Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

 

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

“Every death brings some understanding with it. When it comes, it makes me sit up and look at life more closely. Yes, death is one aspect of life that teaches us about ourselves, our values, our belief systems and about life itself! Doesn’t it sound like a paradox? But then, that’s the irony of life and death!!!

Many can’t even can imagine death talking or teaching about life??!! That is because, most of us are taught ‘not to talk about death’. With no talk, we don’t even think about death. Now, more than before we are seeing death visiting our near and dear ones right and left and yet – we push it away or keep it aside. We don’t dare to look at it. We don’t have courage or inquisitiveness to look into its eye and understand it!

From the beginning we are programmed to think of death as ‘something bad, ominous and sinister’.

1.We assume it happens to others and that it won’t happen to us.

2.We assume ‘death’ to be the end of ‘life’.

3.We assume ‘death’ to be the end of ‘life’.

4.We say, feel and think death is opposite of life.

I request all of you to take time to sit and meditate on death. Only a person who meditates on death can live life fearlessly! Only an understanding of death will make it possible for us to embrace life for all it offers.

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-i.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-i_01916792057.html 

On life and death - I

 

***On life and death - I

Let’s say we are to live for 100yrs. You can even believe yourself to live for 400 years and yet with every year passed are we not getting closer to death?

We celebrate reaching 25 years – good! But, it also means we’ve lost1/4^th of our lifespan. And what happened till now? Nothing much! It goes only to playing and growing. Isn’t it same for any age? I am not driving you towards pessimism or depression. Don’t be disheartened. I am just saying we place our happiness on the condition of our perception. And so, we look at every event in life with rosy glasses. Why do we do that?

We do so, so that we can avoid ‘seeing the Truth!’

Now instead we take courage to see the complete picture we understand that it is life! It moves forward. We can’t slow down time or hide from it. But, by participating in life with openness we can live 100yrs in one second.

Jeene waale ek pal mein hazarron saal jee lethe hai,

Warna aksar log hazarron salon mein bhi ek pal jee nahi pathe hai…

जीने वाले एक पल में हज़ारों साल जी लेते हैं ,

वरना अक्सर लोग हज़ारों सालों में भी एक पल जी नहीं पाते है। 

People who live for 1000 years may not end up living even for a moment! And blessed are the souls that live 1000 years in a second!

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# on life and death, celebrating life, understanding death and life, long life, 

*** (This would be a series on life and death where we would directly look into what life and death means to us! the purpose is to learn and appreciate life while becoming ‘free’ of ‘fear of death’. Hope this addresses its agenda the right way and strikes the chord as required!)

also read previous post on similar topic : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Agreed+death+gives+a+heartache+that+no+one+can+repair

Questions to be raised and answers to be sought : 

• Why are we afraid of talking, discussing or expecting death?
• Is death separate from life?
• Are life and death part of each other? If yes, then why do we see them as separate? If no, what role does death has in life?
• What part of death are we afraid of?

Even you may have some questions - long pending...write them down in your journal. Or ask them here....wait for the answers to unfold and be brave to seek them....

let's free ourselves from this fear of death........

any thoughts???

Me, my Guru – on epidemics

Me, my Guru – on epidemics

“Guruji, I am afraid of dying.  I think world is coming to an end. The epidemics are the proof that my fear is true. I don’t want to die. Save me Guruji” enquired Aarthi with her voice shaking.

“Then sit and heal the whole day long” replied our Guru.

That answer sounded like nectar to our fear soaked souls!

“Then I won’t die?” asked Aarthi half relieved.

“If entire world is going to end then what ever you do can’t save you from dying” replied our Guru.

“Then why heal ?” asked someone confused and irritated.

“So that you are peaceful as you die” she replied with a mischievous smile.

                                   

“How can someone smile so casually when and where everyone is afraid of death?” that was the question that many asked that day.

But I knew now. I knew she could because she was free of conditions and expectations that we usually have from life. And as many thought she wasn’t even referring to ‘physical death’ here. Elsewhere she had explained how Parikshit sought Sage Suka’s company when he knew he was cursed to die in just 7 days. He became ‘enlightened’ as he heard ‘Bhagavam’ recitation through his Guru Sage Suka’s mouth. In short fear of physical death wanted him to put his remaining days to good use and lo! He was freed of death once and for all as he attained ‘Moksha’ – free from the cycle of birth and death! 

