Me, my guru – on problems in life!

 

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Me, my guru – on problems in life!

“HE didn’t make any promise of easy and good life when we were sent down. HE didn’t to me, did HE to you?” our Guru asked. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2017/02/on-feedbacks-etc_27.html

People nodded their heads in negative.

“Then, why do we expect our lives to be easy and as per our taste? It was not meant to be so. But, in being adamant, we expect it to be as per our liking and then suffer when things don’t go our way. Don’t try to fix the situations or people in your life. You never can, you never will be able to do that. Simply fix the ‘wrong assumption’ that you have from life – that it should be as per your idea of perfect. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+my+Guru+%E2%80%93+on+ego%21

Life is not to go as per our plan. The day we realize it and accept it, life becomes easy and beautiful. Embrace life for what it is. Don’t stifle it with your conditions. It already is beautiful. Don’t make a change in it. Don’t make corrections in it.”

She said just that and that was enough for me. That made my day! The depression that was me for so long was lifted instantly. I realized that when I am open to solutions and understanding, I instantly benefit from the answer and clarity. I was redeemed of my pain and suffering immediately. But the days, I was stuck with my stupidity, well, I lived with pain forever and more!

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similar topic posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2011/08/me-my-guru_25.html

Me, my guru – on problems in life!

 

Me, my guru – on problems in life!

I was depressed today. Or, should I say since few days? Things were not going my way for quite some time. I wasn’t quite comfortable with it. I reached My Guru’s place with a heavy heart. I wasn’t even in the mood to ask questions or attend any session. All I wanted was to just sit in the corner, while away some time and leave at the end of the day. I picked my corner. I didn’t look at anyone. Thankfully, no one disturbed me today!

“HE didn’t make any promise of easy and good life when we were sent down. HE didn’t to me, did HE to you?” our Guru asked. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/12/me-my-guru-teachers-everybody_22.html

People nodded their heads in negative.

“Then, why do we expect our lives to be easy and as per our taste? It was not meant to be so. But, in being adamant, we expect it to be as per our liking and then suffer when things don’t go our way. Don’t try to fix the situations or people in your life. You never can, you never will be able to do that. Simply fix the ‘wrong assumption’ that you have from life – that it should be as per your idea of perfect. 

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# life is beautiful, simple is beautiful, life is complicated, life, on minimalistic living, tension free life, awareness, wanting and needing, 

similar topic posts https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/06/where-less-is-more.html

 

On being together – Shayaari

 

On being together – Shayaari

Tum mere paas hote ho goya

Jab koi doosra nahin hota……..Momin

 तुम मेरे पास होते हो गोया

जब कोई दूसरा नहीं होता।  

It is as if, you are there with me

When no other person is!

OR

You are there with me when I am all alone and there is no one around!

 

Wow! What a pregnant lyrical simple and yet complete couplet!

Either we are with someone or with no one….but here the poet says both with the use of a rare word “goya” meaning “as if or when”. He says he is alone. And yet in his solitude, if finds his lover present. To say that he is alone and in solitude, he describes it as ‘when no other person is there with me’. Wow! Such beauty!

No doubt, Mirza Ghalib said he can exchange his entire Diwan (collection of his entire poems) with just this couplet of Momin’s.

The beauty of this couplet like many in Urdu shayaari is that the lover can be treated as both human and the Almighty!

And apply this to the Lord God, how right it fits there too!

 

Meanings :

Goya – as if, when

Doosra – the other

When to rest?

 

When to rest?

"I have noticed that when I let my emotions rule my sense of purpose, they make me mad. 

I become desperate to have my desires fulfilled. And then, fear grips me. I fear my desire not getting fulfilled. 

I get angry that my desire is not appeased immediately. I become weak. I become adamant. 

Anger takes over my senses. 

And I go berserk. I go mad with desire. Like an elephant that goes mad during the mating season, I go crazy until my desire is fulfilled. 

And, it doesn’t stop there. It takes the next desire and then it goes equally crazy till that desire is fulfilled. And this continues." 

This and such understanding can happen only when we put our minds to rest. And rest means to meditate in silence. 

When such thoughts and emotions drive us crazy, then know it is time to take rest! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/04/time-to-rest.html

When we run behind objects of this world seeking relief from pain, happiness, security, and joy - we only get tired and more restless. So, take a break from your routine. Take a break from running around in circles. Take a break from outside and go within. And even a small break can give you a huge breakthrough from all your problems - sometimes! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=After+the+long+silence

# to rest, peace of mind, calmness, mindfulness, awareness, outerworld reflection of inner world, breakdown situations, problems and solutions, mastering self, success begins with self, 

read related posts on similar topic https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Me%2C+My+Guru+%E2%80%93+On+Empty+boat 

Question time:

What did you understand as "rest"?

