kid every single day.

r..  and above all - spend time with him, he'll grow very fast and you can't bring back those childhood days with him again ......play with him, dance and sing with him, roll with him.....do every little activity with him, enjoy with him.......because at the end of this journey all that would matter is did you spend good moments with him or not? no point regretting later” saying this she left us to attend a phone call.

We ended up discussing all these points and comparing them with facts of life and the various incidents that matched with these explanations.

Here was a simple question but she had wound up the whole journey in just few words. She gave us an essence of all that we needed to play our part of ‘parenthood’ right!

It was easy to be simple but it is very difficult to be simple! So true and yet here was a classic example of that. And many times this simplicity made us blind to the profundity of the issue and the solution or working process.

Even today we went home rich. And yet as many days most of us didn’t validate the richness of her words!

Concluded............

(Hope this post answered your questions/doubts completely!)

#child rearing, parenthood, expectations, pain and suffering of a parent, joys of parenthood, 

Points to be looked into and understood :

This is just not for parents or children having complaints about their parents not knowing how to be a good parent. Here in lies answers also to people who are going or wanting to go into any relationship. Every relationship we are concentrating only on "doing things" in it. We miss the "being" part of it. We assume we are already very good to be in a relationship and then suffer the consequences of having one later and then curse Reiki/God/master for letting that "relationship happen".

On raising kids – me, my Guru

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On raising  kids – me, my Guru

h. when he loses faith while waiting or suffering some pain of his doing or others doing, just be there to build that trust and faith in him to keep going the right way.....

i. teach him the right from wrong instead of just telling him "don't do this or do this" statements thrown at his face.

j. don't set a wrong example and expect him to come out right.....if you lie don't expect him to tell the truth (don't say other members of the family do etc.....etc..). YOU don't lie and he'll pick that from you.....set an example that he can't overlook

k. create good memories - not expensive ones.......good memories can be created even when you are away from him. You can create beautiful times/memories without spending a single pie .......

l. teach him to love people and use things. don't lavish him with things and comforts so much that he starts loving things and using people. 

m. when someone shouts or scolds him, don't pamper him or talk wrongly about that person to him. Instead teach him to see the good  in that act......

contd..........

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=purpose+of+rose+plant

(All the points are given in concise as they have already been discussed many times before.....any point seems vague or questionable let me know, will explain in detail...
i presumed that these points are self-evident and clear)

On raising kids – me, my Guru

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On raising  kids – me, my Guru

“mm....then what can we do as parents? Can't I protect my child against pain and suffering all through his life? Good questions. Question every parent asks and suffers the answer – no! You can't protect him from failures, pain and suffering” replied our Guru.

Svetha questioned her again “but i want my child to smile always and be happy always “.

“Yes, every parent's wish and desire but still, the painful truth is it is not so.......

they have to fall, fail, be hurt, fall sick and suffer various lows of life”

“But then Guruji  what is the difference between us and other (non reiki) parents (i would suggest you better read it as non sadhaks or people with no clarity or love for their child!)?” asked someone from the side.

Our Guru replied “The answer is :

a.Be there for the child when he fails or falls - without judging or lecturing......just be there for him.......you can lecture later when he has risen......but then just stand there with him......

b. don't let your fear stop him from experiencing life in toto .....

c. don't let him be dependent on you and the comforts you give him.......teach him to fend for himself....teach him to be independent , i would go a step further and say, teach him to take care of others too.

d. you can't stop him from getting hurt but you can teach him not to hurt others, to be sensitive  towards others be it human or animal or plant - life in general.......

e. don't think of saving him from harsh realities of life instead give him strength to face realities of life 

f. don't push him to think life is all about winning......teach him to give his best and to work on himself to better himself in every aspect of life.....if possible teach him to help others win in life.......teach him to help others realize their dreams

g. your upbringing can make him think that he deserves all the best in the world and that everyone and the world owes him service and are here to wait on him.......beware of this damage

OR

you can teach him to be grateful for all that he has and receives

you can teach him to be good to all

you can teach him to be selfless

you can teach him to be HUMANE!

contd..........

also read : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=rose

On raising kids – me, my Guru

On raising  kids – me, my Guru

“Guruji, my baby cries whenever I give him bath or do massage for him? He is three months old. How can I teach him to enjoy these activities? How can I make him laugh and not cry during these activites?” asked Svetha who had become mother recently.