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# death, life, disease, epidemic, fear of death, freedom, choices, destiny, fate, everything happens for a reason, good or bad is how i see it

read related previous posts  on death : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=death 

Points to understand and look into :

• What is it about death that frightens us? 
• For many life is going from one unfinished job to another. For others it is going from one desire to other. I have only heart complaints about both job and desires fulfilled and unfulfilled. Everyone seems to be in pain all through their life. Either being cheated by others or cheating others and self. If nothing is good about life, why are we holding on to life?
• Why can't we train our energies and intellect in understanding life, living life and making every moment and relationship worth a dime instead of living in fear of death? 

Questions answered :

• What is the better way of handling and using fear of death to living life beautifully and completely?
• What to do in times of fear?
• How to use break down situation and make it break through situation?

Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

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Me, My Guru - On life and death – III!

       

We ought to break our belief system.

Death is not ‘opposite’ of life. It is part and parcel of life. Death is happening to us every waking and sleeping time. We are dying with every breath. People celebrate their birthdays. Have you looked at it a little from distance?” so saying our Guru looked at all of us. We – well, most of us nodded in negative. We didn’t like to talk about death – leave alone meditating on it or thinking about it. 

But our Guru being who she was, would talk on all and sundry subjects. Most of us kept pushing this topic aside since beginning and she kept coming back to it again and again – one way or the other. We didn’t like it. It is not as if she didn’t understand that. And yet, she pushed this topic more number of times than our acceptance level. She was more adamant than us – especially in this one! I got irritated at her for this. Honestly, I was more than angry with her. So were some more!! And I am sure she knew it. And yet it didn’t affect her decision to go ahead with this topic. I mean, who talks or discusses death? 

While I was busy in my head, Rahul’s voice cut through my thoughts saying “but Guruji, how can our looking at death closely help us with our life? We are so afraid of death that all our life we are running away from it. How can you expect us to ‘look at’ death? Can you be more specific?”

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# life and death, living life, make moments count, long life, meaningful life, full of life, life, death, problems and solutions, inevitable and how to face them, suffering is optional, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii_01153322067.html 

and

https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/2021/10/on-life-and-death-ii_01211268438.html 

On post :

** Try to read the sentences marked with 'Red colour' more than once to understand them better.

Meditate on them!

"We ought to break our belief system" - Every understanding happens only when we break our 'OLD" belief system. If we keep saying "I am right, I know I am right" then with that 'adamant mindset' we can not move forward towards better clarity of thought. So we need to look into every belief system - one at a time and try to think on it. Question them. But, we can't look at them objectively until we detach from them. As long as we "OWN UP" our belief systems, we will only end up justifying them. We get angry at people who question us of our belief systems. We tend to get uncomfortable. 

Being uncomfortable is good! That shows where our 'ego' is operating from. It is painful - I agree. It is uncomfortable - I agree. But, if you want to live life fully, we need to these 'uncomfortable parts' of our selves sooner than later!

"We didn’t like to talk about death – leave alone meditating on it or thinking about it." - The issues that disturb us, makes us uncomfortable, pain us we usually push them under the carpet. We don't want to address them. We don't want to see them for they mean or for what they are! 

But, as long as we hush it up, as long as we don't look into our fear into its eyes we can never get released from it. Many times, all we have to do is look at it closely and without any filters to get released from it. 

Courage - that is the most important attitude that helps us overcome our fears. Use it. You have it. Put it to good use and become free from fears!

"But our Guru being who she was, would talk on all and sundry subjects." - Look at the words "Guru being who she was..." - now here is a person who is fearless to talk about death and we don't see her fearlessness. We don't see her as a person who has worked on her fear and overcome it. We don't see her as a person who is patiently trying to help us overcome our fear. 

Instead we 'name' her as 'being who she was' and call her names. We insult her. 

This is not about Guru of this story. This is about every person who is strong, capable, helpful, courageous - be it Rama, Krishna, Buddha, Gandhi or our every day heroes from our life - we just insult their 'strength of their character' by calling them names. Who is at loss here? We at the end. We lose one more chance to benefit from the presence and words of these 'characters' in our life. And then we keep complaining, crying and cursing God and who not for not listening to our prayers etc etc.....

think about it....

