What to do with the problem?

 

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What to do with the problem?

So, there is a problem! Fine!

1. Take a deep breath and look at the problem. Don't feel it, don't try to solve it. Just keep looking at it till your breath becomes normal.

2. Next, Word your problem. Write it down. Don't live it in your mind. Write it. Writing doesn't mean "mailing me your "chaata bharatam". NO!!! Just write for yourself. Now look at your writing. Most of the times - a. it is complaints using emotional blackmail - "maam, I am suffering so much, I have so much of stress, My family is worried about me as I am stressing about it and losing health, 

 b. it is criticizing - it points at the one who is responsible 

c. Self-pity - it says statements like "Why did it happen to me?" etc 

d. it says "How you don't deserve it etc etc" 

e. Scapegoating - It says "How some other person is supposed to fix it and he is not doing it" f. Giving a larger picture and space to your problem with words like "It is big problem maam, it is impossible, it is urgent, it is huge.....

3. Delete everything that comes under such categories. Delete every sentence of your problem that reflects these thoughts. 

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

also read suggested from previous post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/11/on-problems-and-solutions.html 

What to do with the problem?

 

What to do with the problem?

Problem – How to solve it and what to do with it?

How you understand, address and face the problem reflects your clarity of thought and your level of consciousness! A person who is clear in conscience and mind has a pure heart. He will look at the problem to solve it. He will not sit to complain about it or try to play a victim-card with his problem in his life. For him, a problem means only one thing – a puzzle to be solved. That’s all! He gets excited may be but no other emotion like pain, fear or suffering enters his being! He enjoys facing problem as it gives him an opportunity to put his abilities and skills to good use. It’s like a warrior loves to be in a battle-field. A soldier is trained to fight. For him, war gives him an opportunity to prove himself. So he loves it.

                                                 

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# life, beauty of life, challenges of life, opportunities of life, life lessons, problems and solutions, facts of life, there is no easy life, grace, growth, hurdles in life, 

suggested read from previous post - https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+Hindrances+in+problem+solving 

Be authentic! Be yourself!

 

Be authentic! Be yourself!

You’ll always be brave in someone’s mind and a coward in another’s, strong to one and fragile to another, good to one and terrible to another.

You will be seen as annoying to one and comforting to another. Some will feel anxious around you and some will find peace in your company. Some will see you as “too much” while others will see you as a gift!

The World will look at you from their subjective point of view. The World is never going to agree on a definition of who you are!

So you might as well live the way that feels true to your heart.

Be yourself. Be the authentic you!

Because at the end of the day, all healing boils down to just this – are you real and genuine? Or, or you fake and performing?

So what are you?

And what would you want to be??

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# fake and real, genuine, being truthful, on healing, true to yourself, on trust, on spirituality, being closer to God, how others view you, freedom,

Questions addressed:

What does it mean to be spiritual?

When does journey towards spirituality start?

How to overcome our pains and sufferings?

Free yourself from need for validation of others!

Read suggested from previous posts : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2015/02/perception.html 

Question time:

So, what does it mean to be authentic?

What stops you from being real?

Which are the circumstances you fake it?

How do you feel when you are real?

And how do you feel when you are performing for others?

What did you understand from this post and this exercise?????????

Learning from the Old – As you like it!

 

Learning from the Old – As you like it!

 

When put together both “Peace of mind – A boy and the girl and As you like it” the understanding that you exhibited is “…” shared by Mona, Kshitija, Swathi.

I’ll just sum up the understandings:

·        We view the other based on WHO we are! Not on who the other person is!

Once we understand and accept this point, we’ll realize that the judgements that we make of others reflect who we! So, let’s be cautious there.

Next, to accept love, receive love, validate love and to be grateful for the same, we must have given love in the first place. Only then, can we truly understand and appreciate when it is received. Otherwise, entire life though the others keep showering us with love and respect, all we can see and feel is “insult, emptiness, self-pity, loneliness, depression and related feelings and emotions”.

The same applies to other feelings like respect, help, genuinity and so on.

·        If we can’t trust others, it shows we have been cheating others regularly. The more we cheat others, the less we trust others. And then we ask “But, how can I trust Guru/Reiki if they are not fulfilling my THIS wish?”. We can NEVER TRUST anyone in life. We use that word to manipulate the other to dance to our tunes. But, in actuality we can never trust others.

Only the day we become honest in our dealings with others can we trust anyone in life.

Only the day we give others their worth can we trust that we don’t have to cheat or manipulate to receive our due.

Sit on this.

·        Our fear is directly proportionate to our character.

The one who manipulates is full of fear.

The one who lies is full of fear.

The one who cheats, is full of fear.

The one who is pretentious is full of fear.

