.contd..
Likewise, a person/situation is not bad if my expectations are not met. My suffering is real but the person/situation just is. For eg., it rains. In cities we complain and a farmer is happy. Rain is neither good or bad. I wanted to go on a picnic, then rain can't become bad. It is as it is! My expectation makes it good or bad!
Say , I want my family and friends to understand me and support me in all my ventures that I undertake. But, they don't support me or they don't understand me. In such a situation, the `situation' is `not bad' because my expectation is not met. It is as it is! The situation is not conducive to my desire. That's all! But the situation is not `bad'. Likewise, all the people who are responsible for my `expectations not being met' are not bad. They just don't fulfill my expectations. That's all! It's as simple as `they don't understand me or they don't support me'. But we usually state it as `they are bad people' in my life.
Many a times, absence of `good' is considered `bad'. That is also not bad! For eg: getting up early in the morning, doing exercises, following rituals, following a certain dress code etc are considered good by `usual' standards. But, that doesn't mean one doesn't follow them are all `bad'. Say a woman wears western wear, doesn't get up early et like can't be termed as a bad woman. A woman who doesn't cook or doesn't know to cook is no more bad than a woman who does. It's like saying; a man who doesn't drive is bad. Can you accept it? So, Absence of `good' is not `bad'.
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