"We didn’t like it. / I got irritated at her for this. Honestly, I was more than angry with her." - Look at these sentences. They all say one thing for sure - that if someone says anything contrary to our 'belief system or comfort levels' then we get angry at them. We like people only as long as they try to please us. But the real people are those who do 'right things' for you. The genuine people say 'right things' that are good for you. They are actually being truthful to you and yet....

no, doubt, we end up being with people who exploit us, demean us, use and abuse us....and later cry out loud asking "Why are people not truthful and honest? Why is everyone cheating?"

You get what you want.....you get what you work for....

so beware.....

"Rahul’s voice cut through my thoughts saying" - and in the same world we also have people like Rahul taking every opportunity given to him. He is open to every help that comes his way. This journey is painful to him too. This journey is uncomfortable to him too. But he LOVES HIMSELF too much to live in the shit of "bad choices". He is SELFISH enough to be good to himself and work for his higher good. He is ready to undergo pain to reach a state of higher peace, understanding, happiness and respect.

On life and death – II

 

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On life and death – II

For many just existing is enough – even it be as an invalid. If that is the choice or way of living, then that and such person need not worry on all these levels.

But if life means to be happy and happiness means sharing with near and dear ones, then I request those to check these facts making a wish of long life.

But then, is life and death in our hands? What if all around me die and I still continue to survive?

Life and death is certainly not in our hands. But, having clarity of thought on these is certainly in our hands**. What can’t be controlled need not be worried about. But our perspective on these things is certainly in our hands and we need to groom them right – when our sense are still intact. Now, we have each other to remind, support and encourage working on ourselves. Let’s make best use of this support system. God forbid, but if such time comes when we are left alone behind by all known to us, then let us be mentally, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually prepared to enjoy ‘our lone life too’ – which life has given as bonus to us. instead of being a ‘complaining, bitter old person always talking about those times’ let’s make new and fresh memories even then with our attitude.

Let’s learn to dance with life!

Let’s live life!

So, when death comes knocking it should look at us and ask us “Teach me to live!”

Let’s give something to death - of life!

Maut ko zindagi diye chalthe hai…

मौत को ज़िन्दगी दिए चलते हैं। .. 

Chavuki kooda jeevithanni eddam pada…

చావుకి కూడా జీవితాన్ని ఇద్దాం పదా ....

Concluded......

** We can’t control life and death

# on dying, life and death, death and its mysteries, knowing death, facts of life, art of living and dying, 

(This would be a series on life and death where we would directly look into what life and death means to us! the purpose is to learn and appreciate life while becoming ‘free’ of ‘fear of death’. Hope this addresses its agenda the right way and strikes the chord as required!)

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=Narada+and+Narayana 

The above link clearly explains how our understanding changes when we look at an event from beyond our sense of 'seeing'. When we actually see beyond our 'time limit zone' we can see how things are right the way they are! Hope it is clear? 

Self help time : 

What does the blue marked lines in post mean to you? How have you understood them?

Help me to help you better by answering and giving feedbacks on these posts....

On life and death - I

 

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On life and death - I

Jeene waale ek pal mein hazarron saal jee lethe hai,

Warna aksar log hazarron salon mein bhi ek pal jee nahi pathe hai…

People who live for 1000 years may not end up living even for a moment! And blessed are the souls that live 1000years in a second!

And this ‘blessedness’ is not a gift you receive from someone. It is based solely on your perspective.

And that ‘right perspective’ and ‘attitude’ that lets you live 1000 years in one second comes only when you accept death as an integral part of life. We ought to befriend death – not be afraid of it. We should be able to look into its eyes to overcome fear of death. Then comes the desire so strong to live and celebrate life that we are ready to die to live! Then you’ve learnt to live. That is when you actually start to live. Till then we are dying every second from fear of death.

Ab hum zindagi se nazar churaathe hai aur maut ko peet dikhathe hai – donon galat hai…zindagi ko lapak ke pakado, uske har mauke ko le lo. Chalo zindagi se nazar milaana seekhe aur maut ko gale laganaa….

