Wednesday, September 2, 2009

bribe...

So, today we wish to deal with the topic ‘bribe’. As already explained ‘bribe’ means ‘gift or consideration of any kind offered to any one to influence his judgement or conduct. It is a type of seduction used to influence a person’s way of working’.

This is practiced in various quarters of our life. Rightly understood, it is practiced by one and all in all walks of life. I’ll give just few examples. Don’t say “I don’t do it” and feel proud about it. This is not it. They should help us to point at all such related issues.

The most common and accepted would be a mother giving ice-cream or toffee in exchange for the food eaten completely or medicine taken or for behaving properly. We are teaching the kids to accept bribe right from the young days and we call it ‘love’. Every time we exchange some thing with the child in exchange for the rank he gets, for his behaviour etc are we not practicing bribing the soft way? We are not ashamed of it! In fact, we share this knowledge with other parents and ask them to follow it too….every person should do his duties on his own and shouldn’t expect any extra rewards for it – even the child for that matter. Because character is set right from then onwards. When we do it, we call it ‘love’ ‘small child no, so it’s ok’ ‘ yeh sab tho karma padtha hai’ and all that. And find fault with others when they do it in grown up situations?

That shows that I have an attitude that says “show me the person and I’ll frame the rule”. Is that right?

The second type come in day-to-day affairs like not wanting to pay fine of say Rs.500/- and bargain for Rs.100-150/- with policemen and get away with it. It is considered savings and good bargaining and even policemen get our swearing. But, more than him, I am responsible for his act. As this could have been totally done away with it by simply following few steps like 1.maintaining/ possessing all the papers required for /during driving 2. following traffic rules honestly and completely 3. by not breaking traffic rules thought it’s easy to follow traffic rules, it seems Herculean task for many to follow and then end up giving bribe and later complain against policemen. This is just one eg. And such related bribe situations can be totally done away with provided I want to.

The next type come under such of category where the person who to get his right is forced to bribe the person who needs to pay him his due. For eg. 1.a pensioner who’s asked by the officer to pay bribe to get his pension 2.medical bills / any bill reimbursed only when the person concerned is bribed. 3. loan/ clearance given only against bribe and all such cases.

Here, all the papers are intact and the person who’s to receive the amount is completely eligible to receive it and yet is forced to cough up some amount to the person concerned to receive the same. Here, it’s the clear case of person not doing his duty or expecting more than his salary just to do his job. This reflects person’s greed, dishonesty and lack of commitment towards his job. Greed, dishonesty and commitment are already dealt with. There is no end to these. At the same time, one can choose to bend to pressure or flow with tide depending upon his internal strength. Azim premji didn’t wish to bribe the official for energy and went to start his own power plant. And don’t say, well, he can afford to. No, he couldn’t afford to then. He didn’t know anything of power or energy then. But, he went on to get it because he WANTED TO.

Now, the question is do all of us, have the strength to lay our own roads to success? If not, why not? Why do we always get away saying “oh, but, it’s not possible for me because of x, y, and z reason?”

Every situation is an opportunity wrapped up as a bitter pill to chart out new routes to success. But, the question is, are we listening?

Every time, the world pushes you on to your knees, you are in perfect position to pray. But, are you happy praying or complaining about the knee pain – that makes all the difference!
The most dangerous type of bribe is yet to be dealt with....but that's for next blog....

3 comments:

padmaja said...

hi,everyone has the potential in them to overcome these type of weaknesses but the main setback is their carelessness.

people know that they deserve to get the things done without bribe but no one just does it the right way.This is only because they dont want to live their lives to the fullest on their own and get struck up with the shackles created by themselves...

Madhuri Veampaty said...

I learnt to stay sharp from July 25th 2009:

wanna know ????

Once upon a time, there was a very strong woodcutter. He asked for a job from a timber merchant, and he got it. The pay was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason, the woodcutter was determined to do his best.

His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work. The first day, the woodcutter brought down 18 trees. The Boss was very much impressed and said, "Congratulations. Go on that way!"

Very motivated by the boss' words, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he only could bring down 15 trees.

The third day he tried even harder, but he only could bring down 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing down less and less trees.

"I must be losing my strength", the woodcutter thought to himself.

He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.

"When was the last time you sharpened your axe?" the boss asked.

"Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees."

Frankly speaking one would never think of sharpening one's own life to see the positive world around us.

We always daunt ourself like the woodcutter thinking that we are losing energy initially and later we see ourself as fault finding people assuming that tough situations are only for us .

In toughest situations we mite loose Self-confidence,curse ourself,God,people around us......what not?

Like the woodcutter even we dont understand what was going on ....We just live with wind and never try to change the direction as list of phobias would fill our mind.....

Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don't take time to sharpen the axe. In today's world, it seems that everyone is busier than ever, but less happy than ever. Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay sharp?

Is it hard to imagine our lives without pains,dsitress,disease,fear??? .......Mite I would have said yes before 25th July2009..... I started sharpening my axe daily..... Oh !!! my patience level and my peace in life is getting closer day by day...what made the difference??? what happened to all the pains????

Sharpening of axe .....whats this ??? Does it remove all my sufferings???Is that power of Healing within a person itself????

Yes - Believe me - Its easier than sharpening of axe...

Only word ,which is Most powerful,Lovable,Grateful - ITS MY DEAREST "REIKI" -made everthing possible for me......World changes for me...Iam seeing my dreams coming true slowly.....Continous practice and Belief in it will show miracles...

Iam sure of this line - " The art of life is the art of avoiding pain.To avoid pains never think of pains"....

So I changed my quote " No pains -No gains" to "Always Reikhi - Always Gains"

I like to say whole hearted thanks to my parents, specially my mother who joined me for Reiki class , Revathi Madam for her wonderful guidance/teaching and every Reikhi channel member....

Together we shall thank all our Reikhi Guru's and Almighty ......

Thank u all

Madhuri....

Anand Sivaraman said...

Madhuri's views have been wonderfully brought out by her. Yes Reiki is definitely the path to betterment of life and to attain Peace in every phase of life. Thank you Reiki....