And we thought, fear was inevitable!! Ha, ha!

The one who is genuine doesn’t fear.

The one who talks truth doesn’t fear.

The one who gives others what is due doesn’t fear.

The one who is true, doesn’t fear.

Now, it’s up to one and all to decide if we need to live with fear or not!

The Degree of fear in the person reflects various attitudes that need to be healed in him.

·        People you meet, interact and get involved with in your life are so because of “who you are!”

Change the way you are and the same person’s behavior changes for better.

Remember, “YOUR OUTER WORLD IS THE REFLECTION OF YOUR INNER WORLD” OR IN OTHER WORDS “YOUR OUTER WORLD IS THE REFLECTION OF WHO YOU ARE”.

The Only way to change your World is to change yourself!!

These are just a few of the points. 

Read the posts suggested and meditate on them.

Look at reasons for not understanding more. Heal them. Then, take up the links and read them again and receive better understanding. 

Share........

Concluded....

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# boy and the girl, emotions, peace of mind, you are what you read, situations don’t make or break us we do, outer world reflection of inner world, change yourself change your world, changing the World, World peace, mass energies, perspective, understanding, clarity of thought, fear, fearlessness, trust, 

Revisiting the old posts –On giving!

 

Revisiting the old posts –On giving!

Read for this fortnight is https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/04/on-giving.html .

Read this by this month end and come back with your observations, understandings.

Combine your previous understandings with this post too and come with complete understandings.

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# boy and the girl, emotions, peace of mind, you are what you read, situations don’t make or break us we do, outer world reflection of inner world, change yourself change your world, changing the World, World peace, mass energies,

Grace healings – Mona, Kshitija, Swathi

 

Grace healings – Mona, Kshitija, Swathi

Receive Reiki for 3 days for going through the “Read suggested” and then coming back with their understanding. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/peace-of-mind.html

Read here once again – they receive grace healings for “coming back with their understanding” – no filters there.

No one is telling – it is right understanding or

It is great understanding or

It is beautiful and so on….

Just for sharing their perspective, they receive “grace healings”.

So, understanding from this exercise “When we just do our job right sincerely, honestly, completely, with the right intent and to the best of Our (not the best or in comparison to others) – just to the best of our abilities, we become eligible to receive the “grace” from above and Universe.

Let this understanding change the way you do things and expect grace!

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# grace healings, grace, gratitude, you receive what you give, destiny and fate, abundance, 

Learning from the Old! - Peace of mind!

 

Learning from the Old! - Peace of mind to As you like it!

Do go through all the understandings that you all have come up with.

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2025/01/learning-from-old.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/peace-of-mind.html

Now Put them together and see what more you can understand.

Now, also see where you can apply it in your life.

Don’t use it to drag others from your life to label them as so and so.

Just see how and where it can be applied in YOUR LIFE and life situations.

What does that tell about yourself?

What do you understand about your problem and your suffering in such cases?

What is the solution?

Where is the solution?

Ask such and related questions and then sum up all your understandings.

Share if you care.

 

Read for this month is “https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2022/02/me-my-guru-as-you-like-it.html”

The read will help your understanding of this topic further.

Read this by 15^th of this month and get back with your observations, understandings etc and we’ll continue from there. 

# on receiving and giving, on karma, destiny, fate, you are what you read, intent, outer world is the reflection of your inner world, 

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

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Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

Pointers to understand the post:

““Guruji, I surrendered and yet things didn’t go my way. And you still ask me to believe in God? How can I trust Him if HE doesn’t fulfill my wishes – MY WAY!” asked Vaishnav.” – This is the very oft repeated question/complaint/doubt. The anger that stems from it or that is behind this question/complaint/doubt is also a very common one.

There are two ways of living our lives. One is that we assume to be “normal” (quoting others in our lives) and in justifying our demands/desires and in being angry/frustrated/disappointed/depressed/hopeless and so on.

The other is more “The Right way” and hence less taken one too. It involves that we address our state of mind instead of the issue in our lives. We look at ourselves and see how and why we are feeling a certain emotion. In this path, we take responsibility for our well-being and state of mind in our hands. We stop blaming others for the mess in our lives. This path empowers us in the long run.

But then, as I already said, this is the path less taken and hence assumed to be “not for everyone”!!

“He was fuming with anger. And to him, he was justified. He was wronged by our Guru, Reiki and God. They have let him down. He had every right to be angry with them – or so he thought!” – Look at the words here. It is clearly said, “to him, he was justified for his anger”. Is it not so with each one of us in every situation in our lives when we think we are suffering our anger/hatred or any such emotion because of others? We ASSUME, I repeat, assume that we are justified in feeling so. As long as we give power to others to take away our peace of mind, we will be victims of our situations. We live in an assumption and belief that if the situation in our lives gets corrected we will be happy. It never is so! We think if people in our lives change for good we will be happy. This too is never right.