Why should we rest?

How do you propose to rest?

On sadhan - On Ramanavami

 

On sadhan - On Ramanavami

Further to https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2024/04/rama-navami-2024.html?showComment=1713432589891 

good to hear that you all have done the same.....

good you have shared too...

it would have been good if you also had given your benefits if any you have noticed, observed or experienced.......

because, at the end of the day, what is the use of any sadhan if it doesn't give any benefit? Every sadhan does. But a sadhak ASSUMES  as per his desire and then shouts or blames the technique or the master you guided him to do so......

When people like you who do it out of an open mind, find its benefits as an incidental benefit and share it with others, then others would also understand that these are the benefits one gets - not the way we demand the benefit to be ......

Me, my Guru – on greatest sin!

 

Me, my Guru – on greatest sin!

“There is no greater sin than cowardice; cowards are never saved – that is sure, said Swami Vivekananda. And I have found that to be true in every instance.” Said my guru one day. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/05/sin.html

Even today, when I feel afraid of anything – be it running out of time or not having my wish fulfilled, I remember her words. And then I know, it is not the desire that needs to be appeased. It is my strength to overcome my weakness to have my desire fulfilled that needs to be addressed. And then, as I sit to do it with various techniques taught to me by her, I slowly regain my strength and feel fear go out of the window. https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/why-me.html

Step by step I work on my weaknesses. Little by little I overcome my fears. Slowly but steadily I gain strength. I am committing less sin than before after all these years. Still working on cowardice, but one day, one day I know I will overcome, one day!!! https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2009/08/on-seva_09.html

Concluded....

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# fear, sin, cowardice, desire is the basis of all sins, weakness, ego, strength, soul consciousness, healing, adamant nature, greed, 

Read the related post https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2016/12/on-love-bhagavatam_12.html

Time to rest!

 

Time to rest!

When is it time to rest?

When your body, mind and spirit seem to give up, know it's time to rest. 

If you go on even when the entire system says "I can't" you may never reach where you are struggling to go. STOP is the sign you must read and follow. 

It's OK to rest for in rest you calm your nerves and a calmer mind sees the solution that is right in front of us.

A person desperate for things to go his way will only lose the people he has in life now. He also messes up the energies in such a way that he creates more hurdles in the path of his desire-fulfillment. 

Doing nothing is so far away from Being Still. Being still is being restful. Know the difference! And act accordingly to get the right results. 

Now, what does resting mean if not lazing around through the day? 

Because Swami Rama says "Intense work is rest".

Resting is not about physically lazing around or hopping on to some exotic place in the name of a break or vacation. No, it is far from it. 

Rest is for the mind. Rest for the emotions. Rest is stilling our inner chatter. And that rest when given, the person gets connected to the 'soul consciousness' and that gives energy worth 'hundreds of elephants'. Then that person can accomplish many things of this World effortlessly and in no time. 

Just look at Lord Buddha, Adi Shankaracharya, Jesus and many such stalwarts. They disappeared from the World for quite some time. 

Lord Buddha went away to meditate for 6 long years to become enlightened. 

Jesus left home around 13-14 years and came back only when he was around 30 years of age.

Everyone goes within and takes so many years to get connected to the soul. Then all the work they did was monumental. Jesus Christ preached for just 3 years and look all around you - that is the impact of work well done! People after 2000 years of his leaving his mortal body are also ready to forgo everything in his name!

Adi Shankaracharya left his body at 33 years of age. And yet, no one could touch anywhere near his body of work to date. 

We can't go to some mountain or forest and lose our 10-20 years of life. But, we all can take 10-15 days of rest - that is, being in complete sadhan for a said period and gain from it - periodically!

So take time to go into intense sadhan from time to time to rejuvenate yourself. Do it to become fresh from within to have a better and fresh perspective. Do this to gain energy to do much work effortlessly!

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rest, being still, awareness, being in the moment, mindfulness, meditation, going within, outer world reflection of inner world, chaos, order, 

also read similar post:   https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2020/08/few-faqs-with-guru_17.html 

Points to ponder:

• When nothing seems to work, take a break!
• When things don't seem to work, take a break!
• Take a break is not about taking a vacation, it is taking break from running around things and how people and things should happen in your life.
• Take a break of running around this World. Take time to visit yourself. Take time to still your mind!