Some of us didn’t know what to make out of her question. But then, do all people get all sorts of such doubts when they “are parents”?

May be, we all have our own set of apprehensions, doubts and fears with regards to child rearing. Does that come out of our fears or lack of knowledge of parenting? In the process of becoming or wanting to be “BEST PARENT” do we end up being obsessed about the whole process? God knows how some of us went through this journey?

But here she was with her answers in her usual casual tone “babies will cry.....they should - that is the only exercise they get and they grow  strong because of that......so relax.......and no, you can't teach the child that small to enjoy those activities........every child cries......

understand one thing - we can't stop children from crying and feeling the pain......it's sad but inevitable.?”

“But is it not a parent’s job to protect his child from pain and suffering?" Svetha asked.

...contd.......

#child rearing, parenthood, love, attachments, pain and suffering, duties and responsibilities of a parent, 

Questions answered :

• What are the duties of a parent?
• how to be a good parent?
• What can a parent do to protect his child

Points to be observed and understood :

• Meaning and role of love of a parent
• Expression of love towards children/ loved ones
• limitations of a parent in child's life
• Role of a Guru /God in one's life
• How much are Guru/God/Reiki responsible towards a student/sadhak
• What role Guru/Reiki/God plays in a students/sadhaks/devotee's life...

Good bye 2019

Good bye 2019!

One more year has passed by. One more year that has passed by that made us rich with achievements, comforts, lessons, understanding and joy. One more to remember by…

This year also has kept pending few unfinished tasks.

The ‘to do list’ is still kept alive by this year.

We still have few dreams to chase.

We have yet to cross few mile stones to achieve this coming year.

Not all of our desires were addressed/fulfilled by this year.

We bid good bye to few in our lives. We welcomed few new ones into ours.

With so much old gone and new coming in, there is still something that is same in us and in our lives……….!

Revisit old memories and look back at life as it was! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=new+year+resolutions

And then sum up this year the way you see it!

And in your diaries write your next year’s target and dreams to chase!

And before you start complaining saying  ‘yes, I understand what you are saying but, X is not fulfilled or not right…” go back to your list of blessings, achievements etc etc and marvel and be grateful for all that you achieved and have inspite of what you still don’t have!Remember if every wish is fulfilled and no dreams to chase then there would be no need for us to exist. We are till we have some unfulfilled agenda ONLY. So thank every milestone yet to be reached. Thank every dream that needs to be chased. Every desire that needs to be fulfilled for we are till they are!

Let’s heal the way we healed for our previous desires (to manifest) and work on our present desires and needs.

We have still miles to go before we sleep……

So I repeat, like always  sum up this year the way you see it!(like you did previous years...)

And in your diaries write your next year’s target and dreams to chase!

# New year resolutions, gratitude. life, milestones and achievements of life

Just saying!

Just saying!

Glad to know that few of you didn’t waste this “silence from my end” attitude and I am happy to hear about that ‘act’ of yours! Bless all those you were with just ‘missing your blog maam’ or ‘we need something from you to keep going every day maam’ statements.

Instead you visited and revisited few of the older posts and kept doing it religiously all through these days!

Good for doing it!

You must have noticed that you found something that you don’t remember having read previously in the older blog posts. That is the benefit of visiting or reading all those posts already read and reread too many times.

Even when we read we read with our ego intact. And so end up reading or noticing only those of parts of the article that benefits or interests us. All those which ‘at that time’ seemed useless or redundant were conveniently put aside. But with time our understanding becomes better. Our area to be healed has expanded. Our acceptance has increased and that in turn has helped us look at these posts differently and we found our solutions and cause of our pain and sufferings staring right at us. It was given to us long back. It was right there! And yet we didn’t use it. We didn’t know it existed. We didn’t apply it and benefit from it.

And now we did take notice and applied it and are working towards freeing ourselves of our pain and suffering and working towards chasing our dreams.

Think about it!

That’s quite a food for thought – for now and for ever!