अब हम ज़िन्दगी से नज़र चुराते है और मौत को पीट दिखाते हैं - दोनों गलत हैं। ..ज़िन्दगी को लपक के पकड़ोउसके हर मौके को ले लो। चलो ज़िन्दगी से नज़र मिलाना सीखे और मौत को गले लगाना।  

Now we run away from life and hide from death. Both absolutely wrong! Don’t let life get away! Don’t let it slip away! When life gives you an opportunity grab it with both your hands. Don’t pass it off! Take every chance that life gives you. Let’s learn to look into eyes of life and embrace death!

Let’s learn the ‘art of dying to celebrate life’!

Concluded....

# on life and death, celebrating life, understanding death and life, long life, 

also read previous post on death : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=no+one%27s+got+a+stay+on+death 

Questions time :

What did we learn from this post?

Did it address any of your questions / doubts?

Any experience/s to go with this post???

on death!

On Death!

Life is a beautiful lie and death a painful Truth....

yet we seem to love the lie and are blind to Truth...

Agreed death gives a heartache that no one can repair

But love leaves behind a memory that no one can steal..

Then how come we don’t live to create beautiful memories to leave behind?

What’s the fun of living long yet mean nothing to anyone when we are gone?

We can live in someone’s memories – forever….

If only we work on the moments spent…

Death doesn’t steal us from our loved ones

It’s our ego that kills our love and self respect and that’s when we die…

Death is an end and is for certain

It’ll come when it comes

But the question is ‘what are you doing with life?’

If all you are doing is dying every day, then it doesn’t matter when it comes…

Death just means we are saying ‘goodbye’ that means ‘will miss you till we meet again’

Death should be something beautiful

For I haven’t seen anyone come back from it complaining….

***  

related posts : on death https://kantipadam.blogspot.in/search?q=the+story+of+dragonfly

On life and death – II

 

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On life and death – II

And yet all through our lives, are we not working very hard to build our ‘good image’. And in that process we end up lying so much. There is so much that goes into that ‘image building’. There is manipulation, hiding facts, talking ill of others or judging others and what not! And yet that ‘image’ hardly is kept alive at the time of death. Most of the people to whom we sold our image are no more there! What an irony! All for nothing!

With no one to share my memories with, stories with, I doubt if I would spend my days well!?

The people I shared my life and its experiences with are no more there. The bond that’s built over these experiences is no more and at this juncture of life to make new such bonds us but farfetched possibility. Would my living be equally colourful?

So, think about these and such facts before wishing for long life….

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# on dying, life and death, death and its mysteries, knowing death, facts of life, art of living and dying, 

also read suggested : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=the+story+of+dragonfly 

read the above link to understand what death is ....read it right to understand about death.......

Question time :

Why should we study and understand death?

Is it being pessimistic about life?

Soul connect!

Soul connect

For those of you who have lost someone to death – when I mean lost I mean those who are missing the person gone… Who were affectionate with the person gone…who wish the other person be with them NOW too….

Be it any day – their birthday, death day, some festival that brings their memory to the front or any other day when you miss them and want to be with them or do something for them…….

You can do two things –

a.     Do charity in their name. Give out food, clothing, educational needs of someone can be fulfilled….the sky is the limit in this area….

b.    Do ‘soul healing’ as taught in II dg…(don’t say ‘maam, how?’ forgot since not doing since ages…). Take out II dg notes (search if can’t remember where it is) and do it atleast for 15mts for the person you want….

IMP: Those who are glad their family member passed away, don't do charity in their name to "SHOW " to people around you.......

Stop pretending....it's ok not to feel bad or lose of that person you didn't like....

but, the 'karma' you generate by way of this 'acting good person' would cost you  heavily......I repeat - STOP pretending and acting "the loss"....you are also insulting the pain of the person who genuinely misses his love of life.....

concluded....

also reads : https://kantipadam.blogspot.com/search?q=genuine 

Sit to ponder : 

a. We are bearing consequences of our karma. This is a known fact. And it is painful to be where we are and what we are bearing....then shouldn't we be more conscious of what we think, how we act and what we feel viz is the way we generate our 'future karma'? Because again it would be "us" who would be reaping the 'fruits of' our such karmas?

a. Are we hear to please and fool people in our lives to think that we are good people?

b. Would we not have to heal less if our intentions and acts match with each other?

c. While we are fooling others, are we not fooling ourselves too?

d. Can we cheat Universe and God with this acting?

# soul healing, death, near and dear ones, karmas, love beyond death....