Look at the desires and emotions. Sit in meditation. Know their cause. Know their impact on you. Know their hold on you. Become free of their hold on you. That is true freedom! That is empowerment. There is no other way to happiness and freedom!"

Concluded.......

# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

Question time:

How was the post?

What did you understand?

Was the post useful to you?

How will you apply in your life?

Any other points worth mentioning????

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

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Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

If you are not happy with God’s way of running your life, don’t surrender. Go your way!

Work out your life and desires your way. No one can object to that. You have both choices. You take the one that is beneficial and up to your preference.

But if you hold others’ responsible for the results that you seek, the only think you are walking towards and creating for yourself is hell of pain and suffering!

To know, accept and outgrow that we all need to meditate – a lot and then put all the techniques that we know to apply what we know to practice.”

She left us for the day!

We didn’t leave her or the topic – for many days to come.

Later too, we just pushed this topic and related emotions into the background.

Other issues cropped up that demanded our attention – hence!

And those emotions lay there buried fuming to express themselves with a little trigger!

Would we be able to know then that these emotions had surfaced?

Only Time would tell?

For now, we thought we had left them behind us for good!

Concluded......

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/05/expectations-and-conditions_20.html 

Pointers to understand the post in the next post.........Continued......

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

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Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

Once you meditate and understand this, you’ll understand the nature of desire. The Ego survives because of our desires. So it keeps generating desires one after the other. The story never ends.

But if we take a pause and meditate, we’ll see how our emotions make us run from here to there – driving us crazy.

Then in that state of understanding when we surrender our desire to Reiki or God, then, we know that “whatever happens, happens for our good”.

We’ll not use ‘our stupid logic’ and pose questions like “But this happens in everyone’s life know?”

OR

“But everyone is happy…”

“We’ll not play a ‘victim-card’ to project ourselves as ‘poor baby’.

We’ll stop all these childish games.

And in that wait which is full of faith and trust – not hope of fulfillment, a certain miracle happens. The doors of abundance opens. This necessarily doesn’t mean our desire is fulfilled though. In each one’s life, the abundance and miracle take a different hue. It all depends on his soul agenda, journey, karma, worthiness and need of the hour.

Then, the sadhak doesn’t see the storm that is in his life – he sees the “rainbow” – the miracle as promised by Reiki or God!

Surrender is a big thing! It is not a word as you say or think. It takes janmas to understand it right and apply it.

Many use it to avoid playing their part in the happenings of their life. They are weak ones. They are escapists. Surrender is not that also!

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/05/faith.html 

read the link to understand what faith is made of.........

Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

 

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Me, My Guru – On surrender – Tale of two neighbours

He often thought he was logical and right when he posed questions or argued his points. But those listening to him could clearly see flaws in his attitude, words and logic! The day we are able to do the same with our words, feelings, emotions and logic would be the day we have won ‘Olympic Gold’ in the ‘Spiritual World’. Would I see that day in this life of mine, I wondered!

“Yes, you can. Nobody can question that. It’s just that not all demands are given in to by our Father! Isn’t it the same with our biological fathers too?

( https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/03/real-growth-is-in-letting-go.html )

“To ask is our right and to fulfill it is His Choice”.

To love a girl is your right. But it is the girl’s choice to accept it or not.

To apply to a Company is your right, they accepting it or not is their right! Isn’t it?

You expecting your children to take care of you in old age is your right. They doing so or not is their choice” she continued.

“Ok, ok, I get it. then why should I surrender when He may not fulfill it?” asked Vaishnav visibly irritated.

“No, you didn’t GET IT. if you had you wouldn’t have asked this question. We DEMAND that our wish be fulfilled because we become restless, disturbed, adamant and demanding because of our desires. We DON’T LIKE being in that space of disturbed state. So, we ASSUME we’ll become calm and peaceful if and when our desires are fulfilled. But it doesn’t happen so. We may become calm for very little time but the next desire comes to disturb us. This way we keep going from one desire to the other.

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# surrender, faith, trust, belief, doubt, suffering, waiting, attitude, calm mind, mindfulness, being still, let miracle work through you, being his vessel,

also read suggested further on this topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/09/on-belief-and-trust.html

Point to consider:

I take pains to search for the link that adds meaning and gives answers to your questions as you read through the present post. When I can take pains to do so, why can't you take the trouble to read the link to get your answers, is the question that bothers me since years.......

Or 

better still, I think I can stop doing this unnecessary work of giving links of the previous posts for your read.......